Student Journal of Training
These are session write-ups and/or weekly progress reports from the training program:
Since this one was more drill focused the write up will be shorter:
At the beginning you say I have the “curse of the cool guy” I agree with you, though I’ve never considered myself “cool,” in the past I have pretty much been the opposite of that. Maybe that’s why I’m trying to overcompensate.
You say I need to exercise more “masculine flamboyance,” I interpret this as expressing myself more to others and not being so “bottled up.” I also completely agree. The truth is that I have put myself into situations where I have done this, during presentations or around close friends, I think that’s why I was good at the drill you gave me. I’m actually not bad at presenting, I’ve always been scared to do it around girls, especially hot ones.
Then you talked about moving girls around the bar 2-3 times, such a simple thing. I don’t know why the fuck I haven’t thought of this the times that I’ve naturally done it its worked like a goddamn charm. Quick question though say I move a chick to the bar to get a drink, do you usually buy the girl a drink? I never buy girls drinks unless they agree to get the next round. What’s a good way to set the expectation that we’re just going there to talk and I’m going to get a drink for myself and she can get a drink if she wants?
Also you mentioned here to start with baby steps like moving her 2-3ft at first then around the bar, then walk out the door. Its important to maintain my cool when this happens, and stay in the lead.
Then we did them drills! The first drill was fucking clutch, I cannot tell you how much this drill meant to me, I mean I’m still feeling the repercussions of this drill as I type it to you. I was honestly nervous about telling my first story, I thought it was humiliating and embarrassing, so I tried not to think of it. But after telling you the story and seeing how you rewired it, I actually now see the story different myself and realize that in reality it wasn’t bad at all and the things I were ashamed about were all in my head. Same thing with the other story. That moment was really special to me man, and I do mean that in the gayest possible way.
Then came the next drill, which I also liked, I’ll start being more religious about doing these things and maybe find some place more quiet so people in my house don’t think I’m a sociopath.
Again I think these relate back to shaping people’s perceptions of what you are saying. Controlling how they interpret your words, and the emotions they get from them. I’m definitely going to try this on a girl I meet this weekend. Hopefully I can stop being sick soon.
Like I said before I am good at talking I just never really felt comfortable in expressing that side of myself the one that’s physical and masculinely flamboyant. I think I was worried about coming off as less masculine by ruining my “cool guy” vibe which you said was my problem at the beginning. I can see how this relates to my previous interactions. So I’ll definitely be implementing this along with picking a girl up in the first 30 seconds. I’m visualizing it more and more.
Then you told me to sign up for some boxing classes. There’s one close to me in Soma that I know of. I’m going to send you its information soon as I can find it. We’ll see if there is enough for you to tell me if its legit or not.
Last question: For online dating, what’s your usual initial message like? I can’t say the same shit I say in real life when opening because I just honestly say “What’s up!”
Hey man, life is really good right now! I've been dating a beautiful girl for the last 6 months. It's a girl I picked up and fucked during Calgary Stampede. She ended up moving from Germany to Calgary for me and I'm living with her now. She's hot as hell and Germany groomed her well sexually lol! She'll get told how beautiful she is by other girls then she'll introduce me as her boyfriend to them and they'll tell her "you could do better" lol i love that and it's happened more than once.
At the start I kept looking for reasons to dismiss her and continue on gaming but she's just too perfect. I've explained game to her and she loves it; she's into self development so she can appreciate it. I'm a lot more relaxed now and I'm really focusing on diet and exercise to make my brain and body as healthy as they can be. She's grown up like that, never touched a drug, fast food and always doing sports / exercise; this makes it an easy lifestyle to follow.
I'm still drinking but much less frequently and in less quantity. I've completely quit smoking as well.
I couldn't have done any of this without game. I'm 30 years old now, it took 2 solid years of focusing on pickup to be in a situation like this. I still go out and wing with my buddies most weekends and I'm gonna try and make it to Summit every year.
Thanks for all the help you gave me through Skype. You helped me crush a lot of bullshit realities I had in regards to interacting with girls. I'd say my biggest influences to my game have been Julien's hotseat and your Skype sessions. Just having a mentor who I wasn't allowed to doubt straightening out all my misconceptions of what game is helped me out big time.
To recap the session, Jon began to read my previous week activity and vomited in his mouth a little. He had to. The words on the page were conjuring images of such a weak frame, such a "lost in the sauce" man, disgusted him to the point he had to retch. After he drew upon his officer training, he regained his composure. The Tolle practice came to the rescue. His breathing deepened, the pounding in his head slowed, and then finally stopped. Then he sent the message for me to call him and he was ready to give this feedback.
Began with asking about the previous week. Things got worse. Bob, you have to do the drlls this is behavior we are changing, can't be told. Must become into through repetition.
Cassie throws a little fit, and you go away, and then you apologize for having a dick. --not good. Bob is keeping himself in emotional tampon status.
*** You get what you take
*** Need to be managing and controlling her.
Best thing to do is dick her down. That will fix things. That is the baseline for male female dynamics (aside from family). Let the biology do its thing. She is throwing up distractions to the sex as a part of her innate screening function to get sexworthy guy. I am falling for her bullshit excuses, and letting her distract me from the purpose. This is failing the screening.
Jon would have her in bed in very little time, it is not her. He would ignore it mostly and push through some.
*** Bob doesn't have a vision of what is possible.
Why defer to her? - She doesn't have a work ethic if she tried (work ethic is big point of respect for Jon)
Cassie NEEDS a male leader in her life someone to direct her lend them your vision, strive to become better. Make sure she understands what is happening. Counseling your people, getting them to achieve more. Help other people equals more sex
On authority and persuasion. Projection of authority is to have superior information, the sage.
But also have ability to persuade. Taking initiative.
The knowledge and reference experience to bear in the drill
*** goal is to speak with #####, #####, and ##### on any #####.
Take that and apply it across the board in communications.
In this age, women do no respond well to droll mealy mouth men.
***Need to be thesis based when we speak.
recasting yogurt word drill example... "Yogurt, the perfect meal, why don't more people eat it?" thesis vs just the unstructured information given as high protein, low carb, blah, blah...
This is filling in the space, low level authority projection. Adding two or three dimensions to the topic. Doing it in a playful fun way of directing somebody.
? I said silly things about the word in order not to try and be more fun and stay away from getting too cerebral. I could have said things more intelligently about the subjects, and kept out the ridiculous. (<= This is actually incorrect)
***Project authority into a girls life. --DANGER AREA FOR ME. I typically do this, but must be mishandling this. I tell people what they should do with conviction. They get very resentful. Because I do it too much? Probably about the tone where its coming off as demeaning thing, (they don't know what they are doing) and not say "gentle counseling".
I think I am uncomfortable with big groups because don't tend to get the feedback on my conversation. Where in smaller one on one/two then the conversation has feedback and I can adjust. I think that is also where I sometimes get lost on the drills. I am speaking and don't have feedback if I am making sense. So definitely not leading properly. Not independent self amused stuff.
So many times with women I am attracted to (not about pedestal) this is very prominent in me. I let them set the tone and don't assume the attraction, don't give myself permission to guide them.
your post on:
Three Sources of Self-Entitlement How Self-Image Gets You Laid _ Manwhore forum.htm
-- this comment about "jumping onto their mental thought track" is what I mean.
Also think there is something holding me back because I really don't have a lot going on as a social life. Not really living a life of abundance right now. So when you say strength of entitlement from having things going on. Doesn't feel like something to tap into for this sense.
Need to get out, get numbers, get things moving. This Cassie thing is dragging me down and messing with my head. I need to kill this. I spent way too much of my time trying to get this thing locked up and messed up my whole schedule. I didn't get workouts in, ate crappy food, didn't sleep, etc. Big distraction. Thought I was going to spend the time and clear it up/lock it up but its just not worth it now. Thought getting with her would put me in better head space in regards to abundance. But fucking it up like this is doing the EXACT OPPOSITE. I was in much better headspace 2 weeks ago.
I need to update this more often.
A pretty chill yet profound weekly write-up from a student only 3 weeks into the training:
It’s has been a slow week. I had plans of going out this weekend but my buddy ended up bailing on me both days. The interaction were pretty mellow but I’ve been trying to chip away at this girl I sit next to in class. Sadly, the class doesn’t allow for talking so the most I got with here is a little small talk here and there. We walked out of class together and started talking. Immediately I got into the mindset of being conscious and just staying present in the moment. I felt my body relax and the emptiness of my mind. Before if a girl that beautiful would talk to me I would speak quickly and not pronounciate words. You could tell there was a stiffness to my interactions. Now, when I’m talking to this gorgeous girl its like its nothing. I’m not seeking here acceptance and trying to impress her like any other dude would in front of a hot chick. We were just vibing and making strong eye contact. We talked for about 10 minutes but then parted ways. I should have gotten her number but she left quite abruptly, it was a quick bye and go. It didn’t phase me one bit and I just confidently told her to have a nice afternoon. This was my longest and deepest interaction all week. I’ve been a fucking hermit due to summer school.
(This one made me lol):
Summary of the week:
Visualization Drills: I continued doing the visualizations for state-vibing/embarrassing-hero stories/comfort-expression-
The Teachings-Girls-Stupid-Shit has helped me with state-vibing more because I can think in terms of topic and quality, so it expands on story-telling. I like the Date-Planner because it helps me come with ways to fuck with her. I used simple ones just to get the hang out of it.
I continued with visualization for all the drills to keep on visualizing my day. I’d get up early in the morning, take a walk around the complex, take deep breathes and imagine how my whole day would go. That’s the daily practice that I started doing every morning.
Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday: These were long days at work since I had a commitment from work. I was tired on Tuesday and Wednesday so didn’t quite go out because of working long days. On Thursday night, I was invited to hang out with all the big bosses, so they paid for the drinks and just had to hang out with them for Thursday night. I practiced all 3 days after work all the drills especially Date-Planner/Teachings-Girls-
Friday: I do my visualizations after work. I go to Reforma at night. It’s Mexican Independence night theme. There are some girls at the bar already hooraying in Spanish. I get next to them. I look at the bar. I remember a Spanish song. Bar tender asks me, “What do you want?” I say, “One pure and two with salt. (in Spanish singing).” Girls recognize the song and start singing and horraying in Spanish. We start hugging and singing. Bar tender brings the shots. I take all 3 shots. I am warmed up. We sing for a little more. I look at one of the girls. I say, ”You! We are going over there. Let’s walk.” I walked her a couple times around the bar. I asked her for her number. She says, “Oh shoot. Forgot my phone in the car.” I say, “Let’s go get it.” I do the “teach her stupid bullshit” (Elephants look like noble animals but they are treacherous) as we walk towards the car. We make out in the car. I tell her. Let’s go for a ride. She drives around. She says she is a little tired. I tell her, “Drive to my place. It’s not that far” She says, “Ok.” Then, I do the Date-Planner as she drives to my place (We’re going to an Open drive through movie. She had to jump on me like a cowgirl. If she didn’t then I would have waited until everyone did, I’d dump her ass, make her walk home at 1am). She punched me and said, “No you wouldn’t.” I said, “you wanna find out.” She punched me again in the shoulder. We get to my place. We make out and fuck at my place. She leaves early in the morning.
Saturday: I practice in the afternoon visualization. I had this plan of going bar hopping to 4 bars. I made it to the first one lol. I Uber to Brother Johns bar. It’s Tex Mex night. I dance with a girl right away as a pawn. Song finishes. I see this hot Mexican girl Jessica. She’s with her mom and stepdad. I just put my hand out and take her to the dance floor. We dance. I spin her. I throw a couple teaching her Stupid bullshit. Then, date-planned her with the same story (We’re going to an Open drive through movie. She had to jump on me like a cowgirl. If she didn’t then I would have waited until everyone did, I’d dump her ass, make her walk home at 1am). She punched me as well and said, “you would do that to me.” I said, “Of course I would. You have to behave and treat me like a king.” She slapped my shoulder playfully. “No you wouldn’t.” Bar is about to finish. She takes me to the Maverick for country dancing. Her mom is with us. We dance for a little bit more. We stop at Mcdonalds to get food for her kids. She drives to her apartment. I wait in her car. Mom and her go upstairs. I am waiting. She comes out changed in shorts. We make out. I open the back door and we fuck in the back seat. I uber back home. Tired as hell at 6am.
Sunday: I practice the State-Vibing/Embarrassing Stories/Comfort-In-Self/
Monday: I practice the State-Vibing/Embarrassing Stories/Comfort-In-Self/
Another great week.
The brain might as well make a connection between girl punching playfully you at the shoulder = sex with her later on haha