Question
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 14:02
What do you do in those sets that are going well and you have attraction and they are very invested and clearly interested and all that good stuff... BUT... you don't have like that SUPER attraction.. it's just like solid but not really like a "she wants to fuck me RIGHT FUCKING NOW" type attraction.
I've had this a couple times now.
Potential solutions:
1. Lead girls to upstairs bar which is near the dancefloor and start dancing
2. Start getting mroe and more physical
3. Combination of those two
Thoughts? It's just like the way I've been handling it isn't the best lmao... I've literally just been ejecting and finding other girls... not cause anything is going wrong at all, in fact these are often my strongest interactions, but because I just like don't see the interaction goign any further that night.
And THAT'S the issue... I don't see it going any further so of course, I don't see the opportunities to MAKE it go further.
I've had this a couple times now.
Potential solutions:
1. Lead girls to upstairs bar which is near the dancefloor and start dancing
2. Start getting mroe and more physical
3. Combination of those two
Thoughts? It's just like the way I've been handling it isn't the best lmao... I've literally just been ejecting and finding other girls... not cause anything is going wrong at all, in fact these are often my strongest interactions, but because I just like don't see the interaction goign any further that night.
And THAT'S the issue... I don't see it going any further so of course, I don't see the opportunities to MAKE it go further.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 17:17
#1
Re: Question
Probably escalation
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 17:45
#2
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@Sick-Cunt:
Yeah, I felt dumb after posting this cause yeah, obviously escalation is the answer...
I guess the problem is more internal or something.. .cause last night I had this hotty at the bar downstairs and like she was into it like really really into it but I just didn't know how to escalate... probably cause I'm gay. My dick wasn't hard.
I haven't jerked off in like 2.5 weeks- I'm pretty much horny like every second of the day, I don't know what was up. It's easier for me to get physical if the girl is standing up... well I guess that just means I have to orchestrate it so the girls stand up..
-If they don't stand up: How do you guys escalate on girls who are sitting down in a chair at a bar?
Yeah, I felt dumb after posting this cause yeah, obviously escalation is the answer...
I guess the problem is more internal or something.. .cause last night I had this hotty at the bar downstairs and like she was into it like really really into it but I just didn't know how to escalate... probably cause I'm gay. My dick wasn't hard.
I haven't jerked off in like 2.5 weeks- I'm pretty much horny like every second of the day, I don't know what was up. It's easier for me to get physical if the girl is standing up... well I guess that just means I have to orchestrate it so the girls stand up..
-If they don't stand up: How do you guys escalate on girls who are sitting down in a chair at a bar?
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 22:19
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@buddhagames:
Damn yeah this was something I had trouble with recently. This girl was giving me mad eye contact at the bar so I go over and mack. She's into it or whatever but I couldn't get her to stand up or even face me while we were talking she just kept facing the bar. Also some dude tried to tool me hard telling me to go talk to other girls but he ended up looking stupid. Anyway point is the problem was that I would like grab her legs to try to spin her around but it was only a half-ass attempt, and I said "You should turn around".
I think the "should" stuff is fucked. What I shoulda done is look at her with some intense eye contact and said "look at me when I'm talking to you girl" and just spun her around.
Idk I'm curious to what others have to say bout this.
Damn yeah this was something I had trouble with recently. This girl was giving me mad eye contact at the bar so I go over and mack. She's into it or whatever but I couldn't get her to stand up or even face me while we were talking she just kept facing the bar. Also some dude tried to tool me hard telling me to go talk to other girls but he ended up looking stupid. Anyway point is the problem was that I would like grab her legs to try to spin her around but it was only a half-ass attempt, and I said "You should turn around".
I think the "should" stuff is fucked. What I shoulda done is look at her with some intense eye contact and said "look at me when I'm talking to you girl" and just spun her around.
Idk I'm curious to what others have to say bout this.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 22:28
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@Alex123:
She wouldn't even face you? hmmm, I certailny wasn't have THAT problem... heh, both these girls were like eating out of my fuckin palm.. it was kinda redic.
But I DID have that same sorta problem with the first girl- if you read my field report, there was a point where she started to ignore me. She was standing up but yeah she randomly assumed this frame (it actualyl wasn't random.. I did little things to allow her to comfortable assume this frame) and then like wouldn't turn towards me and shit.
I suggested in my previous post to just go and hit on another girl. If there is another girl in the general vacinity that you know is into you that is obviously your BEST option.. if not, just go in on another girl with a hard approach and just make a point to spike the attractoin so the other girl gets jealous... that will put her in line probably. But then again, this is just a potential solution, I haven't had a chance to try it out yet...
She wouldn't even face you? hmmm, I certailny wasn't have THAT problem... heh, both these girls were like eating out of my fuckin palm.. it was kinda redic.
But I DID have that same sorta problem with the first girl- if you read my field report, there was a point where she started to ignore me. She was standing up but yeah she randomly assumed this frame (it actualyl wasn't random.. I did little things to allow her to comfortable assume this frame) and then like wouldn't turn towards me and shit.
I suggested in my previous post to just go and hit on another girl. If there is another girl in the general vacinity that you know is into you that is obviously your BEST option.. if not, just go in on another girl with a hard approach and just make a point to spike the attractoin so the other girl gets jealous... that will put her in line probably. But then again, this is just a potential solution, I haven't had a chance to try it out yet...
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 22:39
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@buddhagames:
One thing I always have done if I'm with a girl and I know she likes me... here's the secret you need....
Do whatever you want to do in the club man! Just drag her around with you like a lost child. I really don't think it matters, and that really attracted vibe normally comes with her spending more time in your reality. Just make sure your having fun dude!
One thing I always have done if I'm with a girl and I know she likes me... here's the secret you need....
Do whatever you want to do in the club man! Just drag her around with you like a lost child. I really don't think it matters, and that really attracted vibe normally comes with her spending more time in your reality. Just make sure your having fun dude!
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 22:41
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@kris:
hmm yeah, I def. dig that.
The issue was that this girl was being resistent to being led by me... Like the issue was that I had to break down that resistence and I never did that, really, I just fed it.
If I had broken down that initial resistence, I totally could have done what you're saying and it would have been golden. Good advice.
Thanks.
hmm yeah, I def. dig that.
The issue was that this girl was being resistent to being led by me... Like the issue was that I had to break down that resistence and I never did that, really, I just fed it.
If I had broken down that initial resistence, I totally could have done what you're saying and it would have been golden. Good advice.
Thanks.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 23:13
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@buddhagames:
If she isnt gonna do what you want to do, walk away.... you know what will happen.
If she isnt gonna do what you want to do, walk away.... you know what will happen.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 23:32
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@kris:
Yeah, if you read my field report, I go into detail about what I should have done.
You're absolutely right. I fucked up ; )
All of that is really solid input man. Appreciate it.
Yeah, if you read my field report, I go into detail about what I should have done.
You're absolutely right. I fucked up ; )
All of that is really solid input man. Appreciate it.
Wed, 06/27/2012 - 23:34
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@buddhagames:
No worries man, it's what were all here for
No worries man, it's what were all here for
Sun, 07/08/2012 - 22:07
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@buddhagames:
We went over this exact thing during our session did it answer your question?
We went over this exact thing during our session did it answer your question?
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