Need Some Help with This One
Background:
Girl I met a few months ago. She's 12 yrs younger than me. I gave her my business card when we met, but she was cold and aloof so I didn't bother with her number. A few weeks ago we started bumping into each other because we work next door. She was progressively warmer each time we bumped into each other, but I was in a hurry and ended the interaction. Just over a week ago the same thing happened, but after I walked away she came after me and asked me to stop walking. We had our first real convo and I got her number. Bumped into her again the next day and I found out that she had recently broken up with her bf of 3 years. That may account for her change in behavior.
Since I got her number we've been texting back and forth. She's "cocky" and so I tease her often, but I'm never an asshole. She's very flirty, answers my texts quickly, and even calls me when she wants to talk and can't wait for me to reply by text. We made plans to meet up on Thurs night and she flaked on me, got hammered, crashed at a co-workers house, and insulted me. She sent me 3 texts apologizing and then called me to apologize. I started some drama over the fact that she stayed at a co-workers house who she claims not to like but he's in love with her.
Sat night she assumed that I was going to the same club she was but I had other plans. Same thing with Sunday. She said a few times that she wants to hang out. We made plans to hang out last night. She flaked because she was "too tired." After flaking she called me and went on and on about how she was sorry and wanted to come over and see a movie today. We talked on the phone this afternoon and solidified the plans to meet about 8pm. She was enthusiastic.
Here are the texts after the phone call:
Me: [My address] 7:43pm
Her: Whats this an address too lol 8:01pm
Her: I'm still friggin worn out from this past weekend. Ugh 8:08pm
I called and she didn't answer.
Her: Text me! I'm in the car 8:17pm
Me: That' my address. You're coming over here and we're going to grab a bite, and then watch a movie. 8:26pm
Her: I will not have sex with you Archangel 8:43pm
Me: Phew! I dodged a bullet there 8:45pm
Her: Shutup lol 8:53pm
Her: I'll come over tomorrow when I'm all rested and fully back to myself 9:03pm
I legit don't know what to do here. This is the third time she's flaked and I'm frustrated. I want to bang her and like her, but don't like this behavior. I feel like ignoring her for a while yet that feels weak and butthurt to me. I can't be mean.
Advices please.
Just be like: "Cool back to your normal self yet?"
Tell her to bring a bottle of wine when she comes over later. I would try one more time before giving it a break.
Thanks. I sent your text verbatim.
For some reason I had terrible insomnia last night so I feel like crap today, don't even know if I want to hang out with her.
I've been getting this vibe from her that she wants me chasing, like she can't stand the fact that she catches herself chasing me, so she'll try to do something to get me to chase again.
One thing about Vegas girls.. I chase chase chase. They like it. I'm smooth about it, but the aggressiveness is something they appreciate because.. well this shit is VEGAS.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Me: (1:04pm) Cool back to your normal self yet?
Her: (5:23pm) Sorry phone's been dead. What're you up too
Picking out my wig for the mean girl party tomorrow. I'm going to win. It's a well known fact that chicks with dicks are the meanest
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
@MW I didn't see that one before I responded.
Me: (5:55pm) I'm at home
So I tried to take the next line from the text message article, but I was at dinner with another girl so I winged it.
Me: (7:28pm) HerName, you're acting different, is everything ok today boo boo [I feel like MW's specific wording is key here and I botched it.]
She hasn't responded. I didn't really care at first, but the girl who I was just eating dinner with was "too tired" to come inside after dinner, so it looks like it will be me holding my dick again tonight.
I just got the cutie who cut my hair to text me back lol, but I don't care for some reason.
So I made out with two other girls this weekend, banged the latina I wrote about (and she was amazing!), am texting several other girls, but I'm getting butthurt over this one.
My impulse is to call her but I think thats retarded.
I feel like entitlement without presence or real abundance is counterproductive.
In the bigger picture, I'm getting frustrated because I feel like girls are using me for validation--I get called hot or told I'm a "total babe" on a daily basis, but am not getting nearly enough sex out of it. I know I'm funny and usually my text game is solid and I get good responses.
Yeah dude this is when you start playing the funny asshole card. I've got the free chapter of the text ebook coming out soon it'll make it clear what I'm talking about. Going to melt a bunch of heads on here
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
You're using too many commas lol. It broke up your rhythm a bit and didn't hit with the kind of emotion you were aiming for. You kinda want to either TOTALLY go over the top with the lushness of the fawning over her, e.g. "Ahh baby lovebug, everything ok? Or kinda act like you're petting a cute little deer you found by the side of the road. "Ah little baby, I will get you a bobba you will feel better". Or you can do both together which can be pretty hilarious
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Text those other girls. Put this one on the back burner until you think of something good
Naw I wouldn't put this on the backburner you could handle this
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
@MW Thank you! And you already know I'm a funny asshole, especially with this one which is why she likes me.
But what I really want to know is why she keeps bailing on the meetup. In person she obviously likes me. In texts she has told me that I'm handsome/hot/good-looking, charming, and funny. She said she wants to get to know me, she uses pet names also, she has admitted liking me. But she won't come over and get the dick that she obviously wants. Is it because she has feelings for me and is afraid of getting hurt (she either knows outright or has suspicions that I may be a "player")? Is it because she's still in love with her ex (who cheated on her with a girl who can't hold a candle to her)?
So she never responded. At this point, unless some has something effective and clever, I'll bump into her when I bump into her. C'est la vie.
One thing about Vegas girls.. I chase chase chase. They like it. I'm smooth about it, but the aggressiveness is something they appreciate because.. well this shit is VEGAS.
I was in a car today with a different girl, and I asked her--out of curiousity--when was the last time she had a boyfriend. And she said over a year ago, but why would she bother because there's always new people to fuck. She's funny because when she's bored or tired or her girlfriends are out of town and doesn't feel like going clubbing, then she wants to do couply shit like go to dinner, watch a movie, and cuddle. That actually wouldn't be a bad arrangement with the right girl, but I get the feeling that this one would lose her shit if she saw me out with another girl.
Yup. They don't mind banging a guy with their girls either
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
So she never texted me and I haven't seen her since. I assumed I would run into her but for whatever reason she hasnt been around.
Any suggestions on re-engagment text?
She's in my bed right now sleeping.
I texted her tonight before heading out to the strip and she replied quickly.
The texts really don't matter because they were basic logistics, and she was working nearby where I was anyways.
If anything this one set the tone:
Her: You won't even be there loser
Me: I'm already here sugartits, waiting for that sweet ass
Her: I'll be there soon sugar lumps
She met me where I was promoting. We were both drinking a little. I escalated on her but did it smoothly. It looked like two friends hanging out and hugging except for what I was whispering in her ear.
An hour after we talked, she texted me:
Her: Let's go to your car
Me: Where are you at? I'm in the same spot
Her: Ok I'll be there
I walked her to the car. Once inside, grabbed her and pulled her in for the kiss. Her lips were hungry. Based on her breathing and little moans, I pulled back and started up the car. As we were pulling out of the parking lot she asked me where we going. I laughed and said "my house." She was babbling about how she shouldn't be doing this and has to work in the morning. I told her I would make sure she gets home safe, and ignored the rest of it.
Back at my place we took a shot and I kissed her hard. Lead her to the bedroom, and like a good girl she started taking off her shoes. I fucked her with her socks on lol. She came and then I came, and then she passed right out lmao!
After driving her home I'm irritated by the situation. I turned her phone off before we banged because this chode friend/co-worker of hers kept calling her to see if she was "OK." I was having trouble waking her up, and thought to myself that there's nothing like the sound of a girl's own ringtone to get her attention. I switched the phone back on and called her from my phone. She woke up and of course asked me for more time to sleep. As we were talking, her phone rang again and again.
It wasn't the first chode friend, this time it was her roommate. I picked it up and went to answer and she freaked out. She asked me to be quiet when she called him back, and she told him that she fell asleep at her bff's house. She called him "babe" on the phone. I ignored it. I know the guy, and even though we're not friends, he's a Certified Nice Guy™. I like him and wouldn't willfully try to hurt his feelings. The whole time I've known her she's called him her "friend," and he never mentioned anything about them dating.
In the car ride back she decides to blurt out that they've been "together forever" (that's 4 years in girl-speak), but that they're not "together-together." She broke up with him a few months ago, and then moved in with him a week ago. So *technically* she didn't cheat, but she told me I can't say anything to anyone about our little thing. I took full responsibilty for us having sex because I lead and made it go down. Without action on my part we would have sat in my car and talked until she got bored.
I had some negative energy to express, but didn't aim it at her, just kinda let it out there to the universe. She got to experience what I was feeling, but without the burden of blame.
Either way, if I go into a situation knowing what's up and I bang some other guy's gf/wife, that's my decision and I fully accept any consequences. In this case I feel like she tricked me, and that's why I'm annoyed.