Seems to be a product of poor presence. The solution is not to say or do anything different, just look her in the fucking eyes.
For sure man, it's totally the fundamentals that need attention.
It sucks cuz sometimes the state is just not there, and I often try to hunt for it and that comes across as needy
Honestly, I am so immature when it comes to off nights. I often try to seperate myself from everyone, and thats unacceptable.
Sounds like you're trying to force a good state. You just have to accept where your state is and then manage it from there. Yell obscene shit, do pushups, make fun of yourself for having a shitty state, go to the bathroom or your car to reset if you need to then come back in fresh and warm up with quick opens again.