"Noooooooooooo :(" Money line if a girl can't meet up
I was helping my brother with his tinder text and we were being very confident and playful. But I think it was too strong with this particular girl. I was making plans on saturday and she wasn't able to beacuse she was gonna be out of town. But she didn't exactly propose any alternatives. Or give a good response in general.
This kind of thing happens all the time. I'll try and get the screenshot of the text threat to make it killer.
But there's a lot of ways to play it. I could have been more playful/playerish and teased her or been dismissive. But I sensed that wouldn't get him any further footing. So someitmes you have to look two steps ahead. What would be the perfect response that he'd want.
Obviously it's for the girl to say I'd be free another time or that sort of thing. Well in this case the text I crafted together was a slightly sarcastic one.
me: Noooooooooooooo :(
(the emoji was actually unhappy face with a tear)
funy enough, she responded quickly insisting they hangout another time.
I realize how stupid and lame this looks without hte context of the conversation.
But if you're edge is strong and a girl can't meet up and isn't giving you anything to go off of. Sometimes the best move is to be over the top saddened by not being able to see her. So she let's her guard down and contributes more to the interaction.
That's another intuitive leap you made, mang. Surprised you went that direction. Good shizz I use it too
Patrick.Ballsman you got anything more to say about this?
Hmm like what?
It's money and the more I've been into the game, the more I tend to become more natural and soften up at times.
I see it all the time, guys jsut are too hard on the teasing, they don't know when to soften up and show that ying side and compliment. I've become extremely intuitive with what the girl is feeling.
As well, people make the mistake of not thinking ahead. Sometimes when you think about how she's going to respond to something. You realize, that you need to completely change your game plan. If you say something too cocky of overly teasy all the time, it blocks the interaction from progressing.
It's a tool, not the entire game.
Best way to look at it, is to think about it like a game of chess. What is her next move gonna be. Guys don't do this shit and they need to. Ja feel ?
Yeah I usually just use ":' ("
its self deprecating and the point.
I was outside a club talking to these two little cute girls. Her friend was saying that the other girl is going to look amazing when she's older because she's always looked younger than her age.
My brother steps in and goes on about how girls prime out so early and that's not true and men age like a nice wine. It was funny at first, but these girls wanted some validation. And he was coming off too hard and strong. Lacked the ability to emphasize with them.
So I had to jump in and smoothen it out.
Tease is good, but think about how it's going to push things forward. Sometimes a tease is a great way to create tension, then shift back into more comfort. But if you don't shift back, you're just driving a stake between the two of you.
What are your thoughts guys? Do you have a different view?
The more experienced I have become, the more I find myself being aware and undersatnding that being too teasy, too gamey, while better than being boring as fuck, is not the best way to go about things. Versatility is where it's at. Be present with the girl, understand what she's feeling on some level. Tease when you need to make the girl more maluable. Be hard hitting when you have to. And chill the fuck out and be laconic when she's hooked or in. Then throw on some bubble of love in there too.
I also find myself injecting tons of sexual shit very quickly. But girls just accept taht about me. So it works ;)
It definitely helps to have a baseline of empathy and throw in comfort when the girls is obviously pissed or creeped out. I think this is probably the biggest mindset shift noobies have to make to step up their game. I see a lot of guys blindlessly "plowing" while the girl is losing attraction every second. I'm honestly a pretty nice dude but I'll call a girl out if she's acting dumb or being silly.
It took me over five years to figure that out, and I didn't even get "good" at it till about 3-4 yrs ago. What you been in the game for now Patrick.Bateman.. 2 years? Lol
Funny enough I don't face that situation too often where my "wing" is being too blunt or even mean, but yes I handle it the exact same way. I love it because showing a little empathy in those situations earns MAJOR points.
Yea I was very rigid before and I find myself being way more flexible. Whether it's being " vulnerable " or rapid fire texting to achieve a result. Play it much more simple with girls who seem way down versus a little bit harder ball with girls who are more on the line. Main thing I've been learning is everything is dynamic. How into you she is - her perception of you whatever and you should adjust accordingly. lol this girl text me right now " my friend things ur hot just wanted to tell you ". Granted her friend does think I'm hot I know she's interested and so I took it where it needed " lol that's cute of you. Thx bebs " blah blah blah and now she's booking her flight to see me lol. I thought of seeding threesome but other girl is in CA too.
It took me over five years to figure that out, and I didn't even get "good" at it till about 3-4 yrs ago. What you been in the game for now Patrick.Bateman.. 2 years? LolFunny enough I don't face that situation too often where my "wing" is being too blunt or even mean, but yes I handle it the exact same way. I love it because showing a little empathy in those situations earns MAJOR points.
Haha i've had a good coach. ANd texting tons of girls each day helps a lot.
But you helped me make that connection when you uncovered that I was being too exuberant and needed to become more laconic. Plus reading your sample texts here. It's like when most guys think they need more tease and stuff. You are the oppossite. You throw solid affection down / empathy.
Becuase you're thinking ahead, they are not. They're still in the reactive frame. Being able to stay emotionally grounded and being able to be objective about what ingredient you need is what's of exceptional importnace.
This is the main bottleneck the "Manosphere" and red pill society are facing. They refuse to acknowledge this entire spectrum of "the game". But that's the thing it's not about game it's about being a fucking human being. These dudes are stuck in seeing interactions with girls as being a part of a larger "battle of the sexes", or at least something to resent.
Wow great point about the red pill guys. I always felt that area of the internet just seethed with us vs them, even before I really knew what the manosphere was.
Mw only 3-4 years! The closer we come to text game release date the more I come to realize the art in it