SUPER interesting article on how emotions and your mentality effect your ability to get results. Quick read
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 02:52
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Wed, 06/06/2012 - 03:10
#1
Cool Stuff
@Manwhore:
Fucking awesome.
Yeah, when the emotions are in control and the mind recognizes what it wants, to that point of literally cutting through all the BULLSHIT, it's actually very easy.
Manwhore, a lot of times I feel you are fairly judgmental about the whole, "allowing emotions to effect your decisions" thing, but I also recognize that, at least part of it, is in jest and that you DO care and I think that the message you send out is incredibly powerful.
Because at a certain point, it IS bullshit. There is no emotional trauma, or psychological issue that is "Impossible" to overcome... Some issues are like being an alcoholic, just in the sense that, "Once you're an alcoholic, you are always an alcoholic" and there is always that "risk" of dropping back... But it is this risk that keeps us honest and keeps us working hard and ever vigilent, ever on guard against our shadow. That shadow of a chode, that shadow of an alcoholic, that shadow of an emotional wreck... it's always there, just waiting for it's moment, when it can sense weakness and attack in the night.
It is only natural for humans to want to connect with other people and to be able to do this, for some, requires a constant, "Mindul" effort to control the emotions and to cut certain thoughts off at the pass.
Most everything in life is a "Skill". All this means is that nearly everything can be learned, unlearned, gained, lost and improved. I think that it is bullshit when either people say, "Yeah, that guys fucked"... or on the other side of it, "Yeah.. I'm fucked".... THAT is weak, or at the very least, just a very, very confused and pained individual.
LOVE this article dude. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
Fucking awesome.
Yeah, when the emotions are in control and the mind recognizes what it wants, to that point of literally cutting through all the BULLSHIT, it's actually very easy.
Manwhore, a lot of times I feel you are fairly judgmental about the whole, "allowing emotions to effect your decisions" thing, but I also recognize that, at least part of it, is in jest and that you DO care and I think that the message you send out is incredibly powerful.
Because at a certain point, it IS bullshit. There is no emotional trauma, or psychological issue that is "Impossible" to overcome... Some issues are like being an alcoholic, just in the sense that, "Once you're an alcoholic, you are always an alcoholic" and there is always that "risk" of dropping back... But it is this risk that keeps us honest and keeps us working hard and ever vigilent, ever on guard against our shadow. That shadow of a chode, that shadow of an alcoholic, that shadow of an emotional wreck... it's always there, just waiting for it's moment, when it can sense weakness and attack in the night.
It is only natural for humans to want to connect with other people and to be able to do this, for some, requires a constant, "Mindul" effort to control the emotions and to cut certain thoughts off at the pass.
Most everything in life is a "Skill". All this means is that nearly everything can be learned, unlearned, gained, lost and improved. I think that it is bullshit when either people say, "Yeah, that guys fucked"... or on the other side of it, "Yeah.. I'm fucked".... THAT is weak, or at the very least, just a very, very confused and pained individual.
LOVE this article dude. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 05:25
#2
I've typed in and deleted two
I've typed in and deleted two comments already but buddha already said what i wanted to say. all i have to add is that i like how his wife says he has craving for "Treats" that she makes now. and it humanized him. implying that before the weight gain he was just a machine who didn't even get tempted into having some unhealthy good tasting food. but now he has that emotional attachment to twinkies. everytime he sees a twinkie he wants to suck out the middle, jam it with his own cream and then swallow it whole, treating the sides of his throat like a game of operation. before he was just a fucking machine. no emotion. just did what was righ
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 07:28
#3
This subjectline was longer than all of our penises combined.
I did not know that getting fat also makes you completely go pale within just half a year. The pictures look like the pictures tv shopping channels would provide... not saing he did not do something, but saying that this looks excessive. Always keep in mind that these people want to sell you something. (it´s a bid like PUA Products in that regard, such an excessive hard sell they usualy put on their homepage actually is something that should make someone with a strong personalty suspicious)
I think what more important to note is how society dictates you how are supposed to look like. He felt bad for not looking like a Spartan any more, but it´s not about treats or sucking twinkies... being fat has been (and in some parts of the world still is) seen as something very positive in parts of the human history.
He did feel insecure because society told him to and not because fat people have always been insecure and free of a sexlife.
Obviously there are certain reasons to not let your body go out of hand like that. But i think for flirting with girls looks have a very little focus.
For example, i am loosing hair, which is widely considered pretty bad among men. I only notice my "balled spot" (still has hair, just little :D) when it is cold outside and when the hairdresser shows the back of my head to me in the mirror. The rest of the time i just forget about it... it dos not play any concious roll in my day. I don´t stile my hair to hide the receding hairline in the morning, i don´t wear a baseball cap and i have never thought of going completely balled because fuck you. (going balled seems to be a common solution people suggest on PU boards when someone cries about loosing hair)
I am not blind or death either. Of cause it´s something girls notice, they might even crack a joke about it... but if you genuinely don´t care your reaction will end up beeing a big plus that by far outweighs you "imperfection acording to Calvin Klein".
Sadly i have no idea how i was able to always have this "i don´t care attitude" about my hair. Because if i could teach myself and other people to be just like this about everything i´ed likely have a homepage with an excessive hard sell :D ... but still, having made this concious realisation is a big motivation when it comes to working on things that make me feel insecure. (even if that kind of contradicts itself)
I think what more important to note is how society dictates you how are supposed to look like. He felt bad for not looking like a Spartan any more, but it´s not about treats or sucking twinkies... being fat has been (and in some parts of the world still is) seen as something very positive in parts of the human history.
He did feel insecure because society told him to and not because fat people have always been insecure and free of a sexlife.
Obviously there are certain reasons to not let your body go out of hand like that. But i think for flirting with girls looks have a very little focus.
For example, i am loosing hair, which is widely considered pretty bad among men. I only notice my "balled spot" (still has hair, just little :D) when it is cold outside and when the hairdresser shows the back of my head to me in the mirror. The rest of the time i just forget about it... it dos not play any concious roll in my day. I don´t stile my hair to hide the receding hairline in the morning, i don´t wear a baseball cap and i have never thought of going completely balled because fuck you. (going balled seems to be a common solution people suggest on PU boards when someone cries about loosing hair)
I am not blind or death either. Of cause it´s something girls notice, they might even crack a joke about it... but if you genuinely don´t care your reaction will end up beeing a big plus that by far outweighs you "imperfection acording to Calvin Klein".
Sadly i have no idea how i was able to always have this "i don´t care attitude" about my hair. Because if i could teach myself and other people to be just like this about everything i´ed likely have a homepage with an excessive hard sell :D ... but still, having made this concious realisation is a big motivation when it comes to working on things that make me feel insecure. (even if that kind of contradicts itself)
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 16:18
#4
hmm
@radomon:
Homy, you misssed the point.
The point isn't that he felt shitty because he got "fat". He felt shitty because, even though it was on purpose, he wasn't living up to his own standards that he's kept for his entire life. Additionally, he was eating foods that kept him trapped in an emotional rollercoaster of highs and lows, constant sugar spikes and crashes. It's not about "getting fat", that's a symptom of more important stuff.
Also- He probably got pale because, uhh... he didn't feel as confident doing anything outside with his shirt off, whereas before he probably never stepped foot in the fresh air with more than his boxers on.
Homy, you misssed the point.
The point isn't that he felt shitty because he got "fat". He felt shitty because, even though it was on purpose, he wasn't living up to his own standards that he's kept for his entire life. Additionally, he was eating foods that kept him trapped in an emotional rollercoaster of highs and lows, constant sugar spikes and crashes. It's not about "getting fat", that's a symptom of more important stuff.
Also- He probably got pale because, uhh... he didn't feel as confident doing anything outside with his shirt off, whereas before he probably never stepped foot in the fresh air with more than his boxers on.