Starbucks Barista/ Arsty Chick
Met this girl while doing some streetgame. Saw her walk by, bitched out, buddy told me to go for it, turned around and ran after. I went direct. Cold read assuming that she was in a rush to go somewhere, found it she just finished work. Got her inside the mall to talk, bantered about her tattoo and then had some "real" conversation about interests, lifestyle, music etc for maybe less than 10 minutes. Got an insta-date and took her to my improv class where I was instantly socially proofed by troupe. She participated and had some more kino apart from appropriate daygame kino.
Following text exchange. Her schedule is wack as is mine. But I'm thinking it might be more than logistics at this point. I am absolutely balls at setting up day 2s but part of this is may be my intent and just lack of refererences in text game in general. I will be taking Manwhore's Skype training soon.
Texted while in improv class
ME: Dangerous Tattoo (nickname she got during one of warmup games)
HER: So dangerous!
(5 Hours later) ME: Living la vida mocha girl
HER: That's a good one Texas, I like it
(Next day) HER: The guys from your improv class came by work today, haha where were you?!
(Hour later) ME: Haha it was probably x and y. I was in ikea half-awake
Called her up that night to make sure didn't forget who I was and to get some details of her performance which she invited me to, and to bring up festival I'm going to get her interested
(Next day) ME: Here's for last night "song-by artists" Listent to the first three words ;)
(9Hours later) HER: :) haha... beautiful
(Next Day) What is our schedule looking like for this friday? I might need your guardianship for the show at 5 there's mature language (previous roleplay on trying to come up with how we knew each other)
Her: hahaha, sadly I work a 5-10 shift at starbucks :(
Me: Curse the coffee godesses! What day works for you
(4 hours later) Her: This week? No days :(
Her: Work work work
(Next Day) ME: Aww pumpkin. I'll break you out. We'll change our identities and live on the run
I have a few options. Maybe try some push/pull and then go for the meetup again (I'll be in the city pretty much the whole weekend so I could drop by her work nonchalant) Or I could just wait until next week and see her at the performance (however isolation might be harder)
go to starbucks while she's working with another girl 
Ok you've had a TON of compliance from this girl, showed her a snapshot of your life, she enjoyed it.. then you set a date for several days from now? Just invite her out for drinks homey.. you don't need the hoopla of a show to go to. Casual and simple
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Sweet.
@Meow Will definitely try that bauss move if it doesn't work out haha
@manwhore Invited her out for drinks as you suggested. Timing of my text might have been off. Not sure if I should send another text about the details (logistically bar is right across from where she works and near her place)
Following text conversation
(10:17PM) HER: Hahaha...if only
(1:50AM) ME: Come grab a drink with me after work and we'll discuss our getaway plans
I'm heading into the city tommorow night. My plan is to maybe drop by her work near closing then try to move her.
Your last text was slightly sleazy in how it set up the date.. you dropping by her work close to closing time might carry the same significance lol. But if you're comfortable with it, do it. Legends are forged not tap danced.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Wow, that was massively miscalibrated on my part. I should have waited until the actual day to make it seem more spontaneous and been more straightforward.
Would there be any way to salvage this through text at this point? Or should I just let things cool off and then maybe re-engage in a few days as if nothing happened
This whole text convo thing needs to be more streamlined.
Updated:
ME: Snuck into a private party at x coffeeshop last night. Heart design lattes woo
HER: Whaa? Your so cool Aston
(Next Day) ME: I wished this weekend would never end. Met a fellow guitar player like yourself last night. You she met xx. She also reminded me of xx
ME: Are you working today?
HER: No I'm at a family reunion in x
ME: Yeah those are always fun
(Next Day) ME: You haven't told me the details to your super secret event
HER: 123 X street, X bar..$10 cover, bring lotsa friends!
HER: Oh and its tmmrow from 7pm-9pm lol
Show up to the bar with my buddies after 9. She didn't end up peforming but all her friends were there. She's in a 3 set, walk up from behind say something, she lights up, and her roomate goes you must be Aston. I heard a lot about you. Bla bla bla, Starbucks has been talking about you. Game her roomate for fun a bit, interact with other people. I'm also really physical with Starbucks from the getgo, arm around shoulder. When I introduce her and her group to my friends at the bar, I have my hand on her lower back.
Another girl who I already picked up but had a boyfriend was also there at the bar. I was like wtf this girl is so hot, I need to approach then I realize oh I already did from before lol. Talk to Starbucks roomate find out she's been on MTV is a photographer and shit. Anyways her and Starbucks are talking with boyfriend. Bf is super chill back against railing and physically dominant with both girls. I enter set, tell him he looks like captain morgan with his facial hair and pose lol. He goes quiet for rest of conversation, but has "bored" look on face. Call it a night as isolation is stupid at this point, only people in bar are starbucks and friends and my buddies who want to head out. Re-engage her throughout the night briefly before heading out with my boys to some hostel.
I'm pretty much slowplaying this girl at this point.
Using callback humour, as she dyed her hair like Ramona flowers from Scott Pilgrim movie
(Week later) ME: I'm surprised non of your evil exes have contacted me yet ;) Let's hangout this weekend
(Day later) HER: Hahaha... they haven't formed the league yet.
HER: just so you know (and no offence!) I'm not interested in dating anyone right now, life is too busy
Not too sure how to proceed from here.
"Who said anything about dating?"
Re-frame so she looks stupid for saying that.
Edit:
Haven't responded yet. Got this just now
HER: PS I think you and your friends forgot to pay your tab when you came out Tuesday... They charged our table for another pint and we couldn't figure out whose it was until X remembered you had ordered one, do you remember paying?
This is kind of retarded. A drink from a week ago? Really? I should be like bish if you want your money come meet me at x.
I know there's a way to spin this. MW any ideas?
@G-Money Cheers, I was thinking along the same lines. "I don't even know you that well yet" Yours was pretty direct, kudos
Ok so after our first session together this whole thing has a different spin to me. What I said earlier about it being slightly sleazy about how you set up the date, or showing up to her work right before she was getting off, I was mistaken. That would have worked well, you have the right vibe for that sort of thing.
Big picture overall at this point is you took too long to escalate, you didn't amp her up enough when you showed up in person, she's not attracted to you anymore, and now she's trying to tool you by asking for money. Very lower point here
Buddha what are your thoughts on reengaging this chick
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Why bother.. She's fucking retarded.
I wouldn't ever speak to her again, in any way shape or form
I'm DEAD serious
If OP can give me 3 good reasons why he wants to reengage this specific girl, sure, I'll chime in
*Hint*- Sex doesn't count. You can have that with any girl you find attractive enough
I'm not hooked on the chick, but if I can put this one on the backburner why not.
She's mixed. Exotic looking girls are hard to come by in Toronto. At least the kind I would roll with socially. Which brings me to why I think it might be worth re-engaging her. Her social circle. I vibed with at least 2 other girls at the bar. Also got invited to a costume party from a chick I don't even know, but didn't exchange details. Starbucks would be my "in" to this scene; photographers and creative types. Lastly, I had a chance to lay or at least go for a lay with a mixed chick a few months back, and bailed on it cause I was too "tired". It's a chance to put one in the bag.
I wouldn't be against friendzoning her, and escalating later on.
Alright man,
So like manwhore said, this girl lost attraction for you and is now makin an effort to tool you.
I would ignore for like a week. Straight up. Just don't say shit to her for a week - this punishes her for being weird as fuck. She knows she's bein weird here, she'll figure it out.
After about a week - reengage with something that adds value but doesn't require a big investment on your part and IMPLIES a response, without asking for one- but COMPLETELY IGNORE this topic, she'll move on.
Suggestions on a text to send a week from now- I don't have any... just think of somethin in the moment and either save it to send later or just send it, if it's been long enough
I'm no pro at this though - just do what Manwhore says... if it were me, I'd just never respond to this girl again
I think that's one aspect of my game that I don't talk about at all and that people don't see - I'm choosing not to respond to, or contact again, SO MANY GIRLS... legitimately - all of the "cries for help" that you guys have about what to say.... I've already nexted those girls, in my phone.
I'll reengage every now and then, but for the most part I've just nexted them, so I don't really play the whole "catchup" game
Ok good. Now you have an end goal in mind. Now you can work out how and what to communicate to her at this point.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
so buddha do you just straight up delete their digits if they aint gettin with the programme?
lol deleting #'s is a lil extreme - I just move on, it's not conscious, I just don't care, and then when I'm bored, or on the subway, or wastin time, Ill just be goin through my phone and it's like, "Oh shit, I haven't texted this chick in a while" and then I hit her up
It's simple. It's just part of my life
Look, I'm not sitting in a smoky room coming up with ways to like legit "punish" women haha - I just notice what I do, reflect on it, then tell you guys about it and add in the weird, technical language, becuase I know that some people connect more with that