Studies vs Game
Yo what's up
So i've been listening to Tolle lately and it has somehow motivated me to get more shit done. Better discipline with nutrition, gym and especially with studying. I used to be lazy as fuck in school but now i study more hours, and more effectively. I enjoy it. I want to learn alot and get all the tools needed for going back to south america and creating better lives for people.
I notice that all the focus needed for studying effectively makes me very introverted though, even if i meet people during the day. Normally i'm very social and crack jokes all the time, but during this week i noticed i didn't even have anything to say to people lol even when hanging with friends.
Then i went out yesterday and could off course use my "knowledge of game" to talk to girls and then eventually loosen up, and today i'm still my social self, but i think as soon as i focus on studying a couple days i'm going to get introverted. I guess this is why "nerds" are stereotypically not very social.
Have any of you experienced anything similar? I want to be "awesome" all day every day lol. Any advice?
Do you study alone only? Maybe get in the habit of dedicating a few hours to studying with someone or in a group. You aren't necessarily chattering away, but eventually you can pop out for a coffee break where you two or however many people you're with can chat away for 10-15 min every few hours or if you have a question you can ask and then maybe joke around for like a minute. That way you're never really losing "momentum." I feel like eventually this won't really be a big deal and while maybe you won't be as "on" when spending large periods in isolation, you'll be able to summon that part of you with more ease / or the lows won't be as low so to speak.
However, spending an insane amount of time not interacting with anyone is no good, imo. If you do study alone and prefer to study alone, whoever you run into - shoot the shit with them. I'm not saying be that obnoxious super duper social dude, but you know, if you're grabbing a bite, shoot the shit with the cashier for a quick second. Notice they're having a bad day? Ask them about it (obviously catch a hint in the manner and if they don't really wanna talk about it). sometimes ppl won't be friendly tho, all good - sometimes they got stuff going on they need to work out, don't be discouraged.
Like lol the random convos I have even when I study alone - i was at subway and dude looked kinda bummed. yo how's your day going - "oh you know its been better." "man i hear you, but sometimes we just gotta tuck our heads down and keep trucking." "word man." then next thing you know we're talking about kendrick's new album (which is fucking fire).
granted, the convos don't have to be super long or anything like that, but y'know, a few small chit chats, even if they're only 30 secs definitely go a long way.
Thanks for the reply!
Well i used to need being with other people or in a social environment to motivate myself. I was going to take a degree in statistics but i realized the people were too lame to work with on a regular basis and could not see myself being happy working in that environment.
It depends on the course/subject though, right now i'm studying one in marketing and one in advanced statistics. The people in my marketing class don't seem to study alot and the statistics people are lame as i said. I don't even go to the statistics lectures so i mostly study by myself because i find it more effective. In some courses i did study alot with other people and in some courses i didn't need to study much so i had more time to do fun social stuff during the week.
I like the idea of "shooting the shit with them" and definitely i need to not lose momentum, as you said. Right now i'm feeling very social but typically i feel introverted during the first days of the week. A typical monday nowadays: waking up still kind of tired from the weekend, --> go to a lecture 10-12, hang with some classmates during the break and a bit after (they all go home right after because they're lazy lol) --> then i study by myself from 12:30 to maybe 4-5--> go home and cook some food, go to the gym --> come home, either study a bit or play some video games with room mates. After a day like this i'll probably start to feel introverted already and it even feels like my voice gets weaker.
And yeah Kendricks new album is sick! Been listening to it ALOT
Thanks for the reply!Well i used to need being with other people or in a social environment to motivate myself. I was going to take a degree in statistics but i realized the people were too lame to work with on a regular basis and could not see myself being happy working in that environment.
It depends on the course/subject though, right now i'm studying one in marketing and one in advanced statistics. The people in my marketing class don't seem to study alot and the statistics people are lame as i said. I don't even go to the statistics lectures so i mostly study by myself because i find it more effective. In some courses i did study alot with other people and in some courses i didn't need to study much so i had more time to do fun social stuff during the week.
I like the idea of "shooting the shit with them" and definitely i need to not lose momentum, as you said. Right now i'm feeling very social but typically i feel introverted during the first days of the week. A typical monday nowadays: waking up still kind of tired from the weekend, --> go to a lecture 10-12, hang with some classmates during the break and a bit after (they all go home right after because they're lazy lol) --> then i study by myself from 12:30 to maybe 4-5--> go home and cook some food, go to the gym --> come home, either study a bit or play some video games with room mates. After a day like this i'll probably start to feel introverted already and it even feels like my voice gets weaker.
I mean you know what you need to do. This literally won't be a bigger deal as you acclimate / mindfully tackle this. Get a gym buddy as well if you can. That gives you another 1 - 1.5 hours of shooting the shit with someone.