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Some repetitive thought patterns that are holding me back

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I've noticed that I am still looking at game through a superiority complex. I'm not coming across as an asshole or trolling people, i've moved passed that, BUT the thought patterns still linger and I need to overlay them with something better. I'll post some triggers below.

  • I still get a hint of jealously when I see other dudes getting laid and i'm not. Which is retarded because i'm not living in scarcity. This can throw me off at times
  • When it comes to AMOG's I still suck. I know MW talks about being awesome and not trying to be "better" than anyone but I still feel the urge to compete. This just doesn't work out well for anyone involved.
  • I get a kick out of seeing other dudes chode out because I base my success on being better than the baseline chump. Which I know is not the best way to look at it. This is a thought pattern that I really, really don't like it.

Thats about it. It is not a massive problem anymore but the three scenarios mentioned above do hold me back. Anyone have any advice or mindsets to adopt to eradicate these thoughts for good.

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I understand deep down that

I understand deep down that the race is only with myself and there is no need to worry about what other people are doing. I just have a hard time actually living this out.

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I understand deep down that

I understand deep down that the race is only with myself and there is no need to worry about what other people are doing. I just have a hard time actually living this out.

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Meow wrote:I've noticed that

Meow wrote:
I've noticed that I am still looking at game through a superiority complex. I'm not coming across as an asshole or trolling people, i've moved passed that, BUT the thought patterns still linger and I need to overlay them with something better. I'll post some triggers below.

 

 

 

 

  • I still get a hint of jealously when I see other dudes getting laid and i'm not. Which is retarded because i'm not living in scarcity. This can throw me off at times
  • When it comes to AMOG's I still suck. I know MW talks about being awesome and not trying to be "better" than anyone but I still feel the urge to compete. This just doesn't work out well for anyone involved.
  • I get a kick out of seeing other dudes chode out because I base my success on being better than the baseline chump. Which I know is not the best way to look at it. This is a thought pattern that I really, really don't like it.

Thats about it. It is not a massive problem anymore but the three scenarios mentioned above do hold. Anyone have any advice or mindsets to adopt to eradicate these thoughts for good.

A lot of these I think are easily reframable and I'll break them down by your bullet points:

1) Jealousy - This should be channeled as motivation. Someone is getting laid and you're not? THEY put in the work beforehand, you just can't see it often times. All you see is what is before you.They earned it man. Give respect. Appreciate it. Smile. Maybe even learn from it if its a slow night and you see something cool that they're doing. Shit, maybe even befriend them, they could be a cool dude and end up being a good friend of yours. 

2) AMOGS - Yeah man, don't engage that noise. That shit is counterproductive to getting the coot. Get an urge to compete? Focus on having fun, shoot the shit, be at ease. Vinny chase dude. You don't need to try man, that's how you lose. That's not to say you aren't taking corrective measures as they're coming up, but its rooted in a light hearted, fun, carefree mentality that shows no desire to compete. 

3) Chodes - bro lol. have some empathy. a lot of us were "chodes" at one point and are "chodes" still, if that makes sense. no need to make an identity behind it. it's like a high schooler who is "cool" and picks/hates "losers" or thinks he's better than the "loser" - don't be that guy. Your mindset will bleed into the interactions with them. Be the actually cool guy who can relate to everyone, irrespective of their ability to slay pussy or social standing or whatever. This is beyond getting pussy - this mindset is toxic and will affect your entire life. Which brings this point: everyone has value and we all have our insecurities. Women probably happens to be theirs. If you feel the need to prove anything, you are insecure about this. Your confidence is actually arrogance in this particular instance. True confidence is found within yourself. [Although I figure you probably feel this way more so about random dudes at parties or whatever as opposed to acquintances/friends]

Hope this helps.

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Ayyy great post mang! Thank

Ayyy great post mang! Thank you that did help a lot :)

I'm not sure where that chode thing came from. Just to clarifiy, before someone rips me apart, I'm not running around trolling people when they act chodey lol. I can have a kick ass time with just about anybody nowadays  It is something I observe from a distance in dudes I don't even know and I place these stupid judgements on them. They may not even be chodey overalll and I catch them at a bad moment. It's some weird competetion thing. Then i'm just like shut up brain why are you even thinking like that!

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Meow wrote: Ayyy great post

Meow wrote:
Ayyy great post mang! Thank you that did help a lot :)

I'm not sure where that chode thing came from. Just to clarifiy, before someone rips me apart, I'm not running around trolling people when they act chodey lol. I can have a kick ass time with just about anybody nowadays  It is something I observe from a distance in dudes I don't even know and I place these stupid judgements on them. They may not even be chodey overalll and I catch them at a bad moment. It's some weird competetion thing. Then i'm just like shut up brain why are you even thinking like that!

OHHHH that makes sense now okay. A lot less serious. Ya just focus on yourself dewd - you got the answer. 

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Dude. Amogs should be..

Dude. Amogs should be.. your best friends

Unless they're overly gamey little buttholes then yes you can give them superwedgies but otherwise.. who the fuck else is gonna be your friend now? Lmao 

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