Stunner 9

Advice for what. 

This chick was the hottest girl at this posh hollywood lounge/club. There was only 1 other girl there that was on par w her, solid 9 and I never give out 10 ratings.

i open her telling her I sell cocaine and how many kilos I've got in my trunk. She's visiting her LA gf she's from Detroit. I pull her to the bar to get a water. As soon as I get her away from friend I'm physical off the bat and go in to kiss her, she's very receptive and tells me "you move fast" I tell her nah it's all you. 

I pull her upstairs to a couch. Turns out we have tons of stuff in common, everything felt really smooth and natural. Everytime I went in to make out w her she was more into it than me and felt like she was tongue raping me and I broke it off every time. And everytime I was groping her she didn't pull away except when I was squeezing her boobs at one point she's like "u can't do that in publiccc :)"

i tell ell her lets get out of here but she says she can't go home w me she doesn't know me. We also talk about how she cooks and I seed a date for tomorrow on how I'm gona take her to this cool market and we're going to make lobster or steak lol. I pull her shirt out so I can see her tits she's like "ur crazyyy!! :)" I'm like I thought u weren't wearing a bra she's not but she has some pad thing so her nipples don't show

i pull her to meet my Pua friend who acts a bit weird unfortunately, but she's still into me. Her friend comes to grab her to go dance and my friend gets up on her friend, I let him chat and put my water on the counter. My girl tells me they are going to go dance. I'm like cool I'll see ya down there

a bit later I go down but the friend just like pulls her away from me. I sense that it would be weird if I tried to dance w her at this point so I lean in "are u guys just dancing together for now :)" my girl says yeah :)

so I leave and come back but each time I do her friend pulls the same shit. At another point some faggot that her bitch friend is friends with is like "hey man that's my gf." I'm like "no actually she's with me" grabbing her. I lean in/pull her toward me slightly like I'm going to kiss her she backs away and gives me this disapproving look

I want to run some investment shit I saw in one of Todd's vids so I tell her to tell me I'm sexy, she does, I tell her to tell me she really wants me to kiss her right now. She won't infront of her friend

So on like the 3rd or 4th time I grab my girl and tell her to come talk to me for 2 seconds. She says we can talk here. I lean in and tell her I want to talk to her without her friend breathing down my neck. She's like "that's not cool you're being (I forget what word she used) you're mad at my friend

me: everytime I try to talk to u she's blocking me from talking to u, I'm just calling her out on how she's acting I'm not mad at her

her: ok.. *turns and starts dancing w her friend again

i go back in

me: so u won't talk to me for TWO seconds

her: you're being a little demanding right now....

friend: BYE! BYE!!

Lol. So needless to say I didn't go back in, although I'm going to text her today. Her friend is an actress so she's going to be at some hollywood award thing but I told her multiple times what we're doing tomorrow and made her repeat it once, although I would have done that more if I could have gotten her away from ms. Bitch.

i was motorboatin other girls titties and had a great time telling all these chicks how many drugs I sell. That shit was blasting sets open

Covered this. More boss. Put that dumb ass friend in her place. Don't be afraid of confrontration, otherwise you do not earn the pussy, pussy! #moreboss  

Wow. you’re right i had to address the friend. Looking back I just really didn’t feel like talking to the friend, and had actually subconsciously made up my mind that I wouldn’t talk to her when we were sitting on the couch and she came to check on her. I just didn’t want to deal with her for some reason.

You nailed it. You were out of your body, didn't have present moment awareness, and that cognitive gap forced you into the typical "social narrative" definition of what was happening, e.g. you were avoiding what you thought would be confrontation. If you'd been present you simply would have responded to it with as much energy as you needed, and, in some cases you may have handled it with the type of energy that could be construed as "aggressive dominance". Tolle says very matter of factly that the idea of "nonviolence" is itself a social narrative, that who KNOWS how you would have to respond to a situation in the moment. So THAT is what you were avoiding, yet in the moment it's not that big a deal. And of course 90% of the time everything gets handled smoothly. 

Alright these are def the type of scenarios I struggle with. Say I make the mistake of not addressing the girl originally, but I try to address the friend here instead of bull dozing like Alex. I've done that and the girl has gotten down right bitchy as fuck. " NAH YOU CANT BORROW HER YOU CAN TALK TO HER HERE ". I mean I honestly feel like telling these girls to shut the fuck up and quit being weird, I'm simply borrowing her for a minute. I don't tho because I want to avoid conflict. The only solution I can think of off the top is to remain calm and just use that energy against her and tell my girl " yo ..... Whys your girl being weird and not letting us chill for a bit?"  The way I actually responded was I got nervous and actually angry, I'm sure my subcom came off annoyed as I then just tried talking to the girl. Shit fizzled so fast from there it's hella annoying. 

I understand completely though that this could simply be avoided or at least reduced by just handling the girls friends out the gate so she doesn't become a problem later. My question is simply what to do when you've already made the mistake.

Right, that's very similar this shit fizzled extremely fast after I expressed any negative emotion in reaction to the way the friend was acting. Another similar scenario actually went down last time I was at this place, the friend had just interrupted my convo w my girl, and then when I wasnt leaving (my girl liked me she was squeezing my hand and stuff but nothing over since her friend was breathing down our necks) and going with them she just blew up

"YOURE FUCKING ANNYOING STOP FOLLOWING US!!!!"

I was like "I'm not talking to you" and this infuriated her even more and started yelling crazy shit. I whispered in her ear that she was a fucking psycho. needless to say it didnt end on a positive note w that girl either 

What spots are you hitting up in LA? Pm me if your prefer not to mention venues on here. I usually hit up hermosa beach or night clubs/pool parties in hwood. Although some spots in downtown are really sick. 

Also lol at calling her crazy. Hahahahaha hahahaha 

Ok you two would be "cool" wings and would for sure get along but you could end up reinforcing some of the same wrong "weak" behaviors. Aquitas I've never trained you but I've seen some of the same inherent "issues". I think you probably know what I'm talking about. Neither of you step up during certain dynamics where you both NEED to be stepping up. Aquitas you act like you're too cool to step up, like it's beneath you, and Alex you just revert to lost momma's boy. Both amount to the same shit and are forms of escapism, Aquitas just makes it look more pompous. Aquitas you could for sure step up and fix this, and through practicing law you'll definitely achieve this, but going this route you'll just be pissed 'cuz you could have learned it earlier (now) and banged a bunch of ho's with it. Alex is a bit more flexible right now as far as changing/shaping his behavior, so if you guys meet up you make sure to push Alex to step the fuck up wherever you guys head out to. Just make sure to "be present"/step up when he needs you. Do big things 

Remember, this is about stepping to those ho's you want to step to, and getting them. So go after them 

What's fucked is I think I'm aware of this and still act bitch made in these situations for now. Like I'm trying to compensate via career success. I think you're 100% right that I'm gonna be angry. At this point I am starting to feel like something has to give since I usually play it reasonably safe. Meaning I usually don't step up but even sometimes when I step up a new more difficult hurdle presents itself and I fold. I'm quite frustrated by these situations since it feels like the girl just slips from arms reach. This shit goes down and leaks into a lot of areas of my life. Most notably when I was making money playing poker online these past 6 months. I found myself folding in high risk/high profit situations where I was suspicious of the guy trying to make a move on the pot. Ya I think we could do work.

Last friday I was chatting up this girl outside the club before her cute friend came out of nowhere trying to snatch her away.

I karate chopped her hand off and got up in her face almost exactly like this lol:

Oh you did the karate chop on the cockblock huh. I don't even get any love?