She Ended It and Now She Is Hitting Me Up
Alright so I was seeing this girl, sort of, and she withdrew completely from me. Pretty fucked up. A while back she aplogized big time and I let her back into my lfie. Then she did it again, basically telling me that she still had feelings for her ex, when previously she assured me shed hadn't. This was a couple months ago.
Anyways, I was pretty upset when she cut things off the secodn time. I wasn't even that mad at her, I was more upset with myself for gettting so invested with her.
I realized that I became a huge pussy during the process of seeing her. Was messaging her all the time and was acting like a complete faggot.
So anyways, 6 weeks after she cut things off, (today) she has hit me back up.
Now obviously I'm not going to let her back into my life. She is toxic poison. The type of girl that withdraws interest as soon as it is given to her and that craves attention when she can't have something.
As well, I have a ton of really cute girsl in the line up already.
So how do you play it with these types of girls.
Do you flat out just ignore them? Or do you tell them they basically fucked up their chances with you and you don't want to hear from them again ?
I was hurt pretty bad when she cut things off and still had unresolved feeligns for her ex. Obviously this was mostly my own ego identification. BUt nontheless, there was some hurt there. I try not to have any negative emotions towards anyone I just know deep down, nothing good can come from her. So yah. Has this type of stuff happened to you guys before? Obviously if I wasn't such a fag, I would have cut her off long ago before it could escalate to this point or she would ahve smartned up and accepted my boundries. But it's quite apparent I wasn't firm enough at the time. Definitely not going to make this mistake again.
lol the following spawned within one hour
her: Hey Greg
her: I know you probably hate me.. a lot but I just kind of wanted to explain what happened on reading week
her: I mean that is if you want to hear it
her: But if you don't, I understand
her: ?
her: Okay well I guess just msg me if you ever want to talk....
her: You're legit killing meeee
her: Will you please answer
her: :( Patrick
her: Okay I get you probably never want to talk to me again but I just wanted to say I'm really sorry and I hope you're doing well! Also I promise this is my last msg
Alternatively, I do feel tempted to poke into her thought processes a little bit.
ex:
"Why are you messaging me now?
Why are you aplogizing now all of a sudden, not 6 weeks ago?
What is your hidden agenda, what do you want from me?
You realize this is a complete dejavu?
Things build up and I open myself up to you and then you flat out withdraw, time goes by and you want my attention again. You then try to manipulate your way back into my life so you can do it all over again. I know you're probably not going to take this well, but perhaps you should see a psychologist, instead of actually studying to become one. Not trying to be a dick, just trying to help
I have nothing more to say to you. You have fucked up your chances with me completely and indefinitely. And all those questions I asked you just now, they're rhetorical so please don't bother responding. Adios, have fun!"
haha okay maybe that's a little much butttttt kidna funny. Could come accross a little but hurt but sometimes people need to get drilled for their behaviour. And obviouly I can't be upset at her becuase I let myself get hurt and I probably learned a good deal from it. And obviously I completely forgive her becuase she was unconsious, the pain body inside her had taken her over. But doesn't mean I can't show her that she crossed the line big time and there's no way she's coming back into my life.
I wouldn't try to act like you're affected by it when you do communicate, but I'd try to go no contact for at least a few days.
"Who is this"
then go no contact. It will shatter her soul
"Who is this"then go no contact. It will shatter her soul
Lol I wish! It's on this stupid Group Me app. So she knows that I know it's her. She also know that I've read all her messages but just haven't responded yet.
Just ignore. There's nothing worse for a girl then not being validated. I know responding seems like the right thing to do but you said yourself that you don't want to see her again. Why give her a reason? Let her think about it and maybe she'll discover the answer herself.
You should see a psychologist instead of actually studying to become one.
Well that would be a finisher.
The thing is is she's playing the emotional card. She shouldn't think she's able to play the emotional card with you. Something is up with that dookie. The fact she's trying to bait you for a response but NOT explaining herself first? Girl Game 101.
I would just turn this into something more casual and see how she responds. "I'm seeing other girls. I don't care to do this again with you. Unless it's with another girl at the same time. Then maybe"
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You should see a psychologist instead of actually studying to become one.Well that would be a finisher.
The thing is is she's playing the emotional card. She shouldn't think she's able to play the emotional card with you. Something is up with that dookie. The fact she's trying to bait you for a response but NOT explaining herself first? Girl Game 101.
I would just turn this into something more casual and see how she responds. "I'm seeing other girls. I don't care to do this again with you. Unless it's with another girl at the same time. Then maybe"
hahhah that's absolutely gold! You're the fucking man! And yes, somehting is up with that. I did mention I was being a faggot with her, didn't I? Don't worry, I have become much more icy. In fact, shortly after things with her ended, you made me realize how much of a fag I was being and I've since corrected.
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