One night stand or playing hard to get?
Errr...I hope this makes sense to you guys:
Back in April, I banged this redhead sorority girl I met through social circle.
I took some of the necessary steps to keep things afloat and texted her the next day.
I would think I finally got through all the hurdles ... NOPE! lol I can't pull her anymore
Shit like this makes me wonder how I got a girlfriend in the 1st place, let alone one 8 years older.
We've been running into each other on numerous occasions.
Her demeanor towards me hasn't changed as far as i'm aware.
In fact most of the time she's the one spotting me, yelling my name and has tried to invite me to some form of social gathering 2x (coudln't make it for important shit).
In those moments she is usually with her friends who are cool with me and usually leave us alone.
Physicality is present but pretty G rated especially around her friends: Clawing, hugging, lifting etc...
My intuition strongly tells me there's certain dudes in our social circle she's trying to get at.
So getting too physical and lovey dovey around her friends/ the guys is a no-go for the risk of her looking like a slut.
To top that off, after we banged we had an agreement that I would not let a mutual guy friend of ours know about the hookup...
She complained about how much my dick hurts, that prob scared her too off too because now it's a bitch to pull her
Last night was one of my few attempts to pull her, considering that logistics appeared favorable.
I was walking my college town street which was half full of drunk students and not having that great of a night. She yelled my name walking the opposite direction, I stopped and she turned around towards me. She was standing in my arms talking to me for 5mins while her friends from out-of-town kept walking. In my head i was thinking "BULLS-EYE!" despite the fact that she mentioned she wasn't sure her friend knew where they were going. One of the first things she asked me was if I was going to meet some girl at her house, I casually said "No i'm going home"
I obviously could have been playful about it, but I was in the wrong mindset.
Next thing I knew some dude walked by us carrying a girl screaming and her dress pulled up so you could see her whole ass. Sorority girl commented, without shame I said "Yeah you're right it's a sexy ass" that had her rolling. Fast forward sorority girl mentioned that she was tired so I yelled "bed time!!", lifted her up and started walking towards my house. She begged me to put her down because she didn't want her ass seen neither all whilst laughing. I guess it was dumb but I did eventually put her down and ASKED (dumb) her which way she was going. Her response was that she had to go to bed, i'm positive that she knew what I meant but she wasn't down. Needless to say we went our separate ways and had an unproductive evening.
Wasn't this the girl that you told your buddy who spread it around that you'd slept with her and she got seriously pissed with you?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Nope. Completely different girl.
edit: this is the LR http://www.rsdnation.com/node/402750
I'm not going to go to rsdn to read a lay report. Suck my forum's cock
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
same thing happened to me kinda. had to cut off a previous lay for wanting me to chase hard.
yo MW, throw up an article or vid on maintaining fuckbuddies !
Doing a quick update...
5/23/2013
Me - Psst!
Her: Sup dude
Me - 1 min later: Pizza or sandwich
Her: For you or me?
Me - 1 min later: Pssh for me ;)
Her - 1 min later: aww mann
Her: sandwich
Me - 3 mins later: Come split it with me, i still need to know what though (I didn't catch her 2nd text)
Her - 3 mins later: I have to take a shower and go to a workshop :(
Me - 8 mins later: Pizza it is lol. Can't promise any leftovers though ;p
Me - 33 mins later: Whoops i missed your sandwich text
Her - 44 mins later: Ya silly. You better bring some over!
Me - 59 mins later: Ha maybe if you're lucky
Her - 1 hr 32 mins later: I am lucky!
Me - 1 hr 22 mins later: We would have to see about that
6/12/2013
Me - 3 hrs 13 mins later: Hey little tiger, what are you getting your dirty paws into tonight!
Her: I'm so exhausted haha but I'm finally on summer break!!!
Me - 2 hrs 17 mins later: Good shit! I'm over here planning trips and adventures myself
Her - 1 hr 42 mins later: Ooh where to?
Me - 28 mins later: San Francisco, i heard the club scene is tight there. Might get my ass grabbed by a couple dudes, well fuck it!
Her - 24 mins later: You should go to the gay pride parade on the 30th of June! Haha but yeah the clubs are pretty poppin
Me - 31 mins later: Does this mean i would have to walk around with spandex panties on?
Her - 23 mins later: Exactly right
Her: Bright pink or neon green
Her: Exactly right
Me - 9 mins later: I think neon green would suit me better... with glow in the dark capability ;)
Her - 17 mins later: haha that would be sick
Me - 18 mins later: I never asked you were you're going over the summer. Prob out and about tanning and cliff jumping
Her - 10 mins later: Ha I wish!! I work in the law firm everyday in Oakland!
Me - 13 mins later: So if i were to get in trouble, i am positive that you would you give me a halping hand with these cuffs
probably went overboard with that last text.
Crazy you ask me that dude I don't really do much to "maintain" fuckbuddies. Either we get along or we don't. Sure I can get cute over text and get a girl to come over for a booty call if we've already hooked up.. sexting is great for that sort of thing, lol, but as a part of my game..? No.. not really
same thing happened to me kinda. had to cut off a previous lay for wanting me to chase hard. yo MW, throw up an article or vid on maintaining fuckbuddies !
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
When she asked you to bring leftovers or whatever, why didn't you try to set something up on the spot? You don't have to make it seem like you're jumping on the bait.. you can still keep it casual while setting something up.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I figured she was probably at her workshop and whatnot. At that point in time I was already in "fuck this shit" mode :P
I'll have to set shit up when she comes back then. It took me a long time to understand what you meant by "jumping the bait"
She actually came back a couple of days ago. She only stayed like 3 days to get ready for the fall semester and move shit into her new crib.
On the 2nd day she showed up late evening (mutual guy friend invited her) but we didn't get to talk much. I was busy helping my roomies/mutual friends clear the place from fleas.
On the 3rd day, the roomies were planning to set up a drinking game and the mutual friend AJ invited her again.
At this point I have yet to text her since that last text, mainly because i feel less confident. I'm even flitering what I WANT to say/do when i'm around her.
Anyways she showed up but I was too focused racing a roomie on Xbox to really acknowledge her. I finally did so when I later walked out to my car to grab some showering things and back into the house.
I said "Sup sucker", she hugged me tight feeling my whole torso. The roomies had the drinking game teams sorted out by the time I came out of the shower... the fuckers.
I popped open a can of beer and sat on the roof of my car while watching and commentating from 20ft away. She would frequently turn back to look at me or make comments like "Why are you over there being anti-social blah blah blah"
Fast forward after her game was over, I lead her to the kitchen to help me make this mixed drink she had me sample earlier. She said something about her mix tasting bad to which i replied "you want to know what tastes better?" I dove in for the kiss but she leaned back saying "I knew you were going to pull that" "Haha yeah ok whatever smartass :)" was my response.
We went back outside with our mixes and chilled with everyone. At one point I was laying on the hood of my car when her and one of the roomies walked out the driveway. I casually said "You're leaving?" (It was too dark to notice me)
She walked back my way, gave me another one of those tight hugs before leaving.
Pretty sure your old "social value" issue is raising its head again.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Do you care to elaborate a little bit?
Social hierarchy.. where are you at in it.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I mean I know that. What I don't understand is the old issue itself. I'm guessing you're referring to my overall confidence?
No.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Doing a little update here.
If you ask me, I feel that I don't know what the hell i'm doing and i'm not where I want to be.
I'll prob just ring her up soon when classes start. Critiques welcome!
7/15/2013
ME: (3:58PM) Saw this dude arm wrestle this tiny girl and it made me think of you girl
HER: (4:02PM) Haha painful memories? (she beat me -__-)
ME: (4:32PM) Shoot you already know how I feel about that :P What adventures have you been going into
HER: (5:08PM) I'm sorry! Haha well I started work last week so that's been exhausting but otherwise just hanging out with friends!
ME: (5:21PM) Haha with strength like that though you could be priviledged to be my body guard, i don't like getting fucked with :P
HER: (5:23PM) What a compliment thank you!
ME: (7:11PM) Yeah better be ok with free labor as well
7/20/2013
ME: (6:28PM) This is you LMFAO:
HER: (7:21PM) Hahaha soo randoom!!
8/24/2013
ME: (12:12PM) Lmao I saw your tiwn jogging on my way to work yesterday, had to drop my shades for a sec
HER: (1:56PM) Haha who is my twin?
ME: (2:29PM) That's what I was asking tho! I thought you snuck your way back here lmao
HER: (2:31PM) Haha a little less than a month!
ME: (3:22PM) Lol hang on in there. Bet you can't wait to come back and go hard in the paint
HER: (3:25PM) Lol fer suree
ME: (3:26PM) girl with all that being said, do you jog?
HER: (3:28PM) Lol what?
HER: (3:28PM) I guess occasionally
ME: (3:30PM) Good shit, because this guy is out of shape and needs a jogging partner lol
HER (3:57PM) Haha I could try
ME: (4:38PM) Better keep up slowpoke! ;)
HER: (5:01PM) You have no idea how fast I am
ME: (5:19PM) I promise you after that arm wrestling fiasco, i won't lose to THIS challenge
HER: (5:59PM) Hahahahaha i'm so sorry
ME: (6:14PM) Lmfao whatever
Your texting is always relatively solid.
There must be something about your vibe, sub comms, or general demeanor that makes girls hesitant to meet up.
Whats your lay count and how old are you? Would you agree with my statement above or do you think its just texting that's an issue?
My lay count is like at 8, I'm 20 and living in a college town renowned for partying.
I'm not 100% positive what it is. However I would have to agree that my subcom also tells the story ESPECIALLY in this case, she's known me for a decent amount of time compared to other girls I can think of.
So did I change as of lately? Maybe. Some people have called me an asshole, although I believe that's just me slowly becoming assertive.
I tend to give off a player vibe too, at times even JUST from looking at me. Is it that that i cannot play it off? I don't know.
Most of my recent flakes have not even made it to Day2s, shit... I can't even get date off of POF anymore.
It's something i'll be working on with MW in the near future.
Been going through so much BS lately like dropping heavy cash on car repair, not making it in time for school, etc... Some might argue that it's normal for a college student to be going through this kind of shit, admitedly i'm not used to being on my own like this, so I'm probably in a depressive state. I want to believe i'm not subcommunicating this, but i'm probably trying to hard to fight it lol
Word.
College is a different environment. I've been pretty successful as far as "college game" goes but I'm to the point now where it's not even fulfilling. I think you need to meditate and be in a state of full expression.youre still young and growing into your natural vibe. You need to find out what you want from women and harness it, with no doubt whatsoever. It took me a while to realize what I truly wanted and I'm still dealing with it. It's easy to slip into chode mode when you're down on your luck but the game is fucking cyclical, like anything else. You had your ups and downs but you always wake up the next day.
My advice would be to drop all the gimmicky "game" bullshit and just be present. Learn to love girls and actually conversation with them as a true equal. Just bullshit and see what happens.