My field reports.
my name is Madmen (Stachatostyle sucks as a name but I dont know how to change it), 2 years in the game, RSD Bootcamp with julien, Skype coaching with MW which I started 3 month ago. It's going good. Lots of positive changes in the last months, I'm growing again.
I have good and bad news.
I nearly had a Threesome.
I nearly had a Threesome.
But I dont want to bitch about it, I'm happy with my performance and with what happened. It is a good reference experience and next time I'll do it better.
As I know that there are many advanced guys in here, please let me know your suggestions and how I could have managed it better! Thanks guys!
So it’s about 3:45pm, last sets in the streets. Right beforehand, I did a little break in the club and nearly fell asleep, but fuck it, I continued. So I approach that girl, like she’s hot and naughty, so the whole street kind of approaches her, and she likes it but just goes her way.
I approach as well and somehow it sticks.
My wing get on her friend, and we go to the taxi lane, where they want to get an ueber.
I didn’t know if my wing was leading or if we were just following them somewhere.
So it takes 2 min and she is like:’so you are german. I love it!’. She tells me I’m hot, and I jump on that.
Last time, I dismissed it with a girl. She was like:' I want to lick the sweat of your body'. And I was like a bitch, like:’oh no, that’s too fast’, kind of a push. But that’s gay. So I begin dirty talking to her. Being very physical.
She wants me to dirty talk in german to her, I do, we stop where the ueber is coming at and my wing ejected himself from the set. Her friend was a girl with a strong character hey, my mate was just not on her level. So her friend is waiting, and we begin making out and I talk dirty in german with her.
It takes like 4-5 min till the ueber comes, we are about 15 min in the interaction.
She is like:’I want you to talk dirty to me when we’ll be fucking.’ But she means that as fucking in the future, not now. I take her number, and when the ueber comes, I just ask where they are going – west end – cool! Can you leave me at coles there? ( big supermarket ) – yes.
Don’t know shit where west end is lol. But I go in.
Turn out they know themselves since school, but met a month ago and moved in together.
They tell me they like to cuddle in the morning, so I’m like:’well I want to be in the middle of that. You could be useful blankets.’ – ‘Hihi’ – ‘ But what if I sweat too much. What will you do with all the fluid?’ – ‘I’ll like it off’ – ‘You know I really sweat a lot in some places’ – I’ll lick it all of’.
Fuck hey, and that in the uber. No shame haha.
So that s just one part of the dirty talk, probably the smoothest. I begin fingering my girl, she has got no panties. She tells me they both got none.
Probably the weirdest ueber drive for that dude ever haha. But he doesn’t say a word.
I finger her, put her friends hand on her vagina and tell her to ‘do the drill’. Hmm, that was bad. She asks which drill and I m not explicitely saying that she should finger her.
Fuck it was a high pressure moment.
During the taxi ride, it gets clear that I talked bullshit, and just wanted to come to their house, and they are all right with it. Her friend is like:’I don’t want to cockblock you. I’ll just let you guys fuck.’ It goes up and down (meaning they sometimes want to let me out before), but I get the authority to drive till their address.
The problem is, that her friend doesn’t want to fuck or doesn’t want to stay awkwardly watching us fuck. So I tell her we can invite her, my girl being the more important one. Read that in a manwhore report once. That you have a main girl in the threesome, and you have the other one as a guest, so that your main girl is cool with it.
But I fail to see that that other girl isn’t really on, or better said, I don’t have the authority to get her in. Dudes, I was rather relaxed for that kind of situation but stil, my voice was weak hey. Too much going on. I feel like some more assertive and authoritative dues would have gotten her to join.
And then right in front of her house, the friend is like:’hey seriously, I’ll feel just awkward seeing you fuck for 20 min, I don’t really want that’ and my girl backs her up, she doesn’t want to be a bitch to her girlfriend/friend.
So she tells me to go.
I tel the friend that I'll tell her goodbye in private. The friend goes into the appartment.
I get a bit needy, finger her, tell her to blow me, she wont. I’m trying too much, finger her again, making a sex picture of her. It hurts to let it go.
So she had my dick in her hand, hard fingering on her terrace, but none more.
She asks me if I fuck a lot of girls. I have a kind of bad awnser, because Im like:’probably not like you think it is’, which basically means I don’t fuck so much and which in unattractive.
She asks me what that means. I tell her we’ll have plenty of time to get to know each other in a week, which is true. Rather smooth.
I walk home and masturbate on porn like a chode. Shit hey.
All in all not bad, could have been more expressive and more authoritative in the taxi, but still, It’s new situations I was never in before, so I’m proud of myself.
Only thing that sucks is the porn watching afterwards. I have to control myself, that’s what men do!
What do you guys think? How could I have handled the situation better?
Thanks for your advice in advance guys!
How should I proceed with the texting as well? I want to stay on that very sexual vibe, send her some cool pictures of my trail tomorrow, maybe a skydiving picture of me, and ask her if she has got panties on right now/ today.
So keeping it sexual but still ‘nice’.
well seriously fuck you manwhore, didn't deserve that on this one. That's not what I call a friend.
Yeah I tried to come in, got a rock solid no. Getting back to another place would not have been an option, she had to leave to a cruise in 5h, so actually she wouldn't have gone with me. I think she wanted a relaxing night before going on that cruise with her family. Her friend didn't seem especially down, allthough it's all a matter of game. With more expressivness she would have. I also tried to get inside the appartment (just kind of storming in a fun way), but here also, rock solid no.
Lol man I was just motivating you in the proper direction.
We trained on this sort of situation. Not this specific situation, but the emotional play behind it. Think about it from that perspective.
Lol. Yeah I know, and I know where I fucked up. But I really tried my best in that situation!
Let's say I do appreciate being called a pussy when I deserve it, but in that case, I really tried my best hey. It's just hard to get over these blockages that hinder you to be eslf-expressive to the max.
All in all it's going well though! Started training again and I'm killing it, Every night out is an adventure and I had some toilet pulls and a fling with a cool brazilian chick. I feel like I'm maturing so that's cool!
'k you're missing the main point I was making. You didn't put in enough effort in the right areas
I actually thought the Yoda video was inspiring
Yes that was his main learning point to make. *ignored*
oh shit? didnt take that video seriously first.
Do you mean I should scrap those limiting beliefs about me having a 'limit' to expressivness?
Luke - I can't believe it.
Yoda - That's why you fail!
that would make a lot of sense haha.
if that's right I totally overreacted hey, sorry...
Naw was referring to the size of the rock versus the size of the X-Wing. That was the learning point
thought that video was mocking me hey -.-
Do you fuck a lot of girls? 'Countless.' - Jeffy
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100% belief - Natural Tim
In the beginning of the night, I had crazy aggressive and uncalibrated game, didn't give a fuck about anything at all. In the first hour, I pretty much had 3 instant make outs but one dude told me he is going to crush my skull and another one wanted to stab me #greatnight.
So that got me into my head a bit. Before leaving, my friend told me I should apologize to that one girl and to the dude who wanted to stab me.
It was hard to do, like really fucking hard but I did it. While I approached the dude, his eyes and energy changed automatically. Good dude. He said it was really really cool from my part. I said I did it because my friend told me to, and he gave me a little slap. I deserved it lol. I asked him if he had ever knifed someone, he told me no, but his mom called the police on him on christmas and took away all his gifts without a reason. So he is fucking angry he told me.
And then I realized we are all in the same fucking boat boys. He fights his own fights and I fight mine. I come from an overly academic and booring family and he might come from a fucked up bogan overemotional family. All in the same boat. And we bonded on that, became friends. I regret it that I didnt take his facebook or something, really could have learned something of him and he from me. Two different poles. duuh...
I got the number from the girl I harrassed and that this dude tried to defend, but that's just a side note to that more human and epic story.
We are going to Oh hello. After some resting i begin to aggressivley open again, in a more calibrated way though. I talk to this girl and we vibe well. She is a serious 10. On an estethic scale. Fake boobs, everyone of her facebook pictures has 300+ likes lol. We vibe, she finds my accent cute, she tells me she wants to record it and I say no, it's personal, I'm not a zoo animal. She begins qualifying herself like supercute:'no but we dont think you are a zooanimal, we think it's super cute'. Super cute. She asks for my facebook and I give it to her. Her male friend snaps and kind of snaps my shirt telling 'oh there is something weird there'. I could tell he was pissed hey. I look at him but dont say anything. We are moving. Since I was in a 'apologizing mode' I asked the dude if everything was all right. He tells me she got a boyfriend. Hmm...thought something similar. I tell ok and I leave. I look her facebook profile up and no trace of that, durr got tricked. I go back in again but the momentum is lost. I looked back today and she has got one lol. But its pretty much hidden in her profile somewhere.
So afterwards I talk to these two girls. We are vibing and I see that the one I was going for isn't good for me. No chemistry. The other one though gives me a load of shit, disqualifies me but at the same time looks me very deep in the eye while talking. I know what is happening. I'm not reactive, or not too much at least. I feel my body and the flow of emotions in there. I'm present and I love the challenging way she looks at me. Great moments.
Some dude comes in and grabs the girl. Here I get reactive. All the situation seems to be against me because the girl doesnt give me one look of compliance and she will surely not help me here, the dude says I embarass myself and I'm like 'durr'. And I fucking fail haha. I should have said with strength and conviction: 'Dude, I know a lot about humans and there is something going on here. It doesnt look like it, but it is. I'm not embarassing myself at all, trust me on that.' Bascially telling my toughts like I'm telling them to you now. But with conviction and energy.
That's what 'game' is all about. And power as well. If you can do that, you will be a powerful and influential human being. Tell your thoughts clearly, decisivly and with energy. That's enough.
Thing is my brain melts in pressure situations and I'm a fucking kiddo, so I kind of freak out and leave them.
In the club, that girl even looks at me. Fuck hey. She was a solid 9/10 by the way. So I approach her again, apologize If i'm too aggressive and tell her what I think.'look we are really different, and if we meet, I dont know what is going to get out of it, but there is something positive and beneficial that will come out of it. Just saying. It's not even an offer'. My assertivness and authority has it's limits lol, I dont even ask for her number and bail out as her distressed friend comes back. Fucking chode behaviour. At some point my brain just switches and is like:'better be nice and gentleman like and loose your frame and authority'. Ah maan...'sigh'. She bailed out afterwards. Would have been so interesting. It was good I apologized though. It was rightly said.
That's one of my big sticking points. The right thing to say, the good thoughts just comes to me 10 min after the interaction. My brain freezes in the moment. It's hard. I guess everyone is like that. The thing is my thoughts are good, I usually have very precise thoughts about reality. But alone at home lol. Tell me to express them and bam, it's hard. It's just hard, but that's what we are here for. Bang your head against the wall till it works out!.
I'm pretty negative about myself here and I really beat myself down. I have to credit myself for being aggressive and authoritative with my own emotions. I could easily have pussied out an gone home but I catched myself and did some tough approaches. It led to a very awesome night. Thank you to Arun for leading me and advising me in this wonderful adventure. I probably would have bailed out without him.
---> dont ask for permission. If it works, it works. I it doesnt, you'll find out. So dont ask people if she has got a boyfriend. Work with that pressure.
---> react quicklier if some dude tries to take your frame. Do something about it. Grab his shirt whatever, but be faster. Or take your time and be very assertive about your thoughts.
---> apologize in the right moment. It's hard, I dont want to do it but do it.