Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
Fri, 01/11/2013 - 16:58
Met this girl on the street. Git her number, texted back and forth a bit then she disappeared. Last week she texted me;
Her: sorry hkmt i couldnt get back to you. I was in wales, signal was shit there. How are you anyway
Chit chat a bit..
2 days after
Me: Hey.. Whats your schedule like this weekend? I will take you out to a kick ass bar.. (credits to buddhagames)
Her: (51min later) A kick ass bar eh? I'm not feeling too great today but if a good nights sleep does the trick then I'll let you know x
Me: (45min later) Let me tell you the trick; go to bed early, hug your fluffy teddy bear and think about how awesome our night will be. That will help ;)
Her: (1min later) And if I don't haveta fluffy teddy bear? X
Me: (2min later) Doesnt matter, hug a pillow and feel better. If not i will give you some hugs tomorrow, which will make you feel great instantly
The next day I called her she didnt respond. Around 10pm
Her: So it appears I've spent the whole day sleeping... X
I was partying so i didnt reply. The next morning;
Me: How do you feel today then?
No response. This last text was sent on sunday then I called her on wednesday she didnt pick up nor did she get back to me. Can someone explain me what went wrong here? And also how should I reengage her? I was thinking to text;
Yo girl, next time if you feel bad just let me know. I will be your dr.house and treat you with my special prescriptions..
But i dont think the timing will be good as she was sick last week. Plus there is a high probability that she will misunderstand "the secret prescription" bit. Thoughts??
Her: sorry hkmt i couldnt get back to you. I was in wales, signal was shit there. How are you anyway
Chit chat a bit..
2 days after
Me: Hey.. Whats your schedule like this weekend? I will take you out to a kick ass bar.. (credits to buddhagames)
Her: (51min later) A kick ass bar eh? I'm not feeling too great today but if a good nights sleep does the trick then I'll let you know x
Me: (45min later) Let me tell you the trick; go to bed early, hug your fluffy teddy bear and think about how awesome our night will be. That will help ;)
Her: (1min later) And if I don't haveta fluffy teddy bear? X
Me: (2min later) Doesnt matter, hug a pillow and feel better. If not i will give you some hugs tomorrow, which will make you feel great instantly
The next day I called her she didnt respond. Around 10pm
Her: So it appears I've spent the whole day sleeping... X
I was partying so i didnt reply. The next morning;
Me: How do you feel today then?
No response. This last text was sent on sunday then I called her on wednesday she didnt pick up nor did she get back to me. Can someone explain me what went wrong here? And also how should I reengage her? I was thinking to text;
Yo girl, next time if you feel bad just let me know. I will be your dr.house and treat you with my special prescriptions..
But i dont think the timing will be good as she was sick last week. Plus there is a high probability that she will misunderstand "the secret prescription" bit. Thoughts??
Fri, 01/11/2013 - 19:00
#1
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
Seems like low IL man. Continue to reengage for fun but invest little energy in the interaction.
Fri, 01/11/2013 - 19:12
#2
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@rogan:
What does IL mean??
Well i am partying tonight so tomorrow Morning I might text smthing like;
"it was one of the CRAZIEST nights ever!! You should have seen the party rachael!!"
What does IL mean??
Well i am partying tonight so tomorrow Morning I might text smthing like;
"it was one of the CRAZIEST nights ever!! You should have seen the party rachael!!"
Fri, 01/11/2013 - 21:12
#3
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@hkmt:
Low interest level/ low investment level.
Low interest level/ low investment level.
Fri, 01/11/2013 - 22:15
#4
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@hkmt:
I vote no for your text idea it is unoriginal and gives no value. You'd be better off saying she should've seen the grocery store today..at least that builds intrigue.
I vote no for your text idea it is unoriginal and gives no value. You'd be better off saying she should've seen the grocery store today..at least that builds intrigue.
Sat, 01/12/2013 - 00:21
#5
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@hkmt:
Yeah man, just kinda a weird text.
it's mad try-hard
Yeah man, just kinda a weird text.
it's mad try-hard
Sat, 01/12/2013 - 01:39
#6
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
You're pushing too hard for the meetup without having any kind of a conversation. It seems a bit serial killerish. So you invite her out a bunch, push for it, then she texts you back about sleeping all day, and you IMMEDIATELY go for the meetup again without any fluff at all. There's persistence, and then there's aspergers. This falls in the latter.
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Sat, 01/12/2013 - 05:16
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@Manwhore:
Actually when I texted "How do you feel today then", I didn't have any intention to meet her, it wasn't an invitation. It was a genuine interest to her health but even if you misunderstood, I bet she was thinking the same...
Actually when I texted "How do you feel today then", I didn't have any intention to meet her, it wasn't an invitation. It was a genuine interest to her health but even if you misunderstood, I bet she was thinking the same...
Sat, 01/12/2013 - 05:22
#8
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@buddhagames:
Hey buddha. I know you have improved your game dramatically recently.
Because in my mind I interpret this party text as;
1- This guy has a fun life, fun social atmosphere etc.
2- This guy can have fun without me, he probably has other girls around him
When I think like that obviously it comes up as high value. Can you tell me why this is try hard and low value? Also can you give an example which is not try hard and offers high value?
No matter what happens, even if I need to burn 100 chicks or if I need to read 500 English books, I will learn that shit...
Hey buddha. I know you have improved your game dramatically recently.
Because in my mind I interpret this party text as;
1- This guy has a fun life, fun social atmosphere etc.
2- This guy can have fun without me, he probably has other girls around him
When I think like that obviously it comes up as high value. Can you tell me why this is try hard and low value? Also can you give an example which is not try hard and offers high value?
No matter what happens, even if I need to burn 100 chicks or if I need to read 500 English books, I will learn that shit...
Sat, 01/12/2013 - 17:49
#9
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@hkmt:
Right, so the principles you mentioned are important.
1- This guy has a fun life, fun social atmosphere etc.
2- This guy can have fun without me, he probably has other girls around him
So that's what you want to SHOW the girl.
So why is your test not accomplishing this?
It goes back to the idea that if you have a TON of money- you're not going to go up to a girl and be like, "Hey, I'm a billionaire"
You're TRYING to tell the girl the above principles instead of SHOWING her
Key Lesson: Girls respond to BEHAVIORS more so than WORDS
So what's the takeaway here? The takeaway is that you want to convey the principles you mentioned, without it coming across like that's what you're TRYING to tell her. So you want to send her texts that have, as their premise, the above principles but don't actually hit her over the head with it.
Right, so the principles you mentioned are important.
1- This guy has a fun life, fun social atmosphere etc.
2- This guy can have fun without me, he probably has other girls around him
So that's what you want to SHOW the girl.
So why is your test not accomplishing this?
It goes back to the idea that if you have a TON of money- you're not going to go up to a girl and be like, "Hey, I'm a billionaire"
You're TRYING to tell the girl the above principles instead of SHOWING her
Key Lesson: Girls respond to BEHAVIORS more so than WORDS
So what's the takeaway here? The takeaway is that you want to convey the principles you mentioned, without it coming across like that's what you're TRYING to tell her. So you want to send her texts that have, as their premise, the above principles but don't actually hit her over the head with it.
Sat, 01/12/2013 - 21:30
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Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@buddhagames:
Do you mean like an "DHV story" type of text or like subcomunicating with your behaviours like through your "personality"?
Would you give an exemple on that?
Do you mean like an "DHV story" type of text or like subcomunicating with your behaviours like through your "personality"?
Would you give an exemple on that?
Tue, 01/22/2013 - 03:38
#11
Re: Rachael - can someone explain me the dynamics here??
@buddhagames:
yh, you want your awesomeness to be understated.
it's about value - if you flaunt it, it's tacky, distasteful and lacks authenticity. If you effortlessly ooze it out of your armpits then it's highly attractive, cause you ain't said shit about it.
basically with that text in particular it would be more awesome to say, "partied all night yesterday. gonna give myself a full body check to see if all my limbs are still in tact..." - doesn't require a response, it shows you partied hard, and she'll be curious about what kind of beast you are.
yh, you want your awesomeness to be understated.
it's about value - if you flaunt it, it's tacky, distasteful and lacks authenticity. If you effortlessly ooze it out of your armpits then it's highly attractive, cause you ain't said shit about it.
basically with that text in particular it would be more awesome to say, "partied all night yesterday. gonna give myself a full body check to see if all my limbs are still in tact..." - doesn't require a response, it shows you partied hard, and she'll be curious about what kind of beast you are.