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Porn Star talks about frustrations with modern men

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Saw this over on Roosh's forum and figured I'd post it up here. THIS chick is 27 and apparently can't find an alpha guy to date. Below is the email she sent out to her subscribers after a bad date. Whole situation is pretty nuts.

OK, I know it’s late…and I probably shouldn’t be writing this...



I might be a little bit EMOTIONAL….



But I have just had one of the WORST nights of my life…



Let me tell you what happened.



I haven’t had much luck with dating recently…



I’d met a guy recently who I thought I liked…But somehow, that sort of fizzled out. Our personalities just didn’t “click”…



So a girlfriend of mine persuaded me to try one of those online dating services…



Which I had resisted for a long time…But since I was so desperate to find a QUALITY man…



I thought, what have I got to lose? I gave it a shot and created a profile.



Right away, I got a lot of replies.



But one really stood out. A good looking guy, seemed like he was in great shape…About 35, he even had what seemed like a pretty good job as a securities trader.



I wrote him back, and we messaged each other back and forth a few times. He seemed smart, and even kind of funny online…So I agreed to set up a date.



I know I shouldn’t have gotten my hopes up..But I’ll admit, I was pretty excited about seeing him! =)



So when the night came, I got all dressed up in a tight little black dress and some heels…And met him at a French restaurant called Le Petit Chateau near my place in Toluca Lake…



There he was, at the bar. I recognized him from his photo online.



I approached him and said hello. Right away I noticed he was drinking this fruity cocktail…A dacquiri...



I thought to myself…Aren’t those drinks for GIRLS?



I didn’t say anything, but I’ll admit…It was a bit of a turn-off.



Still, I remembered how charming he had been in his messages online…”I’ll give him a chance,” I thought to myself.



We sat down at our table. He was just as good-looking as his photos suggested, and dressed well…


But he avoided making eye contact with me as we spoke. Almost like he was intimidated by me…



Gone was the witty, charming guy I had messaged online. It was like this was a totally different person!



Worse, he was looking down at his smart phone half the time…I don’t know if he was texting or what, but that is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.



So far, things weren’t going that well…



I tried to make conversation with him, asking what he did for fun. At first, he went off for about 15 minutes about his job…None of which I understood.

I tried to change the subject, and asked him what he liked to do for fun.

At that point, he whipped out his phone again and showed me a bunch of videos he had taken of his cat and uploaded to youtube.


Yeah.



Seriously.



Thankfully, the waiter came by right then to take our order. I ordered the roasted chicken and a white wine, he ordered a steak salad and a glass of sparkling water.



At this point, I had pretty much written off the date as a total bust…But it’s what happened next that really blew my mind so much I just HAD to tell you about it.



So, when the food comes, my meal arrives as I ordered it…But instead of a steak salad, the waiter just brings my date a tiny little side salad…

No meat…Just some tomatoes, lettuce, a few croutons.

He looks unhappy about it…But to my surprise, he doesn’t say anything to the waiter.

Instead, he just starts timidly picking at his salad.

“Aren’t you going to say anything?” I ask.

And he just says “No, I don’t want to make any trouble. I’ll just Yelp about it later.”


WHAT?? I was shocked.



I gulped my wine and tried to eat as quickly as possible.



Finally, after a pretty awkward meal…The bill arrives.

He offers to split it with me, right down the middle. What a gentleman!



“Fine,” I say, just wanting to get out of there.



And then I look down at the bill…And I see that they’ve charged us for a steak salad!



There’s no way I’m paying for half of a steak salad this dude didn’t even eat! So I call over the waiter and make a big stink about it.



What does my date do? His face turns beet red, and he actually gets up and excuses himself to the bathroom as I complain to the manager about not getting our order right.



I didn’t end up having to pay full price. But I was steamed that I had to be the one to deal with it!



Finally, we get out of there…



Not that I would have let him anyways, but this guy doesn’t even have the balls to make a move on me.



He actually just shakes my hand and walks off…He doesn’t even walk me to my car!!



I wanted to scream!!



So here I am back at home, alone…



I’ve had a couple glasses of wine, and here’s what I want to know….



Why are men today so WIMPY?



Because this is not the first time I’ve gone out with a WUSS like this!



Are there even any REAL MEN out there anymore?



I mean, today men aren’t even “men”….they’re “guys” or “dudes”…



And they can barely take care of themselves….They’re really more like children than men, always playing their video games…



Either that or they’re glued to their cell phones or their iPads.



A lot of these “guys” spend so much time online, they don’t even know how to talk to a real woman when they meet one in real life.



Which means girls like me end up having to date a lot of inconsiderate JERKS just because they’re the only ones who have the BALLS to even approach us!



And don’t get me started on the metrosexuals…Guys who spend more time in the mirror doing their hair than I do!



Ugh!



Where are all the REAL MEN??



Guys who know how to fix a flat tire…

Guys who work hard to take care of their families and who don’t back down from a fight when someone is trying to rip them off…

Guys who know how to treat a woman, too…In the bedroom AND outside of it.

A real man is tough, a little bit macho…But he’s also a gentleman.



It seems like in the past, there used to be a lot more of them, those REAL MEN…



Maybe that’s why I find older guys so much sexier, usually…Guys like Clint Eastwood, for example. Now there’s a guy who has never uploaded a cat video to Youtube, you can bet on that!



If you ask me, something’s changed in this country in the past 30 years or so…



What is it?



Is it because today’s “guys” grow up playing with dolls - sorry, “action figures” - rather than playing with guns?



Or because their parents were all so overprotective they made them wear helmets and knee pads whenever they rode their bikes?



Or how about the fact that now, there aren’t even any winners or losers at sports anymore. Everyone gets a trophy! What kind of world is this?



I actually feel bad for the next generation…They’re gonna be awfully poorly prepared for the REAL WORLD with that kind of education.



Or maybe it’s our “nanny state”…Big government taking care of everybody, so everyone ends up feeling entitled. No wonder these guys are like overgrown children…



I want a REAL MAN!



Are there any left?



That’s what I want to know?



Am I way off target here?



Please write me back and let me know if you agree with me.



And if so, I’d LOVE to hear your explanation for why all the real men are disappearing in this country!



Anyways…Sorry for the rant…



I know I don’t normally get this riled up…And maybe I shouldn’t even hit the “Send” button on this…



But I just had to get this off my chest…It’s just how I really feel!

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hahaha, guys probs took

hahaha, guys probs took jeffy's online program and then got in way over his head here. 

the cat video thing really cracked me up

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Thats a pretty good post

Thats a pretty good post

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Solid. Much to learn from.

Solid. Much to learn from.

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is this behaviour "normal"?

is this behaviour "normal"? like do many guys behave this way?

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So am I. What's interesting

So am I. What's interesting is women's way of dealing with it is counter-productive at this point, lol 

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What would be the best way to

What would be the best way to handle it?

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You mean her?? That's easy.

You mean her?? That's easy. What are you referring to 

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I mean... It would have to be

I mean... It would have to be encouraging them to learn game.

As opposed to either:

A. Not telling them what they're doing is wrong, so the dudes are just confused. "You're gonna make some girl VERY happy SOMEDAY!!!"

or B. Shaming them into submission when they do try to step up. "That's creepy. You shouldn't act like that."

Society hasn't quite caught up to that yet though.

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yeah her

yeah her

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Dude that's an easy date

Dude that's an easy date mang. She'd be dessert. A woman like that that gets alone with me? She's looking for me I just have to show myself

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How many of those scenarios

How many of those scenarios would just.. never have been an issue. A shitty waiter/steak/ whatever? Pff.. I'd handle it before she even had a chance to say something. That would be countering my standards I wouldn't let that shit slide 

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So am I. What's interesting

So am I. What's interesting is women's way of dealing with it is counter-productive at this point, lol 

lol i meant whats how should a woman deal with chodes in a productive way

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RezznT wrote: I mean... It

RezznT wrote:
I mean... It would have to be encouraging them to learn game.

As opposed to either:

A. Not telling them what they're doing is wrong, so the dudes are just confused. "You're gonna make some girl VERY happy SOMEDAY!!!"

or B. Shaming them into submission when they do try to step up. "That's creepy. You shouldn't act like that."

Society hasn't quite caught up to that yet though.

Yep those are the typical courses of action these days lol. 

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I was dating this girl and

I was dating this girl and watched her bestfriend go through this for months. It was ridiculous, ^those were definitely two of the ways she handled it. She would always have an early way out and frequently used it. Or she's hanging out with us after the date obviously sad he didn't pull the trigger or got super awkward at closing time. What's a gal supposed to do in these scenarios