Shittests are easy but compliments? and being too nice to fattys
Wed, 09/05/2012 - 03:42
I had a great weekend going out! Long weekend here in canada and Rsd was in town. Went to the freetour and Toronto was MASSIVELY represented. I regret not doing hotseat though.. Oh well. Went out last mon/Tuesday. Then thurs-Sunday. And one problem that keeps coming up is compliments. I like don't know w
how to take them. Lol sounds fucked when I type it out. Which it kind of is. Like Im thinking of Alex's excersize in his program (I am just a man). But don't really know how to take that when I get a compliment. With a shit test or negative comment I just lol in my head and flex my emotional fortitude as manwhore says. But for example on Sunday a girl I was spending a lot of time with that night and got playfully physical (thumb wrestled, tried to pick her nose, head lock) and sexually physical (wrapped arms around each other, long hugs while hip to hip. No makeout, waitin till we're alone) and we had lots of great fun of funny vibing along with a bit of serious rapport/comfort. I leave and game some more. Later on I met up with her and her two friends and they are bitching about a guy friend who ditched one of their friends cause he is dating someone. I joined their convo and 30 seconds later she looks at me, smiles and says "Icewahine you make me smile! I was mad until you came." I forget what I said it was something sappy ("d'awwww" maybe?) and I gave her a hug. Later on in the night both our groups are at a smaller afterhours party and I'm chilling with her friends again. She complimented me again out of no where (maybe cause I was talking other friend a bit more??) and said a similar thing. That no matter what I bring positive emotions. But.. This time it was more of a friendly compliment instead of a SOI. Hard to say why I got that vibe. I would've escalated but I'm trying not to do any makeouts until sex is a possibility unless of course it needs to be done. So I just kinda looked at her, grabbed her hand, smiled and gave her a little squeeze. Then we were off to regular banter. Inside my head I was feeling weird. I didn't know why she was complimenting me like that and I didn't know how to respond. Especially since it was a friendly compliment and I couldn't escalate. But it kind of put me in my head... I wish I could break it down more but that's all I remember and that's all I know why it happened and don't know why I felt that way. Weird. Going to be more watchful for this stuff in the future. Thoughts?
And one other thing that happened this weekend is guys and girls, whom I am NOT going for, just being friendly towards Have tried to set me up with fattys/weird/not hot chicks. Two examples of this. One - I was chilling with a friend, two girls and their friend. Neither girl I am interested in and I am winging my buddy. Then the girls talk to my friend for a sec and turn to me. They decide they have a friend or two who really like me. They were creeping the girls facebooks and said I was cute. Now the girls wantto set me up with her and my buddy is like "lmaaoo everyone crave icewahinss D!" I already know who they are talking about. She is a 6/10 and blah personality. There are better fish in that pond I can catch. So I just kinda play and joke it off. But fuck why would they think I want a sub par girl.
Next example is a friend of a chick I was flirting with. The friend knows this. I am openly touching her and later on I hug her friend goodbye and in my ear she's like "I really like you." I didn't know what to say because I would (and might) bang this girl but I prefer her friend. Lmao I didn't know what to say. I could've gone for this chick before but chose not to. And she thinks it's cause I don't get the hint and tells me? Dumb bitch if I wanted you I'd go for it. So I just kind of ignored it and carried on regular convo. All was good. Then it comes out a few weeks ago she got really drunk because she saw me at a bar and was nervous. Thaaa fuckk. Why would she tell me this?? I'm so confused. I kind of ignore the "because of me" part and carry on Convo.
K so like I don't really get it. Why do these girls think I'm too stupid to go for something I want and that I don't notice they like me. I already know you like me I'm not making a move cause I don't want to! I treat them like regular friends. Is it cause I am just attracting them and they are social retards and think its cool just to say shit like that? And lastly how should I handle this? Like I had nooo idea what to say cause while I'd do her, I'd rather her friend and I think it's fucked she drank instead of talked to me. Ive been thinking about calling her out on it either in text or in person. "you got drunk cause of me? Why didn't you just talk to me? I would've made a move if I wanted, I know you like me" it would be fun and start drama but I just want to hook up with her friend soooo... Leave it for now?
how to take them. Lol sounds fucked when I type it out. Which it kind of is. Like Im thinking of Alex's excersize in his program (I am just a man). But don't really know how to take that when I get a compliment. With a shit test or negative comment I just lol in my head and flex my emotional fortitude as manwhore says. But for example on Sunday a girl I was spending a lot of time with that night and got playfully physical (thumb wrestled, tried to pick her nose, head lock) and sexually physical (wrapped arms around each other, long hugs while hip to hip. No makeout, waitin till we're alone) and we had lots of great fun of funny vibing along with a bit of serious rapport/comfort. I leave and game some more. Later on I met up with her and her two friends and they are bitching about a guy friend who ditched one of their friends cause he is dating someone. I joined their convo and 30 seconds later she looks at me, smiles and says "Icewahine you make me smile! I was mad until you came." I forget what I said it was something sappy ("d'awwww" maybe?) and I gave her a hug. Later on in the night both our groups are at a smaller afterhours party and I'm chilling with her friends again. She complimented me again out of no where (maybe cause I was talking other friend a bit more??) and said a similar thing. That no matter what I bring positive emotions. But.. This time it was more of a friendly compliment instead of a SOI. Hard to say why I got that vibe. I would've escalated but I'm trying not to do any makeouts until sex is a possibility unless of course it needs to be done. So I just kinda looked at her, grabbed her hand, smiled and gave her a little squeeze. Then we were off to regular banter. Inside my head I was feeling weird. I didn't know why she was complimenting me like that and I didn't know how to respond. Especially since it was a friendly compliment and I couldn't escalate. But it kind of put me in my head... I wish I could break it down more but that's all I remember and that's all I know why it happened and don't know why I felt that way. Weird. Going to be more watchful for this stuff in the future. Thoughts?
And one other thing that happened this weekend is guys and girls, whom I am NOT going for, just being friendly towards Have tried to set me up with fattys/weird/not hot chicks. Two examples of this. One - I was chilling with a friend, two girls and their friend. Neither girl I am interested in and I am winging my buddy. Then the girls talk to my friend for a sec and turn to me. They decide they have a friend or two who really like me. They were creeping the girls facebooks and said I was cute. Now the girls wantto set me up with her and my buddy is like "lmaaoo everyone crave icewahinss D!" I already know who they are talking about. She is a 6/10 and blah personality. There are better fish in that pond I can catch. So I just kinda play and joke it off. But fuck why would they think I want a sub par girl.
Next example is a friend of a chick I was flirting with. The friend knows this. I am openly touching her and later on I hug her friend goodbye and in my ear she's like "I really like you." I didn't know what to say because I would (and might) bang this girl but I prefer her friend. Lmao I didn't know what to say. I could've gone for this chick before but chose not to. And she thinks it's cause I don't get the hint and tells me? Dumb bitch if I wanted you I'd go for it. So I just kind of ignored it and carried on regular convo. All was good. Then it comes out a few weeks ago she got really drunk because she saw me at a bar and was nervous. Thaaa fuckk. Why would she tell me this?? I'm so confused. I kind of ignore the "because of me" part and carry on Convo.
K so like I don't really get it. Why do these girls think I'm too stupid to go for something I want and that I don't notice they like me. I already know you like me I'm not making a move cause I don't want to! I treat them like regular friends. Is it cause I am just attracting them and they are social retards and think its cool just to say shit like that? And lastly how should I handle this? Like I had nooo idea what to say cause while I'd do her, I'd rather her friend and I think it's fucked she drank instead of talked to me. Ive been thinking about calling her out on it either in text or in person. "you got drunk cause of me? Why didn't you just talk to me? I would've made a move if I wanted, I know you like me" it would be fun and start drama but I just want to hook up with her friend soooo... Leave it for now?
Wed, 09/05/2012 - 10:22
#1
@icewahine:
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Geezez mother
@icewahine:
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Geezez mother of christ. Looks like a wall of toilet paper covered in light dobs of diarrhea.
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Geezez mother of christ. Looks like a wall of toilet paper covered in light dobs of diarrhea.
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Thu, 09/06/2012 - 07:11
#2
Re: Shittests are easy but compliments?
I'd refrain from calling other people socially retarded when you don't even know how to take a compliment. (HINT: say "thanks", I prefer saying it w/ complete neutrality in my tone)
First situation is not a big deal. You have people telling you that a girl wants to fuck you and all you can't think of is, "omg why do they think I would hook up with that chick?? Do they really think I'm that much of a chode?" Your mindset is completely wrong. You've allowed your ego to take over and its distorting your views.
Second situation - same thing. You've managed to take a positive sign, a girl showing EXTREME interest in you, as something negative. Again your entire mindset is completely wrong.
Don't do this.
For the love of god don't say this.
No.
You seem like someone who wants to "prove" to everyone how good at seduction you are. You want all your friends to recognize how "powerful" you are with women and how you don't need to be told what to do with women because you are a fucking sick cunt who knows everything about attracting women. Lose the ego and stop worrying about what other people think about you. If you're able to do that you'll find yourself being much happier.
First situation is not a big deal. You have people telling you that a girl wants to fuck you and all you can't think of is, "omg why do they think I would hook up with that chick?? Do they really think I'm that much of a chode?" Your mindset is completely wrong. You've allowed your ego to take over and its distorting your views.
Second situation - same thing. You've managed to take a positive sign, a girl showing EXTREME interest in you, as something negative. Again your entire mindset is completely wrong.
icewahine;1170;76 wrote:
Ive been thinking about calling her out on it either in text or in person.
Don't do this.
icewahine;1170;76 wrote:
"you got drunk cause of me? Why didn't you just talk to me? I would've made a move if I wanted, I know you like me"
For the love of god don't say this.
icewahine;1170;76 wrote:
it would be fun and start drama but I just want to hook up with her friend soooo...
No.
You seem like someone who wants to "prove" to everyone how good at seduction you are. You want all your friends to recognize how "powerful" you are with women and how you don't need to be told what to do with women because you are a fucking sick cunt who knows everything about attracting women. Lose the ego and stop worrying about what other people think about you. If you're able to do that you'll find yourself being much happier.
Thu, 09/06/2012 - 08:29
#3
Re: Shittests ar
@icewahine:
Yo man. Holy SHIT, why did you not attend hot seat? Bro you've put in too much work recently to give up an opportunity like that.
Yo man. Holy SHIT, why did you not attend hot seat? Bro you've put in too much work recently to give up an opportunity like that.
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Thu, 09/06/2012 - 08:32
#4
Re: Shittests are easy
@icewahine:
Your solution is to hook up with both girls and not mention it to either of them. And if it gets mentioned hit us up on here and we'll help you out with it. Been done many times. Do not call out the thing she whispered in your ear. That's just typical secret society
Your solution is to hook up with both girls and not mention it to either of them. And if it gets mentioned hit us up on here and we'll help you out with it. Been done many times. Do not call out the thing she whispered in your ear. That's just typical secret society
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Thu, 09/06/2012 - 20:13
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Re: Shittests are easy
@Manwhore:
Finnnneeeeeee I'll fuck both these girls if you want me to.. Sigh... Haha
I get what your both saying. It's kinda fucked up and I just need to change my perspective and carry on as usual.
But both you guys are against calling that girl out? I'm not talking in a mean way but you guys don't think it's fucked she got hammed because of me? That's not the behavior I want to reward. Oh well. We'll be at the same venue tnight (she's a regular there) and that second girl is asking me where the party is so we'll see what goes down.
Finnnneeeeeee I'll fuck both these girls if you want me to.. Sigh... Haha
I get what your both saying. It's kinda fucked up and I just need to change my perspective and carry on as usual.
But both you guys are against calling that girl out? I'm not talking in a mean way but you guys don't think it's fucked she got hammed because of me? That's not the behavior I want to reward. Oh well. We'll be at the same venue tnight (she's a regular there) and that second girl is asking me where the party is so we'll see what goes down.