Self awareness

Journaling for sure. I do it everyday before bed and just flesh shit out. It started out as a way to remember cool shit that happened to me in the day and ended up being a template for pouring out my mental chatter into concrete thoughts on a page.

I write out emotions and why I'm feeling them. I write out new and old ideas running around in my head and connect them. I write out lay reports. Anything that happened in the day that I learned or experienced is game. 

Some days are funny comedic writings, other days are sad and depressing. Oddly enough, its helped w my verbal game and presence as well. It's another form of active meditation and brings thoughts into actual reality where you can shape them to your will. Moreover, its another form of repetition for advantageous beliefs.

Wellllll... this might not be much help to you, but a huge thing for me was monitoring my boners, or lack therof. Sometimes I would be flirting or touching a girl or even fantasizing about hot girls on the internet and I would notice that I don't have a boner even though I clearly should. I should be able to get a boner in all non-traumatic situations; not having one in an easy situation means that there is some bullshit to be weeded out. We might be able to hide from or rationalize our emotions, but not being able to get hard is a very clear, very unavoidable thing that has a way of making us ask, "What the hell is going on??"

I then search my emotions to see what the problem was. There are a TON of feelings, or so it seems to me, that can prevent boners. If I feel inadequate it doesn't happen. If I feel weak it doesn't happen. If I'm fucking around in life it won't happen. If I'm butthurt about something it doesn't happen. Sometimes a girl I liked would flirt with a certain type of dude and it would trigger some previously unseen insecurity in me. If you are insecure, you will not get a boner. By working through this shit, your life improves IMMENSELY.

You have to go deep in yourself and find the emotion in question. Look for the physical symptoms. Tightness, constriction, stifledness, etc. Ask yourself why the emotion is there. Once you find out what triggered it, you have to beat it in your mind.

Are you angry at the girl for something dumb that you can't control? Is she being a real fuckin bitch for no reason and you're starting to get butthurt? Imagine yourself lovingly but roughly fucking her. Imagine choking her while she stares up into your eyes calling you daddy, begging you to go deeper and deeper inside her. Imagine completely controlling her pussy and making her cum over and over when you decide she's ready. Feel her love for you. Imagine her apologizing afterwards for being such a bitch. Imagine kissing her and telling her it's ok.

Did you get tooled the fuck out and you can't get over it? Imagine handling it perfectly. Really go through the steps in your mind; play the whole situation out in excruciating detail. This is critical. By visualizing with this much detail, you are basically reliving the situation, but this time you are reliving it properly. Your mind now believes you can handle the situation in question and your shitty emotions will be replaced with awesome ones.

The more you do this, the better you get at weeding. Your experiences in life go even further because now if you mess up you can fix shit in your mind to a certain degree instead of spinning your wheels wondering why you can't get better. I've been doing this for a long time and it's one of the biggest, if not the biggest, drivers for improvement that I have.

Listen to subtle little jokes and labels that are thrown at you. A few weeks ago a friend of mine equated me to the "sleezy" version of some popular dude at my school that he happened to go to high school with. I was somewhat flattered for a brief second then I realized how fuckin awful that was! Good friends will be honest.

I wouldn't agree with this. 

Shooky look at your emotional triggers and thought patters, and when you find yourself experiencing bad emotions, trace them to their source. Examine the thoughts and behaviors, then examine the beliefs they're founded on. Figure out if they need tweaking, removal, or if you simply have behaviors and thought patterns that are programmed for beliefs that actually aren't there anymore then you just need to adopt new ones. Rinse, wash, repeat. 

Unless you actually do think you're being sleazy then yes fix that shit. Lol

wobordor, still good value! i guess i'll get a remote mositure detector or summin. lol

i've been doing that since i saw this. Apprently, I still have some old prehistoric nasties running around that i had thought were extinct. 

i used to journal my thoughts heaps as a teenager and young adult. miss it. i'm taking it back up. i do take personal notes intermittenly, like if i get an ephiphany.