Navigating the environment of today
Hello everybody. I’d like to ask your advice on a situation I’m not too familiar with. I was trying to make new friends, well, I was online, on one of these new Video chat room websites that got started recently in light of the virus situation. A place where you can meet new people. Well, thus far I’ve met a lot of wonderful people from all over the world, got a lot of jaw exercise, improved my communication skills slightly.
But there’s a little problem. I think you guys may have heard of this problem before. A lot of youth today, both black and white seem to be very zombified into the modern-day Jacobin movement. This not good, particularly because these people often have little control over their emotions/over themselves.
Well I was meeting some nice (at first) young people from the African-American community. Several girls ages 18-20. We had a nice conversation at first, and they were fairly interested in me, thought I was fine and asked me if I was a male model, but then all of a sudden one of them asked me if I was "racist" right out of the blue. First time I ever got asked this question! But I answered honestly, I said "I don't know, because only God can judge." And I don't know about you, but that's really how I feel. Only God can judge if someone's evil or good, racist or not racist, sexist or not sexist, etc.
That apparently wasn't good enough of an answer for them, and I was subsequently screamed at & threatened with physical violence. Good thing it was not in real life. Otherwise it would have gotten ugly. In the Yankee North, where I live, this stuff seems to be particularly prevalent. Everybody’s some sort of wannabe activist nowadays. Now I’m not squeamish about self-defense but the authorities probably wouldn’t have my back in an incident like that, to say the least.
Now I wanted to ask you guys, how do you personally navigate through social situations in this degenerate new version of America? I mean, there’s got to be cool guys, hip guys like Manwhore for instance who are out there in clubs, bars, parks, et cetera doing their thing, making new friends and expanding their social circle. I've got to find the strategy for avoiding these types of people or at least making sure I don’t get assaulted by them mid-conversation. I would just like to know what that strategy is. Perhaps there’s a way of screening the people I meet & excluding the ones with Jacobin beliefs? I'm confused.
Well I think there's a subtle play in your thread to make the idea of if you're racist or not, something you can separate from the individual. Like trying to turn a twisted idea of religion back on the individual in some bizarre socialist fashion. Yes, you can tell them if you're racist or not. Stick up for yourself. Honestly people should be past this phase of outward social aggression by middle school, but some aren't. It's not conductive to anything useful. And they're only knocking their own brand. I guess you're going to have to figure out what kind of people they are and either avoid them or figure out a way of handling that situation better.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I had two "race" situations last year when I was gracefully strutting the lobbies of Cosmo and Encore respectively. While it wasn't a direct ask like your situation I think you can glean something from it:
I was chatting up this 6'2 black chick when she dropped a comment saying I was "light skinned" so I couldn't understand her racial problems, hence, we weren't on the same team. I was immediately turned off because of the severe delusion she lives in that she calls life as well as her attempt to project that on to me. I'm also very ethnic. Black hair, tan, strong features. Sexy. No one has ever called me "light skinned" before. I don't follow the 'identity politics' that's currently trendy in modern society but you can see it permeate on all levels and how destructive it is to any meaningful interactions between people. So when I see that in a person, it's 3 strikes, especially in the manner she said it. MW said it really well, "outward social aggression". Bottom line its childish dysfunction.
Another situation with this damn fine blonde chick, about 5'4, tight, just how I like it. Total babe. She's with her semi-cute aggressive looking brunette friend, pasty as hell. I roll up to the side, say some ninja shit, she laughs and is making eye contact with me as we walk now. Then I may or may not have made a comment about all the escorts I was talking to being black lol. Not my defining moment but hey, she still laughed. Sometimes you're free-flowing and you end up saying what's on your mind. She clearly knew I was kidding, and remained engaged with me nonetheless. Take one good look at me and you can't pin me as a racist. However, that was enough "bait" for her social justice amazonian friend to latch on to and start calling me racist and yank her friend away from me.
Point is, don't let someone define you and project their shit onto you. Stand your ground. Recognize the dysfunction for what it is. In the first scenario, I properly owned that girl. In the second scenario, I recognized my hand in the situation and eased up. Now I still could've and should've defended myself and shaped the situation regardless because the girl clearly liked me and recognized I wasn't serious, but hey, Vegas baby ;)
Yep not a shining moment lol. ^ I've heard that comment sprinkled here 'n there from guys across the years and I'll be like.. you should probably keep that comment to yourself. LOL. And this was pre anything going on right now.
For one thing there are plenty of black girls running Vegas around that aren't pros. I slept with some STUNNING black women in Vegas. Like absolutely mouth-watering. And absolutely not in that line of work. Second.. you can tell pretty quick if a girl's "working". And no they aren't all black women. And lastly, you can be cooler with that sort of thing going on than casually handing out snark remarks to randoms in the street about it. There's a real line when it comes to these things. Know where it is
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Oh I agree. We pulled a few beautiful black women when I was there and it was something I recognized very quickly. Never a judgement call on them or the industry, but more of a talking out loud moment where you go "Oops" afterwards. Being new to the city, girls in that line of work were completely new to me and it took a minute (only a minute), to figure out what was what.
Ok. Thanks for the suggestions. I will stand my ground. If someone asks me another presumptuous question again, I will simply tell them “Go jump off a fucking skyscraper.” And if they lay their hands on me, they’ll have to talk to Mr. Glock 23.
That good? Let me know please.
No that was definitely not the prescribed course of action. You a troll?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
No that was definitely not the prescribed course of action. You a troll?
No, I'm not. I'm sorry if I came off like that. Please tell me, what does standing up really look like? I'm sorry, I'm very inexperienced in dealing with aggressive people. You told me to figure out a way to handle the situation better. I am terrible at handling conflicts with other people. I don't grasp what "sticking up for myself" should be like.
To Caliph, If you don't mind, please tell me how did you "properly own" that first girl, precisely? And how would you have defended yourself and turned the tables in the second situation? Thanks for the advice