SO close here NEED guidance

What's missing in the convo.

@Manwhore:

Here's the convo from the beginning...

Me: Get home safe! - Gogo
Her: Im safe at home, thank u

A day later

Me: It's always nice eating dinner at your Grandma's while she repeats the same stories all over again about her childhood in Jamaica :)
Her: :D ohh it's always the same story when I eat at my grandma's :)
Me: Now she's complaining about me textin at the table..If I get into trouble it's all your fault beb ;)
Her: Oh its not my fault, you first texted me :p
Me: You are such...a bad influence on me.
Her: why??
Me: Cause now all I can think about is yur pretty blue eyes... Black is still better tho ;)
Her: Ye black is better, they look deep:)

Then the conversation above happened

@Gogo:

nothing to do with what you asked but I'd change "roughly" to "softly" . I can kind of the see the vibe you're going for here but roughly doesn't really describe a kind of kissing does it? She still responded well which is awesome, but I would use a different descriptor there. The sentence kind of ended awkwardly for me.

@HUNTER:

Yeah i get you, i just hashed out the text really quickly cause i KNEW what she wanted to hear.

Any thoughts on what i should do next? This was in the bag for a meetup...

I think i'll re-engage with "do u have the money." She'll obviously be like "erm, what for?" - "The money for our wedding beb! Don't slack off or i'll never talk to you again ;b"

@Gogo:
only thing i can think of is, where you asked her to lose her friends - who in her eyes where the party. It's almost like as soon as she said she was down, you pounced on the little bunny and scared it away. still needed to stalk the prey a lil bit. If you get what i mean bawsss

@kris:

Yeah, it was kinda incongruent with the whole image i made up before of me storming into the party, raising the roof and then taking her into her bedroom to get the job done - i made it seem as if i couldn't handle the social pressure of dealing with the friends and fucking her at the same time. I realized that 20 mins later and thought, fuck it lets give it a crack but then it dawned on me that cause i fluffed up the other text she NEEDED something awesome as a re-engager.

I guess nobody's got any ideas on what i should do next...so ill run with "hey congratulations.." see if that will perk her interest and bust out the "congratulations. i was just thinking of you :p". It's a pity cause i wanna get HER chasing again..

@Gogo:

Yea bro I'm actually having a lot of difficulty right now with switching the frame back to her chasing me. The one MW posted about the tattoo in buddha's thread is sick.. A model that works is "you better x or y". I'm just thinking about this right now and looking at some old texts:

heres an example of me going for the meetup, but then trying to take pressure off the meetup, or making her look like the buyer. 'cuz if you just say "hey lets get icecream" thats totally buyer frame:

me: Wells fargo's moving a lot of "weight" this thursday. Are you down to drive. Wear something sexy if you are. We have to match <--- so this brings up the date in a comical way that relates to callback humor (robbing bank). THEN, the logistics come in to play asking if she can drive, but switch back to, "you better (X)wear something sexy if (Y) your down to drive, because (Z) we have to match. Here (Z) takes pressure off "wear something sexy" cuz ur gona be my playtoy, to letting the reason be that "we have to match"
her: ...is that code for something
me: Code for a goodass time! If you cant make it thats cool Ill just assume youre gay <-------- here (X) is the goodass time and (Y) is if she cant make it she must be gay and (Z) here is left unstated because the underlying reason is that I AM what girls want. Only lesbians wouldnt want to meet up with me.
her: Well we can't have that <--------- this relates back to something Todd said in that moving sets video. He said give her the easier option. Give her the option of what is more socially acceptable. He was saying if you start talking to a girl who is like 7feet away, thats going to be more akward for her to keep going while ignoring you, than stopping to respond. I think the same applies here with her saying "yes, you're right, I'm not gay" so she is essentially buying into the ENTIRE frame of not being gay, which is also tied to hanging out with me

In manwhore's text in buddhagames thread the same variables are at play but slightly different:

Buddha: Lisa, you are without a fucking doubt the cutest, most bubbly girl I've met since I've been in California. What's your schedule look like this week? -Garrett
Girl - 3 days later: Hey!!! Sorry been crazy busy lately... Just getting Tattoed right now..It's B U D D H A. Make sure he spells it right! would be embarrassing if you get it done wrong and I never talk to you again ;b
Me: It's B U D D H A. Make sure he spells it right! would be embarrassing if you get it done wrong and I never talk to you again ;b

in this case (X) her getting his name tatted is unstated. He goes right into the description of (Y), saying it better be spelled right, or else (Z) it would be embarassing if she got it done wrong and he never talked to her again. This puts the pressure back on her in a hilarious way.

I hope I am at least on to SOMETHING here, I've been wanting to break this down for some time now.

@Alex123:

Yeah, these past weeks i've closed the hottest chicks of my life to then go and fuck it all up over text. jeezus, it was so piss easy when i was high school to text - if the girls are of a high calibre and you're out of your lil teenage bubble then the REAL WORLD kicks your ass into shape. It's soooo hard right now.

But thanks man, how about a text like this, "Wanted - a barmaid, preferably Lithuanian, who's down for a goodass time this week to have drinks. Wear something sexy if you are. We have to match."

@Alex123:
Good stuff Alex

@Gogo:
Naw man. Reread alex's post wtf.

The issue here is you know objectively what to do but you're pussying out