Question
Sun, 06/17/2012 - 19:25
So i noticed last night that i run into this kind of situation a lot with girls... Basically its this period of the interaction where the girl like isnt into me but also is still responding and talking and not leaving... I try to physically escalate my way out of this zone but she rejwcta my physical advances but still isnt leaving. So this is where i think plowing comes in and its especially true with the hotter girls that a lot of times they just like stand there and dont really react at all amd its loke you jist have to keep talking and laughing and enjoying the interactoon without contribution from her for a little bit.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 01:18
#1
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@buddhagames:
I could tell you.. for $440 a month ;)
I could tell you.. for $440 a month ;)
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Mon, 06/18/2012 - 02:32
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@buddhagames: if she's not down at that moment and you've tried to escalate and she's just still not responding but still there, maybe say later and just walk away. Go talk to another girl or homies and that might spark her to get her act together and stop being so lame:p go back see what's up, see how she's feeling then. If she's still resisting get her digits and just hit her up over text the next day. Maybe she just is not havin it that night! Also just depends on what mood your in that night, feel like cavemanning? Then caveman! Feel like chilling and waiting it out? Then just chill!
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 02:38
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@thedeepdirty:
Yeah, idk man. It's not that these girls aren't down or something... it's almost like when this happens I can look and like literally see the girl in limbo land like thinking to herself, "This is weird.. I REALLY can't decide if this guy is weird as shit or just totally awesome"... and I think that's sorta what's going on in her head
Yeah, idk man. It's not that these girls aren't down or something... it's almost like when this happens I can look and like literally see the girl in limbo land like thinking to herself, "This is weird.. I REALLY can't decide if this guy is weird as shit or just totally awesome"... and I think that's sorta what's going on in her head
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 02:59
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@buddhagames: go with your gut dude if you feel she's ready and YOU want it,then do it an see what happens. Worst case scenario: you get rejected! And then, who cares! On to the next pretty lady. At least you'd be being real to yourself and doing what you think is right. There is no perfect response to this, no magic answer. It is in your own hands, do what you want to do.
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 12:11
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@buddhagames:
Dude your way too above this to be a sticking point for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhmcJ7Zg5ko
Your fucking money!
Dude your way too above this to be a sticking point for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhmcJ7Zg5ko
Your fucking money!
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 12:47
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@buddhagames:
Naw this is a basic question that haunts guys at ALL levels no matter where you're at. Instructor or noob it's the same dealio.
Naw this is a basic question that haunts guys at ALL levels no matter where you're at. Instructor or noob it's the same dealio.
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Mon, 06/18/2012 - 13:18
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@Manwhore: Im too nooby :(
Manwhore imma save some cash and come out to vegas and do a bootcamp. All i need to do first is create a marketing empire online then me and you are gonna rob some banks!
Manwhore imma save some cash and come out to vegas and do a bootcamp. All i need to do first is create a marketing empire online then me and you are gonna rob some banks!
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 16:04
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@kris:
lol kris, I'm def. still newb man just so you know, but that's nice of you to say dude.
The whole reason I posted this is because it's like NEW for me. And it's like something I've never noticed before. It's like this really weird period of the girl being half hooked.
Oh also- I made a pact with myself that I would make this next year the year of me gaming a higher caliber girl... so I have a feeling a lot of issues will be coming up for me.
But kris, why do you think this is an issue that, even if I was advanced, I wouldn't be dealing with? What do you think the problem is... I'm interested to hear everyone's thoughts.
lol kris, I'm def. still newb man just so you know, but that's nice of you to say dude.
The whole reason I posted this is because it's like NEW for me. And it's like something I've never noticed before. It's like this really weird period of the girl being half hooked.
Oh also- I made a pact with myself that I would make this next year the year of me gaming a higher caliber girl... so I have a feeling a lot of issues will be coming up for me.
But kris, why do you think this is an issue that, even if I was advanced, I wouldn't be dealing with? What do you think the problem is... I'm interested to hear everyone's thoughts.
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 16:56
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@buddhagames:
To be honest i dont think ive come accross this yet, thats why. Not saying I havent ever. But just not something I am aware of happnening. Im not some player either slaying hoes everytime i go out but I find that being completely in my own reality I do not notice it. Like that vid I linked I probably assosicate the esxact same behaviour with the girl being shy or somehting. Its hard for me to put in words tbh, I suck at explaining stuff. i am teh noob
To be honest i dont think ive come accross this yet, thats why. Not saying I havent ever. But just not something I am aware of happnening. Im not some player either slaying hoes everytime i go out but I find that being completely in my own reality I do not notice it. Like that vid I linked I probably assosicate the esxact same behaviour with the girl being shy or somehting. Its hard for me to put in words tbh, I suck at explaining stuff. i am teh noob
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 17:16
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@kris:
Yeah, word I totally get that.
So I've been really thinking about this cause it IS new for me and I'm like, "Umm, well, why is this happening NOW"
couple things I can think of
1. I've been outta practice for almost a month now. Doing a lot of things to get me in a good headspace but not really approaching girls. So there's that
2. I decided to approach a higher caliber girl. And one thing I noticed about the really hot girls is that they never just like BLOW you out... it's always like sorta nice and just like... umm... okay. But nobody is ever like, "GET THE FUCK AWAY" ... it's sorta like they are still wanting to be nice even when they are blowing me out
3. Because I'm approaching hotter girls... I think that I'm not instatnly going as physical as I used to. Like, sure a couple times I approached girls in the vacinity the other night by just standing and talking to whoever I was talking to and then as they walked by like lightly grabbing their hand and sorta guiding them around me and then while holding the hand, looking them in the eyes and being like, "Hey, who are you"... it's actually a great opener for the right situation... But that was about the most physical I would get right off the bat
So I think THAT is a huge thing. Like I'm approaching hotter girls and for whatever reason, I'm not being as physical off the bat so then when I do try to initiate some physical escalation.. .it's totally incongruent and comes outta nowhere. Also- without that initial physicality, I just come across like a really chill, kinda cool dude... so girls don't feel they need to like BLOW me out but I'm also not turning them on in the same way I would if I was going physical
Like I got this a couple times the other night. I would be like, "I like you guys, you're fucking hot" and then they would kinda smile or laugh and be like, "I like you too, you're just so chill and relaxed"... so obviously for whatever reason they are seeing me as a cool guy but I'm just not getting that HARDCORE spike of attraction that you get when you go physical.
Maybe, if I just spend more time with them they would probably get more and more attracted and like this one girl had this really sexy slit in her dress and she's like, "OMG let's take a picture, I wanna do that analina jolie thing" and so she like put her leg on me and did that little photo op thing... so I mean there were def. times when girls were willing to get physical with me and shit but it wasn't on MY terms... I wasn't leading... so I think there are a lot of things that contributed to this.
Yeah, word I totally get that.
So I've been really thinking about this cause it IS new for me and I'm like, "Umm, well, why is this happening NOW"
couple things I can think of
1. I've been outta practice for almost a month now. Doing a lot of things to get me in a good headspace but not really approaching girls. So there's that
2. I decided to approach a higher caliber girl. And one thing I noticed about the really hot girls is that they never just like BLOW you out... it's always like sorta nice and just like... umm... okay. But nobody is ever like, "GET THE FUCK AWAY" ... it's sorta like they are still wanting to be nice even when they are blowing me out
3. Because I'm approaching hotter girls... I think that I'm not instatnly going as physical as I used to. Like, sure a couple times I approached girls in the vacinity the other night by just standing and talking to whoever I was talking to and then as they walked by like lightly grabbing their hand and sorta guiding them around me and then while holding the hand, looking them in the eyes and being like, "Hey, who are you"... it's actually a great opener for the right situation... But that was about the most physical I would get right off the bat
So I think THAT is a huge thing. Like I'm approaching hotter girls and for whatever reason, I'm not being as physical off the bat so then when I do try to initiate some physical escalation.. .it's totally incongruent and comes outta nowhere. Also- without that initial physicality, I just come across like a really chill, kinda cool dude... so girls don't feel they need to like BLOW me out but I'm also not turning them on in the same way I would if I was going physical
Like I got this a couple times the other night. I would be like, "I like you guys, you're fucking hot" and then they would kinda smile or laugh and be like, "I like you too, you're just so chill and relaxed"... so obviously for whatever reason they are seeing me as a cool guy but I'm just not getting that HARDCORE spike of attraction that you get when you go physical.
Maybe, if I just spend more time with them they would probably get more and more attracted and like this one girl had this really sexy slit in her dress and she's like, "OMG let's take a picture, I wanna do that analina jolie thing" and so she like put her leg on me and did that little photo op thing... so I mean there were def. times when girls were willing to get physical with me and shit but it wasn't on MY terms... I wasn't leading... so I think there are a lot of things that contributed to this.
Mon, 06/18/2012 - 17:43
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@buddhagames:
I find that I'll get this when I have already come across real cool to the girl, but than start to go into my head and trying to figure out what to do next to get her. Its like you're right at the point where you're coming across cool but you dont have that edge to you of taking what you want. Its like you're still looking to them for permission. I think they stick around to give you an opportunity to stop fucking up since they already think of you as cool. I think you're comletly right as well just stick in their and continue the interaction.
I find that I'll get this when I have already come across real cool to the girl, but than start to go into my head and trying to figure out what to do next to get her. Its like you're right at the point where you're coming across cool but you dont have that edge to you of taking what you want. Its like you're still looking to them for permission. I think they stick around to give you an opportunity to stop fucking up since they already think of you as cool. I think you're comletly right as well just stick in their and continue the interaction.