Re engaging a girl after a long time
So here is the deal. I just browsed through my old phone pics and came across a few naughty pics from a girl which at that time resulted in a few hot nights. After that she said she is afraid she will fall for me and it is best to stop meeting. Anyway that was like 2 years ago. Now I saw the pics again and would like to re engage and taste her delicious body again. The last time I spoke to her was 1.5 years ago, but I know she is still single. How do I approach this. What I had in mind was to like send a message "Hi Jessy, whats up? I just browsed through my phone and found some pics that brought back some good memmories;)". Is that too direct for the first message?
Yeah that would be too much lol.
I'd text her something simple like, "Hey stranger danger. Long time"
It's a bit of a cliffhanger but includes enough built-in rapport along wth obvious intrigue.
Thanks MW, I'll do that and try to build some rapport before bringing up the pics:D Any pointers on how long should I wait before doing that?
By the way I can't find anywhere the price for your live coaching. Since your book isn't available I am thinking about applaying as soon as I get some cash.
I don't list it anywhere. You have to fill out a coaching form
I'm not sure your point of bringing up the pics. What's your line of thinking on that
I was thinking that by sending her the pics it would set the frame of "we already did that, it was fun,why not do it again". This way she knows exzactly why I re engaged her and there is no confussion. Or maybe I have this all wrong.
I was thinking that by sending her the pics it would set the frame of "we already did that, it was fun,why not do it again". This way she knows exzactly why I re engaged her and there is no confussion. Or maybe I have this all wrong.
Yeah that's not the way the feminine mind works. In fact men have been making that assumption for centuries and failing miserably.
Thanks MW, I guess I have a lot to learn.
Another example...I matched up with this girl on tinder, we exchanged a few text, actually not very short ones, talking what we do some general stuff. Now she started me asking what I like to do in the evenings and on the weekends for fun. I told her I am all about adventure and doing everything that is fun and kind of stupid, teased her a little about some stuff she told me about herself, then asked her what was her deal. She told me she is really hyperactive, likes to party a lot, but now when winter aproaches calms down a little. Now she asked me what was the stupidest(in a good sense)/most adventures thing I have done. I really don't know how to approach this. Should I tell her about fooling around with a girl on a boat in Thailand when next to it was a fisherman sleeping or the time I went to India an got a shady taxi driver in the middle of the night, not really knowing where he is taking me. I really don't remember any good stories or what is best to reply here? Would appreciate some advice on how to best handle this kind of situation.
Ok so for the initial girl, just run proper text game and get the meetup. That's your main directive. Don't remind her of the dick she got last time that'll happen naturally.
As far as this girl you're right to think there's some sort of "play" to be made here. She's testing to see your level of "adventurousness", e.g. she's looking to see if she's going to get some dick on the first date. But the idea is to hint at this without making it seem like you're assuming it. This is mostly always the tightrope you walk with girls heading into a meetup until you start getting into higher territory where you're really good at sex or possess some other form of "higher" value. So in other words you want to hint at the fact she's going to have a "good" time, without being too clear on what that actually means.
HER:
Aaa so you asumed what I am like right away :P {I told her that she doesn't seem that boorig as I first thaught}
I was at the sea yesterday, it was sunny and veery warm, well It is not bad here today as well:)
Aaaa so you always ready for action..tell me the dumbets thing you ever did, not necessarily bad, but like the craziest :) {This is because I told her I am down for anything, and love to do things that leave you good memmories}
I love spontaneus evenings as well..but it depends...sometimes I am very hyperactive and party a lot and in winter I calm down a little bit:)
So this is her last message to me, the one I described. Now what I came up with for the response is written bellow. The story that I describe about the boat is not actually true, I really was in Thailand and hooked up with a girl on a boat, it just went down a little different, harder to make it in an appealing, only hint story.
ME:
Yeah I love sunny weather especially at the sea, it just feels you up with positive energy so you can do crazy shit in the evening :P
One of the craziest things I did was in Thailand. I met this Australian girl and we really hit it off, so around 11pm when all the stars were out, we met up on the beach and stole a small fishing boat, took it to the middle of the bay spent a couple of hours there when in the meantime there were like soldiers with guns patrolling the beach with lamps and dogs. Lets just say that it all could have ended misserably.
So what are you up to this weekend? We can meet up and you can tell me some of your crazy stories;)
This is what I intend to send her, what do you think, too long, too explicit?
Haha! That's almost solid. Btw stealing the boat and the guards on the beach, that true?
The guards on the beach are true but we didn't actually steal the boat per say, we just climbed onto one that was anchored in the bay
update
HER:
Haa thats a good one yeah:)
I stayed at home to maybe get some work done and study...was supposed to go out with girl friends today, some of them are up but just told me now that they are too lazy to go. Maybe it is better because I have a lot of things tommorow. Dunno. You? Are you going out?
So it's saturday night and I plan on staying in because gotta get up early in the morning and have a sore throat, some kind of infection.
If I am not interpreting this wrong she is fishing for an invite. Would love to take her out but in this condition I can't. Still thinking what my best move is. Will update when I figure it out.
Just make it seem like you can't hang out 'cuz you got secret plans you can't divulge. But it has to do with saving King and Country. Shit like that. It'll make her even more eager to meet up when you can.