Scientists May Have Discovered The Real Cause Of Addiction
Makes sense, mental illness and child abuse run rampant in people with addiction issues. Their caged in their own mind in a way and drugs allow them to escape.
That's way too narrow a way of looking at this. The way to understand this is to understand that emotional states are also addictions. Social anxiety, approach anxiety, performance anxiety, even things like E.D., resentment towards women, being stifled around them, being afraid to "lead" them, or freezing up right before sex, etc. These are all just stupid addictions that the brain is wired to access when these conditions are existent. But as the article also states, for these to be removed they HAVE TO BE replaced with better options, choices of behavior, technical know-how, etc.
These addictive mental and emotional states won't just magically heal themselves. You've got to change your environment to change your results. Get proper training or simply work to desensitize yourself and after a usually indeterminable amount of time you'll get over it and develop the skills lol.
The dudes that have made progress in game have simply succeeded in beating a lot of their old emotional addictions. Which is great. Either that or they were naturals who were raised in an environment where it was normal to interact with wiminz. But if they keep working on the rest of their negative emotional patterns/addictions and they'll get better and better.
For example rather than feeling "helpless" and giving up when a girl doesn't comply to giving you her number, or leaving the club with you, or sucking your dick, you don't let that emotional state linger instead you stay positive and casual and KEEP WORKING to get her compliant
To a certain degree this is getting way too deep into theory and keyboard jockey psychobabble but the effects of this are actually SUPER common. Think about any Asian or Indian guy you know that complains that white girls don't like his race. He's ADDICTED to that idea and this BLOCKS him from adopting the right mindsets and subsequent behaviors that would make girls respond well to him. My Asian and Indian students have NO problems with white girls, but that's because I don't entertain those limiting beliefs they're fucking retarded. And the results speak for themselves.
As another example you've got people that are addicted to the idea that guys that come off as leaders or "alpha", are douchebags, and so they never develop powerful communication skills themselves because they think it's "wrong". Believe me I know, they're all on my YouTube channel LOL. Or take Elliot Rodger for example, he was ADDICTED to the idea that women didn't like him and he needed to get revenge on them.
That's a really awesome way of explaining things MW. Makes a lot of sense to me anyways.
Tolle defines addication as when you no longer have the ability to stop, but this way is a lot better and gives insight into how to break addictions. Tolle helps as well though, as always.
Yeah that's a great way of understanding/explaining it... your brain presents you with the shitty emotion+behaviour option of "this is scary therefore I won't do it".