My Text Game is Weak Sauce - Help a brother out
Usually post my FR's on RSDnation under the username OOzz. Seriously need some help with my text game. I close roughly 3-6 girls a week and get repsonses from probably 70-80%, but end up losing most of them because I suck ass at texting. Hoping to keep a log here and possibly get some feedback. Any help is much apprciated.
Night of close (8/11)
Me: -OOzz (1:18AM)
Me: It was super nice meeting you
Me: #atown #persian
Run into her at some other club. She's with some chode, but she is on it. Drunk dials me like 3 times at like 1:57AM and 1:58AM.
Me: Afterparty @midtown (3:09AM)
Me: Come partyyyyyyy
No Response
Next Morning (8/11)
Me: Hey, how was last night? (1:24PM)
Me: It's gonna be really hard to rraise our kids if you don't text back (4:22PM)
Her: Hahahaha sorry I was at the gym (5:05PM)
Me: Haha, same, just leaving lifetime ((5:44PM)
Me: How was the bday party last night
Her: It was crazy. We neded up in DC also (6:24PM)
Her: We got soo drunk
Me: Haha, damn (10:16PM)
Me: And you only drunk dialed me like 3x
Me: Do you usually go that hard?
Her: No not all! I actually never drink that much (8:44PM)
Her: And I don't remember calling you lol
Her: Did I actually talk to you?
Me: No, you didn't talk (9:27PM)
Me: But, you sang your ass off
Me: "Baby your a firework..."
Me: It was really cute... lol
Her: No way (9:46PM)
Her: I did not
Me: Haha, no you did not =\ (10:01PM)
Me: But I was hoping you would
Me: Have you been to atown b4?
Her: I been there before but it was during the day for brunch
I usually don't text girls past 10PM, and withhold texts to the next day. I find this helps keep the conversation/rapport going for longer because I can pick up where we left off from the previous night, but then again my text game is weak, so I'm open to feedback. I really think i shoulda have just kept texting.
Next Day (8/12)
Me: Yeah, its fun spot for brunch (1:05PM)
Me: Are you doing anything this week?
No response all day
Me: Well.. that sounds sexy (7:59PM)
Me: And exciting
I pretty much sent that last line like 30 minutes ago and still no response. I do feel as though I shoulda went more normal conversation this afternoon before going straight into the meet-up request. I plan on textin Wed. with some call-back humor. Also, I felt as though I should have kept the conversation goin last night and pushed for a meet-up while I had "texting momentum."
how do you guys feel about "texting momentum," i.e. pushing for the meet-up when there is a lot of back-and-forth in a short time period as opposed to playing it out longer? (Maybe I am overthinking)
Thanks,
-OOzz
Too logical, not emotional enough all the way throughout the conversation.
Also, I find that if a girl is super wasted the night before to just avoid bringing it up all together. It triggers some mechanism in their brain that makes them feel bad for their behavior because they usually can't remember what they did or said but some random dude now has their number. Maybe try incorporating in how drunk YOU were next time, so the girl can relate to that.
Another thing, text convos are either cold, warm, or hot in my mind as far as time in between responses. When I get into a good flow of back and forth with a girl and the texts get "hot" I keep texting back because she's invested enough in the conversation. This whole "don't text back after 10 pm" rule is fucking retarded and made the thread go cold. It's like you're setting the meetup and then all of a sudden you just back out. It doesn't make you look cool or busy. It's just weird and asinine.
Too logical, not emotional enough all the way throughout the conversation.Also, I find that if a girl is super wasted the night before to just avoid bringing it up all together. It triggers some mechanism in their brain that makes them feel bad for their behavior because they usually can't remember what they did or said but some random dude now has their number. Maybe try incorporating in how drunk YOU were next time, so the girl can relate to that.
Damn, you think it was too logical all the way through? Honestly, I felt like I was coming off too clownish with the whole singing bit, but I'm here to learn so I'll take your word for it.
The drunk thing I feel you on, that was noobie ass mistake.
Another thing, text convos are either cold, warm, or hot in my mind as far as time in between responses. When I get into a good flow of back and forth with a girl and the texts get "hot" I keep texting back because she's invested enough in the conversation. This whole "don't text back after 10 pm" rule is fucking retarded and made the thread go cold. It's like you're setting the meetup and then all of a sudden you just back out. It doesn't make you look cool or busy. It's just weird and asinine.
Note take, thanks for the feedback, as straightforward as it was. Thanks for the quick feedback.
Yeah you should have kept the flow or ended the convo. Ten oclock thing is bullshit, and I do hate the last two texts you sent her... maybe call like you said. I'm interested to see if she responds through text. If not hopefully you can save it with a funny pick up text later.
Yeah you should have kept the flow or ended the convo. Ten oclock thing is bullshit, and I do hate the last two texts you sent her... maybe call like you said. I'm interested to see if she responds through text. If not hopefully you can save it with a funny pick up text later.
Yeah, those last two texts were lame as shit.... I was kicking myself after sending it. Thanks for the feedback tho.
You'll get better. Just apply everything you learn here.
Get as many numbers and post a lot of convos up. This way, we can guide you through conversations so you can see what and why things work.
You will find what works. Every girl is different the first few texts provide alot of insight on how to react. Might be virtually impossible to get this text game perfect...but we all carry on ;)
Your initial text is weak as shit and takes away all the tension. She doesn't respond you keep texting and texting = low value.
That re-engagement text about raising the kids is actually really good. I might use that myself. But you did nothing with it. I mean I don't know what to say, you're just asking lame questions and come off like a chode in that convo. You're taking value not giving value. And You're not moving things forward in terms of setting a date up or anything.
Next time hit her up with something funny or something that sparks her attraction at least. You're persian right?
Try something like "Hey beb Aladin here. Was just cruising around with my pimped out flying carpet. You gotta check the rims on that baby" I mean just make shit up.