Salsa dancer chick from tinder

me: alright, I didn't text for a while, but flying away is also not a solution

her: ?! ?! *( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) *

me: maybe just yesterday was too hardcore but the tinders seemingly showed you're 1000 miles away - (4 miles now)

her: :D I was in XY the whole time

me: pff I thought you danced off to Spain for the weekend or something (her profile has also Spain love besides dance)

her: *( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) **( laugh smiley) *

her: greatly witty, and your bio is godlike as well  *(cool smiley)* (that is great, because I added a slight polarizing to it, so that's a green light baby)

me: thanks pumpkin, I think we'd get along ;)

me: how goes the Sunday? 

her: pumpkin?!  *( laugh smiley) * well, finally I bought new shoes for salsa parties

me: one of your nicknames, get used to it

me: I hope there is something else on the floor beside dancing 

her: your texts are fucking awesome  *( laugh smiley) * *( laugh smiley) *

her: what else can be on the floor?

me: drinks for two. you and me. clothing optional

her: are you that cool in real life as well?

me: only if I find my socks that match, plus at full moon

Now it was fairly quick up to this point, here she stopped. But it turned out that the webapp doesn't show that she 'liked' my last message.  Which is not the best, but still positive imo. So I went on.

so like 3 hours later:

me: you should rather send me hearts over WhatsApp. Tinder is lunatic and doesn't notify. 

me: XXX-XXX-XXX

no answer or texts so far

Pretty fucking good. Keep it up.

Only mistakes I saw:

"I think we'd get along." (PFF)

"Matching socks.." (Seems a bit too much fuckboy but I could be wrong)

Pretty good stuff man. We shall see if she bites.

thanks guys, no sign of life thou. 

I assume she kinda liked my stuff, just got distracted by others or uni etc.

So I think about a slightly disapproving text or gif something like this:

with text, I have more room though

me: you forgot to send flirty messages, I'll make sure to mess up my socks boo 

or assuming she is old school and wants me to message her first. 

me: alright grandma, let me text you first like it's 1950. number? ( I added the year just to make it less easy to misunderstand...) 

Yeah back in the day I'd do an online # close and invariably the girl would send me her num instead. Girls were actually that shy. Nowadays if you have a decent enough convo they'll send the first text. That's a bit of a new thing. 

My online # close included a "text me or shoot me your num ### I promise to only [blank] you on Thursdays ;)"

Anyway from here you would want to make a joke about her lack of response then do # close that includes an option to shoot you her num instead. She's probably one of those

Just remember.. this is NOT about your lack of game. This is about how awful girls are with dating. They suck at it too, just like you poor fags

Forgot to mention, that second one about grandma is pretty damn funny but possibly a bit too harsh lol. 

"Well I got my matching batman socks, so.. we're good. I'm down to rob an ice cream truck or tp your neighbors. Text me ### or shoot me yer num"

E.g. be light on the heavy engagement early. Girls are secretly skittish even though they act like they're bad asses 

ahh thanks, I was like, you didn't say nothing about my drafts so oh well then back to the drawing board

and I was actually thinking about PB's nooooooooooooooo :(  - just to make it less intense, especially that you thought the matching socks seems to be too much fuckboy 

Btw I don't think she is old school, I just think it's a great frame as it suggests that I'm surprised she didn't text me and has a bit of disapproval for her lack of texting. 

Although a dance chick needs probably more leading. 

Dancers as a group are neurotic 

You may have lost her. You’re looking desperate now. Some girls will literally fill you with  validation then disappear to see how far you crawl for there attention. I would disappear for a couple days then throw in some strong Reengagement.

Seems like. I guess her being 20 doesn't help. I'll hit her up on the weekend. 

@MW

I tend to think that people with a higher affinity for arts are somewhat more likely to be neurotic. Haven't thought that about dancers thou. Also, don't really know many... well, gonna hit up one hottie now  

So but what'd you end up texting her? 

me: Well I got my matching batman socks, so.. we're good.
me: I'm down to rob a cauldron of mulled wine or prank your neighbors. 

I left out the number part, as
1) she already has mine, and if she doesn't want to text first, she can just msg me back on tinder. 
2) with her not answering before - there were already 5 messages from me in a row. Not that I'm too concerned about that 'investment dynamics', but seemed a bit too much to invite her and also ask for the number at that stage. 

But now coming to think about it this invitation looks a bit weird without the # part. Still solid imo. 

You completely missed my point. Lol

Anybody else seeing this?? Lol

nooooooo. fuck.

Well, probably was for a reason bc I'm still quite clueless. 

I didn't see an issue in separating as your first instinct was to send sth. funny then #close. 

the call to action was to give her an easier way to respond?

Probably didn't fully understand this part

"E.g. be light on the heavy engagement early. Girls are secretly skittish even though they act like they're bad asses"

The point you missed was that you didn't show any disapproval to her not texting you by throwing some humor at it. You went ahead and tried to go for a meetup option after she didn't even give you her number, left you at ignore.

What he means by the engagement is that if you show lots of engagement/interest/hardcore awesomeness early on it makes girl hesitant to act, so they run away even if they do like you. You have to slowly boil the pot and put it on simmer sometimes. Let it take its natural rhythm. 

oh yeah, that was my original plan... 

I thought by saying that my version was probably too harsh + mentioning that girls can be easily scared he meant I should just send his version right away and not after a disqualification. Also, I didn't expect a crafted message for one step ahead tbh.

I think the 'hard part' here was to come up with the right and funny disqualification.

maybe something like "hm I hope you're not an old man, who stole a young chicks pics" would've done it.

or "but maybe you're not {her name} in real life at all..." - reflecting to her question about real life. 

You don't need to "disqualify", that's taking it a bit too far. Just poke a lil fun at her lack of response. (That old man one is taking it too far, and the life text is lame)

"Hey its ok if you have a flip-phone i dont judge."

^^

I totally, disagree with you. Dancers are healthy person, they are not neurotic or something. In fact I danced a lot also. Dancing actually is a good exercise.