This is somewhat bizzare...but my gf keeps on demanding to fuck at inappropriate times to garner my attention
Yeah, I never imagined this would ever become a problem. My girlfriend is being WAY too demanding of my cock in social circle situations, and pouts when she doesn't get her way! lol
At almost every party we attend, she explains to me within the first 15 minutes (once the booze kicks in) that she wants to fuck. Before I know it, we are fucking in the bathroom or I have to find a room while people are partying in the hallway. At first, this was great becuase I worked through any hold ups I had about public sex, but it's becoming excesive.
I have determined that when she is drinking, she wants people to know i'm fucking her, which is cute n' sexy and all but damn it's too much sometimes. This is interfering with my social life. Last weekend we are my house and she dissappears, I get a text from her, "come upstairs now." I head upstairs and have to stop talking to people at MY HOUSE and hangout with her for five minutes, but apparently that wasn't enough and she gets all sour. Her moodiness transfers over to her friends, and then they try to pin me for doing something wrong. I wasn't having that shit so I explained her and her friends that she was drunk and dramatic and it straightened out just fine, as she continued to apologize for days. However, last night she kept on trying to make me fuck her while I was busy with old friends (I always include her in conversation) and when I didn't give her the attention she demanded she got butthurt as hell. I left her alone and did my thiing. Now im not 100% sure what was going on, but I think she was making snarky comments that I wouldn't fuck her to my friends (which sounds weird out of context to them) and trying to get an uprising from me! To me, it felt like she was trying to grab their attention to make me jealous of some sort, although I wouldn't call it flirting. It was harmless but weird and she eventually grounded herself and was back to normal. We spoke about it briefly, but I don't think I really got to the core of it all, she admitted to acting out for my attention.
What's the problem here, does she need more attention? Is she tryng to mark her territory and doesn't want to share my attention? I want to nip this in the butt before she thinks this is acceptable behavior. The sex is fine, I just don't appreciate the pouting. At times I straight up feel like i'm beng exploited for my dick.
Disclaimer: This ONLY happens when alcohol is involved
So how often do you see her where it's just you two? Is the only way she can get your attention at parties is by fucking you?
I see her 2-3 times a week and it's usually just us and I still give her plenty of attention at parties. It's this subtle clingyness that is beginning to be an issue. She finds my dick to be quite therapeutic as there is definitely a correlation between her being bitchy when we don't fuck enough! lol
It's everything I've always wanted, I just think she crossed a line when she got bitchy in front of my friends because from the outside looking in, it looks like I did something wrong, which I don't appreciate. I don't need drunk faggots consoling my girlfriend about a nonexistent issue, or her girl friends giving me nasty looks. She knows damn well its a big game too. I'm all for it one on one, if she wants to be edgy with me it always makes for incredible sex, but it doesn't amuse me when i'm with my friends.
It seems like she is really trying to develop herself lately and it may just be an experimentation into her "girl game" but it doesn't change that it's inappropriate. I should probably just talk to her about it again, I just don't want her to feel like I'm asking her to supress herself sexually because she is really opening up a lot, which is for another post :)
Hey man, not to be a dick but why do you care that your friends think you did something wrong?
Your friends should be backing you up, as a united front. Right or wrong, they should take your side.
Idk. I had a girl like that too, like 5 years ago. Always wanted to fuck and would literally break down and get into these weird states when I wouldn't fuck her. I think was some BPD shit, maybe your girl is kind of like that? Maybe drugs or alcohol are making her kind of cooky? Idk too many possibilities. The girl I was with would get inappropriate IN FRONT of everyone in social situations, which I didn't mind at all
because I'm an exibitionist myself, who also like a bit of a thrill.
MAYBE she wants a groupsex situation. It sounds like she wants to do some crazy ass shit and maybe is looking at you to lead
it there. I'd say you up the ante and make her suck your dick in front of niggas lol, maybe in front of girls. Something. IT sounds like
you have something you don't know what to do with IMO.
Or maybe you're just not looking for all that and you've grown incompatible. Who knows. I would up the ante on her ass and see
her reaction and use any potential bad response from her as a chance to hash all this shit out and draw the boundaries. YOU obviously
setting the rules.
Get better friends btw. And who gives a fuck about her stupid ass friends and their nasty looks lol.
What you really don't need is to be taking any shit. Up the ante on your girl bro. Trust me. If it blows up in your face it'll make for an EPIC story.
100% agree. ^
Superb's first response not necessarily his second one.
So... out of morbid curiosity, how did you react to it.
First off, you're somewhat right about the friend thing Superb. Most of my friends do inherently understand whats going on and it's not a problem, but I did recognize one friends in particular that was enjoying the validation of talking to a drunk hot girl. This triggered me to walk over, chat for a second, and pull her away wth me. This is exactly what she wanted, and I didn't verbalize that I didn't like the situation till later. In retrospect, it seemed like she may have been messing with him because she knew he would give her the time of day and I would have to clean it all up.
This only happens when booze is involved, it's almost uncharacteristic of her. When we drink shit is cray, we have done some exhibitionist shit. I fucked her with three other people in the room sleeping, she makes out with girls, she got seduced from a girl I used to bang and they both sucked my dick and let the chick go down on her (this is a whole other story I will post about soon, but it involved me getting kicked out of two bedrooms!). She is interested in the concept of other girls watching us fuck, but in a territorial way, as she tells me that she couldn't stand to see me bang another girl and wants the other girl to be jealous by only letting her suck my dick. She said last night while we were sexting that she "thinks of ways to make people jealous about how good you fuck me." That being said, shes not interested in group sex or girls that are her friends. My best friend banged her friend in the same room while we were fucking and she was not very comfortable with it, though it did happen. It's never been an issue of me being behind the curve, I've been doing this long enough to be the on the more predatorial side lol.
It's an absolutely perfect situation, and it comes down to her always trying to keep me interested. I just want to be able to chill out sometimes though! It doesn't always have to be banging my girlfriend the whole party hahaha. Even if I am away from her for a few minutes she gets upset, she wants to be glued to me 24/7. I think it comes down to her being territorial and her wanting to keep ME from other girls. The first months when we weren't together I was being quite the whore and she REALLY worked her ass off to get my attention and has improved everything about herself and that's why we are official now. I guess I did start really responding to her when I realized that I could potentially have threesomes with her and maybe she has some standard she is trying to live up to, when we drink. I do not have any intentions of banging other girls unless she's involved and I guess I should tell her that.
After sitting with it for a while I can admit that I need to show her more intimacy in public, If I was more lovey dovey she would probably be able to relax. I used to bring her around before she was my girlfriend and I guess I haven’t learned to really treat her right in front of other people. I do give her attention but it’s not of the right quality. She just wanted to see me become territorial of her, as she constantly is asking me if she’s the only person I’m fucking. Also, when i'm with my friends I can become fratty and loud and it's probably not very fun for her. Especially the other night, I went full bro. Damn, this is always my sticking point. I’m actually impressed with her ability to bring to tease this out of me.
So going full circle back to the first line of questioning...yes, I guess fucking me is her way of getting that deep emotional stimulation she needs. That’s shitty on my end. I’ve had nights where I zone other people out and it’s just me and her and that’s when everything is perfect, I’ve got to find a balance here.
No offense but soooo glad I’m not in a LTR lol. Goddamn so much walking on eggshells
I mean clearly it's a high-quality problem. Lol
But yeah you've got some room to play with you're not utilizing here. Why aren't you having her bring girls to suck your cock? You did that one time and that was it? Haha
I’m working on it lol, I will write a full discussion about it soon. I need some help developing the dynamic and she’s just sorta picky!