met this girl the other night with her friend. good interaction with both but had to go.
at one point she joked about wanting to drive a white bmw convertible and get huge fake tits
found her on facebook
me: just saw a little kid breaking into a white bmw and thought of you. how's your sunday?
her: ha! i want a white bmw! feeling pretty rubbish had a hen do last night. nothing a white russian couldn't cure. How're you doing? X
me:. ouch. i'm curing my hangover by putting a wardrobe together and drinking. come help me! (semi stolen from an old manwhore text convo but also true)
her: Um.. great offer
i was just going to reply something like
"well you're totally worth it"
"a friend in need eh? finished it myself thanks for nothing"
but feels a bit weak. and staling out the conversation. any advice most welcome
"not sure why anyone wouldn't want to sit around drinking and watching a man building a wardrobe but each to their own i guess. "
weird how writing it here helps even when no one replies
gonna go with not giving a shit
"it's good to sweat out a hangover. how're the white russians going down, is there any milk left in town?"
unless anyone has something better
her: white russian was good
well that de escalated quickly! haha can almost hear her vagina drying up!
idk. looks like you went for the meet up right off the bat and she was pretty turned off by it. dont know how solid the initial interaction was bt you two.
give her shit for giving you such weak text. but add humor. "lmao you text like my dad -after my mom had my baby sister- 'mother had baby. baby is good'"
dont b afraid to make some random shit up. get a lil convo going before trying to make something happen again
thanks man makes sense.
i find it funny that she took it as an insult when it was clearly playful so yeah, maybe not as strong an interaction as i thought.
i'll use your idea but as this is a facebook message say something like:
"jeez you write like my dad. When my little sister was born I get "mother had baby. baby is good"
nice. gonna leave it for tonight and restart the banter tomorrow
Macdoogie one thing I've noticed about your convos and even from back during coaching is you interpret/screen things as negative, and you force yourself to respond in kind. That didn't have to shut you down at ALL, but you chose to respond to it as if something was wrong.. Be like, "don't worry I got a pink hard hat for you and a stripper pole you'll be more than fine. Can you get a move on tho cuz these drinks WILL drink themselves I heard"
Now sure she plainly might not have been able to make it but that would still be a great frame to set.
damn, you see that's why i came to the forum with this.
like i knew that what i asked was ok but i expected her to find it funny or respond in fun (and in a way she did if you lose the negative tinted glasses)
what i sent back was getting towards a reframe but i still backed down like a chastised child.
man i need to internalise this shit a lot better. thanks for the reminder.
think i'm gonna leave this chick alone for now as she lives near me and i'll probably bump into her again.