Sticking point / acting alpha
Hey guys, my situation is a bit weird and I would love to get some advice from you. First, to give you an idea, I would define my game as being between RSD Julien's (really sexual, direct game) and RSD Alexander's (more chill, drunk asshole game), depending on my mood and on the party. I would describe myself as intermediate when it comes to approaching and getting several makeouts/numbers in a venue, but I have a really hard time transitioning into sex.
Here's the problem : what really works best for me is to have this "don't give a fuck" mentallity, and act very alpha/dominant, but at some point when we get really intimate (minutes before sex) I can't manage to hold that frame, and either it totally kills my chances (LMR) or just end up in a sad beta sex story kind of thing. I tried hard to avoid it the last 2 times, knowing how it ended before, but I can't manage to stay alpha and go back to normal average chode every single time.
One explanation I found might be a lack of experience (found that the last video manwhore's uploaded could be quite helpful in the future), fucked only 8 girls (5 in 2014, so I guess i'm still getting slightly better) almost all ONS, I would say I have had sex around 15 times in my life.
Hope someone can help me with that, thank you for reading anyway !
Give some examples of what you're talking about
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
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Give some examples of what you're talking about
Average night when this happens is starting good, I find a girl i'm into, lead the interaction, act quite dominant / confident (not faking it, I mean I used to overplay that, but now that's just the way I feel in the stage of the interaction), happens I also finger her while still in the venue, and once I pull her to her place (shitty logistics right now, so I can't bring her to mine), I start to feel like a chode. I start hesitating, not rushing for the sex but instead waiting for her to do some moves too, and even if I repeat to myself that I should continue and go for the fun (like your last video stated), I still have some kind of mental barrier that I can't get over right now. Good exemple, I'm totally turned on on the way home, but once next to a bed I start to have some performance doubts, even if I don't really care about the girl and don't plan on seing her again, can't manage to focus on my own pleasure.
Ok well dude you have to start being and acting dominant in those situations as well. You seem to have become that earlier in the interactions, that's great, but you've got to take it all the way home. Can't be waiting for her to make moves they're not really designed to do that.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
It sounds like you are still pretending that you want pussy instead of needing to get laid. It's literally gotten to the point where I NEED to get laid. Not from a place of scarcity but I just gotta bust a nut.
It sounds like you are still pretending that you want pussy instead of needing to get laid. It's literally gotten to the point where I NEED to get laid. Not from a place of scarcity but I just gotta bust a nut.
Ah that's it even better stated.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Thanks for the replies guys.
I think you're right about the fact that I don't really feel the extrem "need" to get laid, even if I stil enjoy it, how would you change that ?
I tried to fake the confident behaviour once in the later stages of the intereaction, trying to apply the "fake it until you make it theory", but it just came out unnatural and awkward, I guess I'm not a good faker