Pretty sure I'm just overthinking this - Question about girl meeting friends
Cliff notes: Med student I went on a date w/in october, lost touch 'cuz she dated someone serious for like half a year - reconnected and went out on a date again last week, made out and tried pulling back to my place, no dice. I was retarded and thought there was enough rapport at first to just pull quickly, but she needed to warm up to me again (DURRRRRRR). Once I realized that I made the adjustments and let her get to know me more, but it was a bit too late and she was adamant about not coming over while making out and grabbing my ass under my boxers/feeling up my abs lol. This girl I think definitely wanted to bang and i just didn't handle shit right.
Anyway, we're supposed to hang tomorrow - no real set plans but generally we're "getting drinks" but I just remmbered it's a good buddy's birthday party tomorrow. I'd probably usually cut the date short, cancel and hang with my buddy but I'm short on free nights out. She's already tried inviting me to her research conference in DC next month and in general I don't necessarily think it'd be weird if she met my friends already.
My tentative game plan: I think it'd be cool if her and I grab a drink or two at a bar or my place, then cruise over to where ever my friend is drinking for his birthday for an hour, say my hellos, get him a few shots, have some fun for like 1.5 hours then dip out for sexy times at a reasonably early time. I figured I'd let her know what's up once we're drinking together tomorrow.
Concern: This is a silly concern because I know it is only an issue if i play it wrong, but I don't want her potentially shutting sex down because I've placed her in some type of dating category because she met my friends. [ I almost always bang random girls before they ever meet my friends outside of a quick hello or whatever if they pop into my apt and meet roommates or friends who are over so this seems sorta foreign since college ]
In any case, I feel like i'm definitely overthinking it and just think if I oscillate between having fun w/my friends and giving her space to enjoy herself w/my friends and then coming in to take her into our little bubble to dance etc.
I figure this almost all hinges on ME, but thinking about it now I feel like I can use this to my advantage and shouldn't be seeing this as a potential disadvantage.
Question: Anyone have any general advice or some thoughts that they might see some detrimental thoughts that maybe I'm not conscious of ( or even as simple as yes you fucking idiot you're overthinking it just go have fun haha )?
Why don't you just hang with her and then be like "OH SHIT, it's my buddies birthday lets go say hello." It doesn't have to be some big event where you introduce her to friends cuz' she's special. So, yeah, you're overthinking it.
Why don't you just hang with her and then be like "OH SHIT, it's my buddies birthday lets go say hello." It doesn't have to be some big event where you introduce her to friends cuz' she's special. So, yeah, you're overthinking it.
Funny enough I was thinking about that too lol. Thanks tho, helped reassure this is probably a solid move. Also it wasn't about her being special it was more so whether it would hurt chances on getting laid.
Meeting your friends should make her want to bang you more. Way more. Keep that in mind
She should see "the man" in his element. On his purpose, fulfilling a mission. And it should be completely independent of her. E.g. she's got to catch a ride on your train to be a part of it.
Now are you endearing as fuck with her? Yes. But there's definitely a space in between. A clearing and subtle shifting of your energies between the two. Both genuine, but both so unconcerned with appearances and superficial social circumstances. Unbreakable, undeterrable, even a touch unfathomable. A glimpse of the male mystique. You should be fascinating to her.
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Meeting your friends should make her want to bang you more. Way more. Keep that in mindShe should see "the man" in his element. On his purpose, fulfilling a mission. And it should be completely independent of her. E.g. she's got to catch a ride on your train to be a part of it.
Now are you endearing as fuck with her? Yes. But there's definitely a space in between. A clearing and subtle shifting of your energies between the two. Both genuine, but both so unconcerned with appearances and superficial social circumstances. Unbreakable, undeterrable, even a touch unfathomable. A glimpse of the male mystique. You should be fascinating to her.
Hell yeah. Thanks for that - great advice.
Yeah I'm not really sure why I overthought that lol. Literally home court advantage. Had fun, shot the shit with friends, and then took it down. Sex was real fucking good - gaaaaaawd it had been a while since I had good sex, the other girls I had fucked recently had been whatevs in bed.
Fuck cheaaa!
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Meeting your friends should make her want to bang you more. Way more. Keep that in mindShe should see "the man" in his element. On his purpose, fulfilling a mission. And it should be completely independent of her. E.g. she's got to catch a ride on your train to be a part of it.
Now are you endearing as fuck with her? Yes. But there's definitely a space in between. A clearing and subtle shifting of your energies between the two. Both genuine, but both so unconcerned with appearances and superficial social circumstances. Unbreakable, undeterrable, even a touch unfathomable. A glimpse of the male mystique. You should be fascinating to her.
Hell yeah. Thanks for that - great advice.
Actually I want to do the advice you gave justice as opposed to just taking in value and how it applied.
She literally saw my phone blow the fuck up for my friend's birthday as we're coordinating shit. I gave her a nice understanding of who is most important to me that we were meeting up with and who I was more party-friends with. She was entering my world and I was giving her context so she knew who best to impress/chill with. She took that information and hung out with my closer friends.
At one point while waiting in line I think she thought out loud and said: "I'm really excited to meet your friends." It didn't register at first and I said "what?" and then she said nevermind. Realizing what she said, I smirked, pulled her in for a kiss and said good I'm glad you're pumped. We get to the venue, find all my friends and everyone is drunk and happy to see me. I'm introducing her to everyone, eventually find my boy and a close girl friend. I made sure to introduce her to a close girlfriend so that this girl will keep her company/give me her opinion on her later haha. Take shot with my homie, shoot the shit w/him, end up getting hit on by some pretty cute girl, I just smile and walk away. Funny how that shit works when you aren't looking for it.
Go find her as she's been with my close gf. At this point, we're clearly the loudest, most obnoxious, drunk group of people at this bar. Everyone is dancing shit faced in our own bubble of fun. Shoot the shit with the two of them for a bit then peel her off so we can create our own mini-bubble within the bubble. Shamelessly just making out w/her in front of my friends, even though I had hooked up w/a few girls that were there before from my school (although so long removed). I don't give a fuck. We kinda oscillate between our own little mini-bubble to merging with the larger bubble and having fun with my friends.
It's starting to get late and I want some sexy times. I don't even ask her over, just simply "let's go home." "ok" "alright ordering an uber." She couldn't have got naked more quickly once we got back to my place haha.
TL;DR: I'm clearly a dumbass for thinking her meeting my friends would ever be a disadvantage. Nothing REALLY changes after college lol. Home court advantage is great.