New and Ready to Learn
Been taking a ton of action since the beginning of the year and the numbers are starting to stack up. Only problem is my texting is very weak. I find myself googling how to text girls yet everyone has a different style thus the things they teach are contradictory.
I have read the "19 Rules" by Manwhore and looked at various guides such as College Flirt and The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game by Braddock. Yet I find that all the theory just mind fucks me.
So a few questions:
Keep it minimalistic or fun?
Do you ask her out right away and cut straight to the point OR do you vibe a bit, shoot some funny texts and then ask her out?
If its the latter, wouldnt it appear somewhat tryhard and dancing monkey if you keep sending funny, entertaining texts.
Do girls that you meet ever text first?
Should I be initiating for the most part in the beginning or play it aloof after a good text conversation to seem busy. Truth be told, I doubt a girl I just met would even care to text a random that just took her number (All self image issues aside).
How long till you go for the meet?
Vibe first or cut straight to the point?
How often should you be texting?
Daily? Every other day?
Here's a recent conversation so you can gauge where I am at.
Met her at a bar, short interaction, it was quick and fun, saw her blowing guys out the entire night, so I was like whatever might aswell approach her. She was open, said she never gives her number out and that my pick up lines suck.
Me: Get home safe girl - fly
Her: Thanks, you too!
Next Day:
Me: Lemon water is the BOMB
Her: Haha i was actually talking to some about lemon water today, weird
Me: You should definetly get on the trend, itll help curb the drinking problems that your college students have
Her: True, you should def start some kind of promoting material for this haha
Me: Send in some headshots to my secretary, if you are lucky you might just become the poster girl for lemon water
Her: Kk ill just have to double check with my agent to make sure I have room in my scedule :)
Me: :)
Her: You watching the Grammys tn?
Me: (picture of a fire truck)
Me: busy watching my house burn down actually. (fire department came, something was burning)
Her: Omg what happened? Its not letting me see the pic
Me: Someone is punishing me for talking to a Siberian girl :P
Her: Omg you did not just say Siberian!
Me: LOL
Me: Spellcheck too strong
Her: Good, nice save
Me: Hold up. Are you Serbian or Siberian hah
Her: Lmaooo Serbian
Conversation ended because I went out.
Am I doing it right? Where do I go from here?
Yeah man you're doing excellent this girl is definitely invested. I would just start seeding a meetup and go for there
Something like, "So the fire department recommended ice cream to prevent further problems. I should make this happen"
Then take her response and craft it into the actual invite. This is an example of "baiting" the meetup, and you don't necessarily ever have to go this route but it kind of presented itself.
Or you could just go the simple route and stick with something like, "Well we obviously need to get drinks some time this week because siberia's far far away and you need some fun in your life"
Me: I've texted you. See? Dreams do come true.
Her: Wow I guess they do! Idk how i wouldve gone on with my day haha
Me: How is your day going? Staying out of trouble?
Her: Not bad just busy with school stuff, hbu? And speaking of trouble i hope youre not burning stuff down again
Me: Beer town with serbs, getting drunk in the middle of the day, I'm sooo classy.
Her: Nicee, and I know, hanging out with serbs is soo classy :) (hinting at a meet up?)
Me: I've met more serbs in the last 2 weeks than I've known in my entire life
Her: Really? You must be new to this area then cuz theres sooo many of us here
Next Day:
Me: Good Morning (name)
Her: Good morning Mr. fly
Me: We need to hang out, give you a break from all your school work, you need some fun in your life.
Her: Whats this thing you call "break"? But ya i do need some fun however i never have time :( 8 courses
Me: Are you free today of tomorrow?
Her: Nopee, exams and assignments to do :(
I'm most likely going back home for the weekend from college, she seems legitimately busy. Can't really hold that against her. Keep chatting than ask again next week?
Ask what her 'schedule' is like. Asking if she is free on X day keeps the window of opportunity too small. She more than likely IS legitimately busy on that day, however asking her schedule, she will give you AVAILABLE times (if she is wanting the meet up of course).
You want to avoid creating a NO pattern.
Say something cool/fun while asking her schedule.
Can't give an example right now, my brain has just woken up...
You changed up the text and it hit like a flaccid penis. If you're going to edit my texts I'm not going to help you.
LOL!
This makes me miss our sessions.
Getting outta the shit still MW, will be in touch when we are green for go again dude.
Cool man no problem. And your advice for homeboy was spot on good stuff
Thanks man, appreciate the feedback.
Me: It's cool dont worry about it :)
Her: Sorry, pharmacy school sucks haha
Me: So when you're not pursuing the noble prize or cooking meth in your basement, how do you spend your time?
Her: LOL well when I do have time i just go to gym or chill with fam and friends, nothing crazy
Her: Btw how old are you? You look quite younger than me haha
Me: Lol how old do you think I am?
Her: Umm 19?
My apologies manwhore, i just didnt think it fit properly with how the conversation was going, but I dont know shit.
Im 20 y/o going on 21, she in grad school so 23+
Also restricting myself the two days was definetly a fail. Mental note taken.
My experience is, grad school girls are more free on the weekends. They have classes to teach and stuff during the weekday evenings. She has time for you.
Girls dread boring dates. Think of some girl-friendly stuff to do. Manwhore likes icecream, which is great. Quick, low pressure etc.
Say it like, "hockey game (or whatever) on Saturday. You should come or I'll end up being 'the one that got away."
Also I woulda turned the age thing around on her... She was trying to disqualify you. Turn it back on her...
"I'm 20. So you're 23? That's halfway to 46. Maybe I'm too young for you."
Me: Close enough but no. Have you heard of the music group the xx? I dig their chill vibes. You must give them a listen.
Her: Haha how old are you then? And yes i have i like a few of their songs :)
I tried changing the subject, but she is persistent on the age portion.
I like what infinity wrote, i came up with this:
too young for you, 20. I just wanna be your friend, i know you probably like young boys but i aint into the old ladies so lets just be friends
or full retard and say
12, chris hansen from dateline to catch a predator is on his way.
but beating around the bush is going to just kill the attraction and make her annoyed.
You can turn this around but you shouldn't have avoided the question in the first place lol.
looks like you're dodging the question, which you are.
i actually would go with something ridiculous like the Chris Hanson text
If you think about it, deep down, you were freaking out because she challanged you, and you were worried about being disqualified. So you dodged the question, but you missed a great opportunity.
What I was trying to get you to do (and learn) was how to take her bad behavior there and reframe it to a playful conversation where SHE'S the one feeling what you felt. She's the one who's not good enough. IE "You're halfway to 46? I'm too young for you granny pants..." or something like that. It's a very fundamental concept: YOU'RE THE PRIZE.
This REALLY sucks:
too young for you, 20. I just wanna be your friend, i know you probably like young boys but i aint into the old ladies so lets just be friends
"I'm 20. Too young for you... granny pants"
Yeah Infinity I see what you mean, you are correct, I was like oh shit, shes going to find out my age and freak out, unfortunately I sent my text before i read your reply. Havent texted her back though. Will continue the conversation tomorrow.
Any thoughts on how I should proceed?
Keep your goal in mind and keep it playful. Probably the most important thing to keep track of is how SHE FEELS. If she feels good when she talks to you and feels like she needs to earn it, you win.
That was such a crazy bad text to send. You can't be that demeaning to a woman and expect her to "want" to have sex with you. Got to keep things positive man
In reference too this?
too young for you, 20. I just wanna be your friend, i know you probably like young boys but i aint into the old ladies so lets just be friends
Yes, that would be a shitty text to send.
Feel like I'm 12 texting this girl, I told her I was 21, turns out she's 21 too. She says she's taking 8 courses, so she responds every 1-2hours which is cool, I dont mind. Yet the text I sent today made me feel like I was in grade school again. I'm a hot guy who has girls checking him out every night, why am I texting her like a bitch.
Its too late to ask her out for this weekend, besides I'm going home.
Me: (Insert some retarted joke about me not being able to tie my shoes.) Want to teach me? You do seem like a smarty pants. MY FAILED ATTEMPT AT ROLE PLAY
Her: Aww poor thing, you should try youtube tutorials :)
She seems receptive but I'm starting to feel like her gay texting buddy. Thinking about giving her some radio silence and starting again on Sunday.
I want to fuck her, not be her texting buddy.
Chill the fuck out dude. It's a girl 'n her vagina. Wait till someone gives you nice things, then you'll start to care more about who tinkers with them.
Manwhore I hear you, but it is frustrating not knowing what to do or even know what is going on. Definitely a learning process just like pimping it.