Social Circle Girl
Wed, 10/31/2012 - 07:55
Hey, this is my first time posting on the forum. I'm Lumpy's younger brother and I'm just getting into game.
I met this girl at a bar with friends, we share some social circle and we hit it off. Talked for hour and a half almost exclusively. I was dumb and forgot to escalate so started working in touching late, and we didn't move anywhere (my fault again). Gets late we talk to some friends, I go off and do a round talking to my friends. Get her number and walk her to her car with a friend of hers (shit can't isolate).
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Three days after meet I text her:
The ghosts in my room are way too shy, I'm gonna to try ouija board ;) (callback humor)
3 hrs later: Very Funny.
2 days later: I left a message with good vibe and some callback humor, then mentioned meetup Sat.
5 hrs: Hey, just heard your message. Glad to hear you had a good afternoon. Haha! I'm not sure about this weekend. I'll have to keep you posted. As far as adventures, what would that entail?
next day: Dragons, explosions. We'll meet at 8 outside ___ and bounce from there.
1 min: Ps: I mean tomorrow
7:30 next day: Ah! Sounds like fun. I have to decline, though. I just got home from work and I'm still sick. I hope you have a ton of fun tonight.
hour: It's all good, feel better soon
1 min: Thanks! Definitely try.
2 days: Oh yeah paper writing time! It's ok if you're jealous ;)
instant: Haha. That used to be my favourite. I was actually a writing tutor at the success center for two years and helped teach English to the international students.
2 min: Well I know who's proofreading my paper :)
1 min: I can! I'm a guaranteed b or higher.
5 min: Haha you're cute, but I got this ;)
next night (oct 30): Fought tooth and nail for a chicken sandwich, now I'm getting free food. Awesome!
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I've got a ton of school work to do over the next few days, but I'd like to shoot for a meetup fri (nov 2). Tips?
I met this girl at a bar with friends, we share some social circle and we hit it off. Talked for hour and a half almost exclusively. I was dumb and forgot to escalate so started working in touching late, and we didn't move anywhere (my fault again). Gets late we talk to some friends, I go off and do a round talking to my friends. Get her number and walk her to her car with a friend of hers (shit can't isolate).
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Three days after meet I text her:
The ghosts in my room are way too shy, I'm gonna to try ouija board ;) (callback humor)
3 hrs later: Very Funny.
2 days later: I left a message with good vibe and some callback humor, then mentioned meetup Sat.
5 hrs: Hey, just heard your message. Glad to hear you had a good afternoon. Haha! I'm not sure about this weekend. I'll have to keep you posted. As far as adventures, what would that entail?
next day: Dragons, explosions. We'll meet at 8 outside ___ and bounce from there.
1 min: Ps: I mean tomorrow
7:30 next day: Ah! Sounds like fun. I have to decline, though. I just got home from work and I'm still sick. I hope you have a ton of fun tonight.
hour: It's all good, feel better soon
1 min: Thanks! Definitely try.
2 days: Oh yeah paper writing time! It's ok if you're jealous ;)
instant: Haha. That used to be my favourite. I was actually a writing tutor at the success center for two years and helped teach English to the international students.
2 min: Well I know who's proofreading my paper :)
1 min: I can! I'm a guaranteed b or higher.
5 min: Haha you're cute, but I got this ;)
next night (oct 30): Fought tooth and nail for a chicken sandwich, now I'm getting free food. Awesome!
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I've got a ton of school work to do over the next few days, but I'd like to shoot for a meetup fri (nov 2). Tips?
Wed, 10/31/2012 - 09:53
#1
Re: Social Circle Girl
I think the vibe is slightly off as far as the power dynamic. I'm not sure what your sexual escalation is like and if you're aware of what it should be, but ask your brother he's got some interesting stories recently ;)
You can go the route you're on, and just keep suggesting meetups until she's down, and if your sexual escalation is good enough then it doesn't really matter the emotional context of your texts. But if you need a little bit more help in that department, then I'd suggest you also look at the perceived value balance of this convo and the emotional momentum it took. Ask your brother, I'm not sure about the voicemail, but definitely take a look at your last 4 texts.
You can go the route you're on, and just keep suggesting meetups until she's down, and if your sexual escalation is good enough then it doesn't really matter the emotional context of your texts. But if you need a little bit more help in that department, then I'd suggest you also look at the perceived value balance of this convo and the emotional momentum it took. Ask your brother, I'm not sure about the voicemail, but definitely take a look at your last 4 texts.
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Fri, 11/02/2012 - 08:01
#2
Re: Social Circle Girl
Probs unrealistic to make a meetup happen tomorrow if you haven't heard back. Besides, friday is for meeting new girls.
In terms of power dynamic the conversation isn't bad or anything, but you haven't established a Boss Daddy vibe. A narrative that allows her to comply when you tell her what to do and think. Example roles of this dynamic are boss/subordinate, teacher/student, parent/child. (You're Daddy and she's your hot little bitch!) Getting this chick to meetup is just another form of compliance, and having a frame where her compliance is expected helps make that happen. I bet your sexual escalation was kinda weak (I know how it goes :) so introducing this frame will help get her out.
In terms of value balance and emotional momentum, I'm not quite sure what 'whore is after. She's sending long messages and offered you an opportunity to engage her with the "guaranteed b" thing.
Drop all the smilies on your texts, they read just fine without. (Reserve smilies for texts like "I'm going to fuck your retarded brother up the ass. Any words of encouragement? ;)")
Let's pick a boss dynamic to introduce, don't even worry about meeting up yet. A decent re-start message:
I'm starting an even successer-ful center. You're hired. Any C papers and I'll discipline ya tho.
In terms of power dynamic the conversation isn't bad or anything, but you haven't established a Boss Daddy vibe. A narrative that allows her to comply when you tell her what to do and think. Example roles of this dynamic are boss/subordinate, teacher/student, parent/child. (You're Daddy and she's your hot little bitch!) Getting this chick to meetup is just another form of compliance, and having a frame where her compliance is expected helps make that happen. I bet your sexual escalation was kinda weak (I know how it goes :) so introducing this frame will help get her out.
In terms of value balance and emotional momentum, I'm not quite sure what 'whore is after. She's sending long messages and offered you an opportunity to engage her with the "guaranteed b" thing.
Drop all the smilies on your texts, they read just fine without. (Reserve smilies for texts like "I'm going to fuck your retarded brother up the ass. Any words of encouragement? ;)")
Let's pick a boss dynamic to introduce, don't even worry about meeting up yet. A decent re-start message:
I'm starting an even successer-ful center. You're hired. Any C papers and I'll discipline ya tho.
Fri, 11/02/2012 - 09:33
#3
Re: Social Circle Girl
@Nerve:
Thanks for the tips guys, solid stuff. After re reading this a couple times it's finally clunking in my head. The Power dynamic or "Boss daddy" frame really isn't set even if I'm not being needy (I think I'm not). Yeah I'm being chill and cool but not fucking owning the reality.
Makes sense, this girl's a cutie and I definitely wasn't feeling entitled. Shows here in the text and yes my physical escalation was shit.
I'm curious about what's going on with the b or higher text, she seems to be qualifying herself. Lumpy said something like "congrats retard you just rejected her excuse to meet up". That seems legit, so where do I head now? Lumpy's text reads pretty well imo, but I'm trying to figure out what's going on. I'm having a hard time telling the head space she's in right now. Is it like she's feeling rejected and giving some payback? I'm pretty lost with this.
Also sorry about the smileys :) I have a problem.
Thanks for the tips guys, solid stuff. After re reading this a couple times it's finally clunking in my head. The Power dynamic or "Boss daddy" frame really isn't set even if I'm not being needy (I think I'm not). Yeah I'm being chill and cool but not fucking owning the reality.
Makes sense, this girl's a cutie and I definitely wasn't feeling entitled. Shows here in the text and yes my physical escalation was shit.
I'm curious about what's going on with the b or higher text, she seems to be qualifying herself. Lumpy said something like "congrats retard you just rejected her excuse to meet up". That seems legit, so where do I head now? Lumpy's text reads pretty well imo, but I'm trying to figure out what's going on. I'm having a hard time telling the head space she's in right now. Is it like she's feeling rejected and giving some payback? I'm pretty lost with this.
Also sorry about the smileys :) I have a problem.
Sat, 11/03/2012 - 09:22
#4
Re: Social Circle Girl
Well Lumpy answered it. Funny to read he didn't understand what I was trying to say but essentially explained what I was trying to hint at.
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male