Multiple girls and disrespecting ,dafuq
So this one girl that I've been baging these last two weeks, well she is fucking crazy into me.
I'm out of town for a few weeks and she wants to make sure I'm not going to be banging other girls.
I pretty much told her that the way she brought this up was wrong. She's basically trying to control me and is giving me an ultimatum which is fucked up. And that even if I have no intention to sleep with any girls, it would be wrong for me to agree to this within the context of the relationship. I will not set that precedent.
She didn't get it, she didn't understand the big deal, she just wanted to know that she won't get disrespected because it would suck to her if I was seeing other girls.
I told her if you really liked me, you wouldn't be trying to control, lock down and possess me. And that your self image, a fiction ego generated identity you have given yourself is worried about your perception. There is no you to be disrespected. Ultimately what matters is the moments we share together becuase that's all we ever have. Would you rather us be together becuase that's what we want more than anything in the world. Would you rather us be only with eachother because there's no desire? Then why do we have to agree to some stupid society generated bs.
If this is too much for you to handle then I will accept that and If I'm causing you more pain than pleasure then you should leave. We don't have to do this. But know that I don't want us to be over.
FUCKKK
This girls is so fucking obtuse and drilled into her reality I just had enough and told her that it's over and I'm hanging up. So we're done! Fucking mind identified chicks trying to pin us down! Thinking they actually like us when they just want us to cover up their own deep seated inadquecy.
When I've explained my views on relationships I make it more about how it's a positive for both of us and the relationship. That needs to be stressed if you're gonna tell her directly. Ie "relationships are better when they're not based on jealousy and control" "we're the next step in evolution baby" "We'll be both be far more attractive to eachother if we're free and there's trust rather than commitment".
I've only done this with a couple girls verbally though, usually they just follow my lead and it doesn't need to be said
You're still getting dragged into these logical conversations. You want to practice ways of ejecting and misdirecting out of those. "You don't make the rules" or "I already told you I'm not ready for that" I like "I'm not into expectations or attachments, i prefer intentions" (If she asks about your intentions you can then lead the convo whereever you want ie. "I intent to live my life in the moment.. making the best out of my time with you" etc.) Or whatever feels congruent for you. Then change the subject playfully or if she insists on pursuing it just end the convo and freeze her out for awhile. It sounds like you lost your cool a bit ie. "it's over". Not a good look.
Smh.
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