So I think my assistant mngr has a thing for me
So my workplace has been flooding with new faces over the last month or 2, ALL cute girls.
Among those girls is this tall brunette who, according to other people, would pass as Katy Perry's stunt double... Guess you can call her HBPerry
In the workplace i'm generally off the leash and fuck with all of them. Turns out they talk about me, we had a new associate and on her first day she told me she heard so much about me.
This shit fucks with me though because i've become comfortable with the attention and hesitant "to shit where i eat"
This also means that when I go out, I don't approach much, I may get approached mostly by substandard chicks and fucking some of them... That’s another issue.
About a week ago, HBPerry broke the physical barrier. It all started with her shoving me because I made fun of her for some shit. She always tells me to be nice
Since then it has escalated into her grabbing a shoulder or subtly brushing my back as she's passing through a tight space. To top that off she has occasionally been complimenting me on the way I dress and look.
These things did not click in my head until my Friday shift because it’s hard for me read her… like HBPerry is one of those girls who are unreactive and makes it tempting to do something try-hard. That though day we high 5'd each other then she hugged me tight, she said something along the lines of "are you going to lift me/ i thought you were going to lift me"
I then swept her right off her heels, which caught her off guard.... she actually expected me to squeeze the shit out of her and pull her up.
Later that day one of the girls made rumors about me buying them chocolate... MY ASS!!
HBPerry lit up, the convo eventually transitioned to her talking about us two sharing a peatnut butter shake from a local organic shake spot. I brushed it off
I showed up to my shift yesterday and it's the FIRST thing she brought up, and that she us wanted to go after work. I brushed it off because I had plans, we ended up going anyways and the place was closed… derp.
She then said something like “well I’ll see you tomorrow” I tried to figure her plans for Friday, she said she was working that day to which I replied “no biggie, we’ll figure something out”
At this point I am trying to figure out her deal which is making me hesitant about making any moves for some reason. Like yesterday she somehow started talking to me about how she’s not where she wants to be at, that she like latching on to the past and that she wants to be happy. I didn’t try and figure what she was referring to but it got me thinking she’s looking to make me a bf. Feel free to give you 2 cents.
Also should I let her keep chasing or should I try and make something happen?
Make some shit happen. Quit getting wrapped up in the "she did this what should I do" game. If you're fully present in the situation, you'll know exactly what to do.
I understand you're flirting with the line of keeping things "professional" but I'm sure you have a common job that is easily replaceable with little effort. It sounds like this girl wants you to make a move and she's the one taking all the action. Change that.
Yeah I work at a GUESS sub-brand part-time, been doing it for over a year.
i'm 20 and supposed to be in school but I came in late for classes. I may have to crash them and get some financial aid too OR put all my efforts into work until spring semester.
I'll find out where I stand on this later tomorrow.
Regarding sexual harassment, i am fully aware of the risk ESPECIALLY since she's a manager. A lot of the time she switches to being serious about the job in a flash, that's when I go into my own world. The other girls will generally linger around trying to get my attention and play all day which makes physical contact easier.
I'll dip my feet in the water and try make something happen this weekend. When we got off work last night we were talking popcorn, then talking movies... She threw in "Ohhh a movie night sounds so good right now!" That was probably an invite but, as hard as it was, I had to shut all that shit down. To top that off she's still going on about that peanut butter shake and how it will make her feel better. OOOHHH the tease!! Like you said she's prob waiting for me to make a move but i'm BULLSHITTING lol
To make matters worse, the new Store Manager is like BFF with her. Maybe a month ago, she literally told me to pencil her in so I could "teach" her French and she was serious... talk about a double edged sword -__-
I'm surprised, you're handling yourself like a pimp. Good stuff
Just stay the same, maintain what you got, and make plans to socialize with them naturally, I'm sure they're looking for it.. then when you naturally get alone with them, then you can escalate. But be sure to blame it on them hehe.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
So I had a closing shift with HBPerry yesterday (Thursday)
Nothing really new happened during the shift, just HBPerry threw in the organic shake idea again. I smiled, looked at her then focused back to what I was doing.
I'm not sure why i did thatbut it got ehr thinking that i was refusing, which had her going "Why not???" Never responded because by that time she had zoned out into her task in a flash lol...
Right after we got out of the store at 9, we were walking down the main street. I was already looking forward to getting to my car and going home.
Next thing I knew we were approaching the shake venue, she insisted we see if it's open and get the shake. I told myself FUCK IT and agreed.
It was closed again, in my head i was saying "Oh well, off home"
You may ask yourselves why I didn't throw in another venue for eating. HBPerry is straight vegan and does not eat shit with wheat.
This was one of the things i've cautiously and occasionally teased her about, like "Girl, do you even eat??"
Because of my complete lack of experience with these kinds of girls, I go into a lazy headspace.
So she mentioned something about a sushi venue about 5 doors away where they serve mushroom rolls.
Never been in that venue, let alone tried such rolls, but that shit sounded inviting as hell.
When we got there she decided we would eat at the bar, instead of the face-to-face seats.
I was cool with letting her doing some leading because I wanted to maintain my original frame AND I saw this as a learning opportunity.
The bar turned out to be an excellent choice, there was no physical barrier which allowed for close spacing. This was all new to me, keep in mind i'm 20. Makes me wonder if she knows that but I won't make it an issue lol
Back to the bar! At this point I was focusing on being present, not placing expectations and tripping over the situation i've gotten myself into lol... it was HAARRRDD! But I think I pulled it off.
The server came to hand us our menus, I had an extra one which listed the rolls. I pointed that out and HBPerry and got her attention.
We ended up skimming through the menu looking for the shrooms, and made our orders. One of the things i remember us talking about is the things we hate eating. It came pretty naturally, lately I've been working on expressing my dislikes which gave me a sense of identity among other things. In the past I would hold my opinions in order to not offend everybody, and hope to be accepted by everybody.
Told her stories about how I fucking hate beats, watermelon, etc... Ironically she had bottle with juice which contained beats. She was talking about how the beats i've tried were shitty so i grabbed her bottle.
I looked at her with skeptism, and took take a whiff. She told me to try it, and I did despite my skeptism. Wasn't too bad.
Another highlight of the night was seeding future projects together. I zoned out for a sec, looking at the chef make our rolls. "Do you know what would be really fun for us to do?" is what I asked HBPerry. Told her we should make our own sushi some time, she seemed invested: She went along with it for a bit then told me a story about how she could rolls sushi. I told her I'd bring the brown rice since prefers it over white lol.
Finally i got to get more physical with HBPerry when we were talking about working out. She touched her tummy first for a reason i do not remember. I reciprocated by lightly touching THEN poking the hell out of it when i asked her if she had a 6 pack. She started cracking up and saying her tummy was soft, told her something like "Yeah you're soft, you're a fucking teddy bear" LOL.
We eventually called it a night, we hugged and went our separate ways. I saw her the next day when I came to pick-up my check, she said somehting along the lines of "You're probably going to waste it on shit other than some delicious carob and peanut butter shake" Needless to say, sounds like she enjoyed my company. Feel free to throw in your comments and 2cents.
@Manwhore
LOL that sounds like a fucking excellent indea. I'm thinking bowling :D
I'm reading "The Basic Guide to Workplace Dating" by Terrence B, which I had happen to run into by accident on some PUA forum a long time ago and bookmarked.
I never read it until last night and it's actually legit.
I read like the first 10 pages he was talking about the mindset of workplace dating, being cool calm and connected, etc... The pimp traits.
Right then I realized I had already internalized a lot of the "good" things mentioned in T.B's article. I also realized why MW said i'm handling myself like a pimp. Shit was mindblowing and insightful!
Here's the link to the article for whoever wants to take a peek or would find it helpful:
We closed together last night and earlier agreed to a sushi date.
I put my hand out slightly ahead of me for her to grab it as we were walking, she misread it and gave me a high 5 -____- whatever lol.
I'm going to make it obvious next time.
When we got to the Japanese restaurant, i was not as present as I wanted to be. We only had 30mins before the venue closed, which fucked me up in the head.
I had an inner conflict between rushing the flow of the interaction or chilling. Overall I ended up being chill and fun company... teased and tickled.
As far as i can remember the convo consisted us going deeper into our backgrounds, and seeding future plans together.
So we left the venue and headed to the parking structure where she had her car.
On our way there we walked through 2 homeless dudes, one who was yelling and complimenting my taste in women. I laughed out loud and thanked him.
We get to the entrance of the structure and I remember telling HBPerry something about me sending her some pic, then I told her she should take down my number.
My phone was actually dead and she had hers right in her hand. This is actually the second occasion where I tried to #close her, but my phone was dead... Shit always dies right before closing.
Anyways she implied that I should refer to the phone list posted on one of the bulletins, at which point i pretended to act dumb as if i didn't know there was one in the open.
We eventually parted ways, no hugs... booo!!! I guess my main question is: Do I have the greenlight to fetch her number off the phone list? It just didn't make sense not to take my number down when she had her phone working lol
EDIT: Since our first little outing, she did mention how a movie/sushi date would be awesome since she hasn't watched movies in a long time. So she IS interested and i'm bullshitting :/
I want to make it happen but i'm not secure about it. When she was referring to a movie date, she was talking about movie theaters which is a new turf for me lol. My first and last one was in flames FAST.
Might as well be straight up with her and tell her we're going to make it happen at hers or mine
She implied, and you acted dumb? And now you want permission to go get her number off the board, lol. Uggh
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Most guys in the community have a negative stigma about movie theatre dates. Personally, I love these types of dates.
I usually just make witty commentary about the previews and throughout the movie getting the girl laughing and having a good time. Get physical with some cuddling and hand holding lol. The thing I really like is that there is no room for awkward lulls in conversation because you're expected to both just be watching the movie. Afterwards, just hullshit about the flick and conversation will just flow naturally from here. The most important part is after you leave the movie ask her what she's doing now. If she's down, she'll say idk or some other noncommittal response. From there, it's up to you to suggest you keep chilling at your place and take it from there....
inactually thinkit would work to your advantage to take her out. Why? since y'all work together, there is some sort of expectation about being formal before actually fucking. Going from the work paradigm straight to your place to watch Netflix (every girl knows what this means now lol) places a lot on the girl.
Now, if you think you can take it straight to your house, obviously go that route but tread lightly.
She implied, and you acted dumb? And now you want permission to go get her number off the board, lol. Uggh
lulz
She implied, and you acted dumb? And now you want permission to go get her number off the board, lol. Uggh
Lool pretty much :/
@G-money
In that case it's time to re-read Manwhore's writeup about some chick he banged on a movie date!