Small BBQ tmr - Oneitis will be there.. What to do

Just go and have fun. Be nice to her if you speak but make an effort to socialize with everyone. Especially other girls.

You're fine. You're making the mistake of letting personal feelings get in the way of work. Which is to slay 

Treat this girl as you ought to treat her, not as some bizarre rubik's cube. She's a girl not Parvati. 

You're overgaming her and not simply executing properly. 

Just chill man... I think it's interesting how girls have this effect on us guys where we get so self-conscious that we consider NOT going to a BBQ with our friends simply because she'll be there. FUCK IT lol.  Just become aware of that feeling. Some of the other guys recommended Tolle to you. I don't know if you've gone and listened/read it yet, but that's a really big thing to learn. IE, how to observe and become aware of feelings like that and say, "Oh cool. I see that 'uncomfortable/nervous' feeling. Now that I know it's there, I can accept it. I know it's because I like this girl. However, I choose to go to this BBQ and just have fun and be myself."

A big part of this game is just chillaxing.

I just got a hold of some Tolle work to check out and I will after work. 

For sure just stressing myself out and over gaming her. I'll do what Manwhore suggested and jus social with everyone. 

Ill be polite, since there's only 8 people going I'll probably end up talking to her. I'll talk to other girls way more though. 

would you suggest bringing a girl with me? @Manwhore @Infinity

Du-urr. LOL. Preselection and non-neediness. Ha!

@Infinity

Hahaha okay I'll take a dime piece with me, she's already agreed to go and best case scenario I get to play with her tongue ring again >:) 

should I ignore the one-itis or show little to no interest? I'll be occupied with the dime and my friends but it's not like everyone will be separated 

Just be yourself and do what you want to do. It really is as simple as that. Basically right now you're feeling like you're not good enough for this "one-itis" chick and you're asking me how to manipulate this girl into fucking you... "Is this the right thing to do? Is that the right thing to do?"

Just be cool with yourself and do what you want. You're basing your reality on how this "one-itis" girl could possibly percieve you and how to optimize it. Essentially being a chode and giving her the control. Fuck that. It's a disgusting feeling, isn't it? Just go have fun... You're good. Relax and don't worry about it.

Yeah exactly man. Worst feeling I've had in a long time. About to plug in some Tolle. Hope it'll help me out a bunch. 

Ill just focus on having fun and what not and the dime going with me. 

Not it going to give this girl anymore power. Will update though

thanks fellas 

What do you mean you're not going to give this girl any power anymore dude. Like she's some evil chick. Geeze christ. You let YOUR emotions get the better of you, it ain't her fault. Take responsibility

Yeah, this is interesting, I actually had a similar situation recently but I didn't externalzie the problem. . Peep this shit though:

@Manwhore

thats what I meant. I mean I'm giving her all this power because I can't control my thoughts/emotions. If I could center myself and relax she wouldn't have the control and I'd be at ease. I listened to the Tolle audio that was suggested last night and it helped calm me down and relax me. It was a lot to take in at once though so I'll listen to it a couple times. 

Ill focus on myself and just have a great time tonight. Which is all that matters. 

Also that quote/passage was really insightful, I'll have to write it down. Very powerful

Not a quote- just somethin I wrote for myself when i was feeling needy

That was really well written man. I appreciate it. I'll be reading it to myself when needed. 

Ill update on how the night goes. My goal is fun! 

Very wise, grasshopper. I put my copy of Serenity in a friend's hands and never saw it again... Balls.

Lol

Hahahaha 

Oh man that feeling when the dime has to work tonight, looks like I'm taking a wingman tonight, self-amusement 101

That's super cool potted, I might print that shit out. 

So I ended up going to this BBQ but the One-Itis never showed up which is fine, I had a great time with my friends and ate some good food. 

The Tolle you guys recommended is amazing, like I can honestly feel my mindset evolving each day, since I've gotten into the habit of listening to it every single night before bed. I also find myself much more relaxed and in a much calmer state of mind where normally I'm buzzing about, stressing and having a bit of anxiety over the most pointless things that are out of my hand.

I been gaming a lot of other girls recently and I've noticed that I do much better when relaxed/going with the flow. I love the feeling..

I want to thank you guys in advance for the help. I'll be out gaming tonight and tomorrow night for some good ol' night game.