Text Conversation with a girl who wants to meet up. Coming across more like a pimp?
Hey guys, hey manwhore,
I've just preordered your book Manwhore. My "real" game got a lot better over the last year but I really realized that I suck at text game. I often don't know what to respond and think about this for hours on end before coming to an decision. I also lost sooo many girls last year due to not sending them texts because I didn't know what to write...
Ok here is the story:
At 4 am on Saturday two week ago. I chat up a chick in front of a nightclub. She was super receptive. Long story short --> I was a bit too drunk, as a friend gave me free drinks all night, and my phone was dead. So I gave her my number. I should have told her to text her name my name But I was super confident that she was hooked like crazy and would call me or text me ;)
My question is how do I create something out of nothing in textgame? I basically can't remember a thing of what we talked about because we were "really" deep in the subconscious. I know that she wants a meet up from the beginning but I think I come accross rather like a "friend" on this text conversation than like a "cool" guy.
4 days later I get this text:
Her: Hey this is Miri from last Saturday. Sorry that I'm sending you this message with a delay. I had a busy week. Sorry! I hope your week was nice. yours miri
Me: Hey yes I had a cool week. I'm just chilling in the sun in Munich. Let's meet on Saturday afternoon ;) see you then..
Her: Hey Thomas, This weekend I'm in another city. What about next Thursday?
Me: Hey Miri, there was a lot going on this weekend. Did you dance to electronic music on the weekend (the only thing I can recall about the interaction) 5 pm is working out on Thursday for me.
Her: Hey Thomas this time I didn't dance to electronic music. Thursday 5 pm. Where should we meet? (The response I anticipated she is investing)
Me: Hey Miri, let's meet in front of XY Wear something sexy, so we match ;) (this message was sent on Monday)
Her: ok let's meet at XY
Me: Hey Miri, I look forward to seeing you tomorrow, (I wanted to shoot this message to "get rid of the weird feeling of not having talked for 2 days before the meet up) What would you have written. I could have added more information like: Hey Miri, I'm doing XYZ. I look forward to seeing you tomorrow. )
Her: Hey Thomas yes me, too.
How could I have improved this conversation? What would you have written differently?
I don't see why you said hey and then her name before every text
people dont text like that...lol
kinda a weird convo, not much to it, but you got the meetup!
What email did you use to purchase the text ebook Shaun?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
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I don't see why you said hey and then her name before every textpeople dont text like that...lol
Hey Meow,
I "repeated her name" because there were always 2 or 3 days between each text message. Would you advise against that?
I had a really solid interaction with her in real life ^^ so this was the basis for the meet-up.
What email did you use to purchase the text ebook Shaun?
Hey Manwhore I purchased the book with my other e-mail address: fish**@ymail.com. I've already received an pre-order confirmation.
Well holmes that's not text game that's a receptionist following up with a patient for their dentist visit on Thursday. How do you not remember the conversation you had? It's obvious this was a drunk convo and you're in scarcity mode because you ain't got a lot of other girls on standby lol.
You're playing it super safe in this convo, hopefully she meets up. If she doesn't it's because it just didn't have enough zazz for her, you didn't communicate to her it would be worth her showing up because she knew she'd have a good time. And even if she does show up, how do you think this date's going to turn out? Maybe a kiss at the end? If you were planning on banging this chick on Thursday.. is this how you would text her?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Well holmes that's not text game that's a receptionist following up with a patient for their dentist visit on Thursday.
Yes you are right. But that's all that I do at the moment over text. I need to change that. There is nothing sexy or exciting about scheduling the next visit to my dentist.
How do you not remember the conversation you had? It's obvious this was a drunk convo and you're in scarcity mode because you ain't got a lot of other girls on standby lol.
That is really true. She currently is the second one I'm seeing for a date in a month as I've been more into business than girls lately. I've been thinking back: She told me about her trip to the US. She loves languages like me ^^. She is studying at uni but there wasn't anything super dupper funny in the conversation. The Conversation was basically boring small talk with "subconscious" part of building sexual tension. I had an crazy off night which I didn't enjoy and then I met her and there was this tension.
How could I have brought up the topics in the text that I now remembered?
You're playing it super safe in this convo, hopefully she meets up. If she doesn't it's because it just didn't have enough zazz for her, you didn't communicate to her it would be worth her showing up because she knew she'd have a good time. And even if she does show up, how do you think this date's going to turn out? Maybe a kiss at the end? If you were planning on banging this chick on Thursday.. is this how you would text her?
Ok to be honest I'm a virgo virgin and I actually hope for a kiss at the end. That's the only goal for today as I have only kissed one girl on a date up to now. I know she lives in a central appartment on her own so I'll leave that open as an option for today. So it would be a big step forward for me. If I'd wanted to bang her right away I would be taking more risk. And I've just realized that I don't date enough girls at the moment that I "want" to risk loosing her. So that's my underlying problem. That's also why I get into a scarcity mentality and I don't want to take risks or experiement with text game. And due to not being a risk taker I've actually lost many many girls in the past year who loved me at the initial conversation but never ended up meeting me for the date as it just fizzled out over boring text.
Manwhore wrote:
Well holmes that's not text game that's a receptionist following up with a patient for their dentist visit on Thursday.Yes you are right. But that's all that I do at the moment over text. I need to change that. There is nothing sexy or exciting about scheduling the next visit to my dentist.
Manwhore wrote:
How do you not remember the conversation you had? It's obvious this was a drunk convo and you're in scarcity mode because you ain't got a lot of other girls on standby lol.That is really true. She currently is the second one I'm seeing for a date in a month as I've been more into business than girls lately. I've been thinking back: She told me about her trip to the US. She loves languages like me ^^. She is studying at uni but there wasn't anything super dupper funny in the conversation. The Conversation was basically boring small talk with "subconscious" part of building sexual tension. I had an crazy off night which I didn't enjoy and then I met her and there was this tension.
How could I have brought up the topics in the text that I now remembered?
Manwhore wrote:
You're playing it super safe in this convo, hopefully she meets up. If she doesn't it's because it just didn't have enough zazz for her, you didn't communicate to her it would be worth her showing up because she knew she'd have a good time. And even if she does show up, how do you think this date's going to turn out? Maybe a kiss at the end? If you were planning on banging this chick on Thursday.. is this how you would text her?Ok to be honest I'm a virgo virgin and I actually hope for a kiss at the end. That's the only goal for today as I have only kissed one girl on a date up to now. I know she lives in a central appartment on her own so I'll leave that open as an option for today. So it would be a big step forward for me. If I'd wanted to bang her right away I would be taking more risk. And I've just realized that I don't date enough girls at the moment that I "want" to risk loosing her. So that's my underlying problem. That's also why I get into a scarcity mentality and I don't want to take risks or experiement with text game. And due to not being a risk taker I've actually lost many many girls in the past year who loved me at the initial conversation but never ended up meeting me for the date as it just fizzled out over boring text.
Well you pretty much know the path you must take. Stop "playing it safe", just because your a virgin doesn't you don't have value! Express some god damn value!
Stick to your goals. You can't become superman overnight, but if you read a bit on this forum and maybe watch ones of MW's videos you should be able to get that kiss no doubt. Then grow from there.
Well you pretty much know the path you must take. Stop "playing it safe", just because your a virgin doesn't you don't have value! Express some god damn value!
Stick to your goals. You can't become superman overnight, but if you read a bit on this forum and maybe watch ones of MW's videos you should be able to get that kiss no doubt. Then grow from there.
Hey Meow, I think you are right :)
- See the problem --> I approach shitloads but I don't really go "hardcore" for the close
- Get a plan to solve it --> take action and really push your comfort zone. Focus on closing.
- Execude on the plan. --> The hardest part but the one I can really grow from
@ Manwhore you asked the right questions to make me come up with the answer myself ^^ that's awesome :)
By the way she flaked and called me 20 minutes after the meet up time. Saying she was super sorry and she got sick.
Then she texted: I can't make it any worser.... I'm really really sorry and I hope that we can set up a new meet up for next week. I want to make up for the missed meet-up today. This wouldn't have happened if I wouldn't have felt like shit last night. I can only repeat I'm really sorry about this and I hope you aren't too mad at me.
my possible response: As you were nice on the meet-up, I'll give you a second chance.
To be honest I'm not confident about this answer.
Should I just ignore this text and start new conversation thread or do you have any other Ideas for a reply.
Frame it in a way that shows your dont encourage flakes but your cool wit it as long as she makes it up to you. Your response ain't bad, but fluff it up a bit.
"Yeah it's cool homie. Make a sandwich for me next time and I'll forgive you
get on the next teleconference bro i'm sure everyone will be more than willing to answer any questions you have
Hey Meow,
thanks for your reply ;) I'll be on one of the next calls. Here in Germany the call starts at 2 am in the morning ;)
I've sent her a similar reply in German. :)
Hey Meow,thanks for your reply ;) I'll be on one of the next calls. Here in Germany the call starts at 2 am in the morning ;)
I've sent her a similar reply in German. :)
Awesome bro! try to make it
lol why do you foreign guys have such excellent english? Makes me feel like a piece of shit cuz nobody takes foreign language classes seriously over here