MW & Players : Tough Question Dealing WIth Bosses feedback appreciated...
Fri, 03/22/2013 - 09:32
since the beginning of this year when i started listengin to MW's podcasts and reports I've become assertive in all my interactions with people, i have become greatly assertive in setting my boundaries with people i date, with my family , and those who i do business with. At first I had to make a conscious effort to do it, and I almost never failed to do it even the smallest slips. I could feel the change it had made for me internally which women felt as a byproduct.
however, there is this one situation that geniune irked me last week, was we has this small time failure at work , i work in a investment bank,.. so the big boss starts going on a some sort of barage in front of the rest of the team during the team meeting.., i couldn't give a fuck about a) working there and b) about what the team thinks...because i know i am doing a good job, and the entire reason they have that product is because "I built it".
the problem is i realized was what irked me was that i didn't say or stand up for myself. i kinda just bite my tongue and hide my ego and let him barage me. i mean i geniunely did make a small time mistake and I was like "yea I made a mistake, sorry, were working to fix it"..
what i wanted to say but i didn't kept inside was .' the last few minutes of this meeting have no purpose to what were talking about. we have a production problem , there was a mistake and were working to fix it' but.."listen i didn't sign up for this barage in front of my team members, if you have beef with me we can discuss this offline, but if you continue to disrapage me in front of my team i am going to walk out of this meeting right now.'
I honestly dont give a fuck if i lose the job or they fire me, what hurt me more was me not "standing" up for myself at that moment. I kept the job..I could always get another job, but i can't always get back my self esteem. honestly I think I kept kinda quite is because I just wanted to keep my job til another week or so because I get my bonus but now i realize it wasn't worth it because i didn't stand in those key moments lol
ANy advice? What would you have done ? What to do now ?
however, there is this one situation that geniune irked me last week, was we has this small time failure at work , i work in a investment bank,.. so the big boss starts going on a some sort of barage in front of the rest of the team during the team meeting.., i couldn't give a fuck about a) working there and b) about what the team thinks...because i know i am doing a good job, and the entire reason they have that product is because "I built it".
the problem is i realized was what irked me was that i didn't say or stand up for myself. i kinda just bite my tongue and hide my ego and let him barage me. i mean i geniunely did make a small time mistake and I was like "yea I made a mistake, sorry, were working to fix it"..
what i wanted to say but i didn't kept inside was .' the last few minutes of this meeting have no purpose to what were talking about. we have a production problem , there was a mistake and were working to fix it' but.."listen i didn't sign up for this barage in front of my team members, if you have beef with me we can discuss this offline, but if you continue to disrapage me in front of my team i am going to walk out of this meeting right now.'
I honestly dont give a fuck if i lose the job or they fire me, what hurt me more was me not "standing" up for myself at that moment. I kept the job..I could always get another job, but i can't always get back my self esteem. honestly I think I kept kinda quite is because I just wanted to keep my job til another week or so because I get my bonus but now i realize it wasn't worth it because i didn't stand in those key moments lol
ANy advice? What would you have done ? What to do now ?