Noob Text Question: Re engagement and going for the meet up?
Tue, 11/13/2012 - 02:39
Question: When texting a girl in an attempt to set up a date, should you send a re-engagement text and build up the convo to the point where theres a happy feeling or can you just jump right to the point and send a lets hangout text without no lead in?
Here is the scenario that makes me raise that question.
Met this girl at a bar. Got all physical, made out all night. Barely talked. She was DTF but I didn't know how to pull since I'm so new to game, but her interest level at the time was extremely high.
Anyways fast forward next day, we go on day 2. I pushed for "movie my place" but she said she needed to do work and invited me to come study. I went. Solid day 2. Had a blast, flirting all the time. Wasn't really physical during the date, but made out and got real physical at the end to compensate for it.
Day after that I sent her a text to hang out by just getting straight to the point of hanging out. No re engagement messages. She couldn't do it as she was going home for the weekend. Was a legit excuse, as she was in class and her bus was in an hour.
On the weekend, i sent her a text asking something related to what we talked about on the day 2. She responded but i didnt respond. (My friend told me not to respond to convey the idea of me being busy, so i didnt).
Anyways today i shoot her a text saying lets hang and she responds that she's busy but can hang after X day.
Some more background: to this point she has never texted me first.
Can anyone point out some of my mistakes? For the first date, i did lead in texts but in the other attempts i did not.
I think she's still interested as she said when she free after.
And yes i know, get more girls.
Here is the scenario that makes me raise that question.
Met this girl at a bar. Got all physical, made out all night. Barely talked. She was DTF but I didn't know how to pull since I'm so new to game, but her interest level at the time was extremely high.
Anyways fast forward next day, we go on day 2. I pushed for "movie my place" but she said she needed to do work and invited me to come study. I went. Solid day 2. Had a blast, flirting all the time. Wasn't really physical during the date, but made out and got real physical at the end to compensate for it.
Day after that I sent her a text to hang out by just getting straight to the point of hanging out. No re engagement messages. She couldn't do it as she was going home for the weekend. Was a legit excuse, as she was in class and her bus was in an hour.
On the weekend, i sent her a text asking something related to what we talked about on the day 2. She responded but i didnt respond. (My friend told me not to respond to convey the idea of me being busy, so i didnt).
Anyways today i shoot her a text saying lets hang and she responds that she's busy but can hang after X day.
Some more background: to this point she has never texted me first.
Can anyone point out some of my mistakes? For the first date, i did lead in texts but in the other attempts i did not.
I think she's still interested as she said when she free after.
And yes i know, get more girls.
Tue, 11/13/2012 - 11:57
#1
Re: Noob Text Question: Re engagement and going for the meet up?
Well in this case it's a matter of percentages. Running "proper" text game will always have a better success rate, but maybe with this particular girl in this particular scenario you could just go for a meetup. I'm guessing the reason why you want to just shoot out a meetup time is because you don't trust your text game? What are you worried about.
Wed, 11/14/2012 - 21:20
#2
Re: Noob Text Question: Re engagement and going for the meet up?
@Manwhore:
I usually over think what to text to a girl as an opener when in reality it's extremely simple. After I get the first few texts out of the way, it just snowballs and becomes fairly easy. I used your "SURPRISE!" opener from your list of texts and got 3 quick texts from her, the last one being "where are you". We met up and had a blast. While I didn't get the sex close yet, she seems as if she's highly interested and can't seem to figure out "who I am" and why I'm not like every other normal guy because of my "being" so to speak. My biggest paradigm shift from this all was that i always assumed that if a girl is interested in you she would hit you up or at least initiate. Certainly this is not the case and i just have to go after what i want.
Thanks for your response, appreciate it.
I usually over think what to text to a girl as an opener when in reality it's extremely simple. After I get the first few texts out of the way, it just snowballs and becomes fairly easy. I used your "SURPRISE!" opener from your list of texts and got 3 quick texts from her, the last one being "where are you". We met up and had a blast. While I didn't get the sex close yet, she seems as if she's highly interested and can't seem to figure out "who I am" and why I'm not like every other normal guy because of my "being" so to speak. My biggest paradigm shift from this all was that i always assumed that if a girl is interested in you she would hit you up or at least initiate. Certainly this is not the case and i just have to go after what i want.
Thanks for your response, appreciate it.
Tue, 05/19/2015 - 01:46
#3
Man i got a skmilar question.
Man i've got a similar question. Met this girl like 4:30 am, pulled her pretty quickly and then escalated in my room, fucked and passed out. When i woke up she was gone, lol. Don't really remember much from our interaction, all i know is she had a great ass.
This was on friday and i thought that i would fuck other girls during the weekend so didnt text her anything but i failed haha. What type of text would you send her at this point? I don't think she's really invested because it happened so fast, but shes probably down to fuck anyways...
Tue, 05/19/2015 - 02:29
#4
Just send her something from
Just send her something from the text message database.