Text Help (No surprise lol)
So 6-8 weeks ago I texted the fuck out of this chick and she was damn to hangout but logistics sucked because I was flying out of town for a while. Well I was a big homo at texting her when I was away. She really fucking wanted me hard and then I communicated gayness through texting and shit and I lost it a bit. So I tried to build that shit back when I got back in town and just want to get your guys thouhgts.
This girl can give me super gay responses.
me: Last night I decided to end my year of borderline sobriety and wow was it worth it, alcohol needs me
her: Lol how was it
me: Really good! So much whiskey! My favorite
her: Yum
me: Ur Lame
Next day
her: Lame?
me: Haha yeah your one word responses. You're better than that Alexis
her: Yah my phone hasn't been attached to me and I've just been busy, my apologies
me: Hahaha see, that was sooo much better! You're a fast learner
her: Yah lol
me: So what are you up to for the rest of the weekend
her: Work tonight and then studying I have 4 exams this week then 3 the next
me: Damnn well surely you'll need a little break sometime in there, you're only human
Next Day
her: I have a break Tuesday
her: I'm heading to (blank) for a couple of hours for this luncheon, my moms receiving a liftime acheivinemnt award for real estate! So that's my break
Next Day
me: That was very dismissive at my gesture at hanging out with you but nonetheless very exciting for you and your mom. Enjoy second semester Alexis!
her: It was an honest response lol not dismissive
I'm probably going to leave it here. Obviously I've been chasing her too hard that I'm losing value. Will maybe just stop. Or wait a few weeks and hit her up again. What would you guys do?
You sound butthurt.
Should've been like, "That's awesome lets celebrate for your mom's award! I'm gonna be at xyz later come on out"
It's hilarious when guys try to call girls out when they can't hang out. What are you accomplishing besides showing her she controls your emotions?
Good feedback.
I just wanted to pull back and show her that I'm not going to chase her around if she's going to be unresponsive. I have other options. When I said enjoy second Semester... The implication was that I have moved on and she doesn't get my fantastic dick.
Dude. What gesture at hanging out? All you did was suggest she'd need a break, or did I miss something?
Ok. I understand what you wanna do but you went about it the wrong way. Much better if you call her and explain that you have certain expectations from girls and people you associate with, even if you are just friends. The problem with texting is she can't determine if it's authentic. It comes off as butthurt every time.
I would reengage in 2-3 days and invite her to tag along to something fun.
Dude. What gesture at hanging out? All you did was suggest she'd need a break, or did I miss something?
Yah that's true. But when I first read it, it was almost like a tease. "I'm have a break tuesday" So I was thinking she wanted to hangout. But then right after she send that other text.
But basically with that previous mesage I was insinuating that we could hangout.
Maybe it was, but she cant risk saying "yeah sure I'd love to hang out" in case she misunderstood the "insinuation". You can't be hinting at hanging out, you've gotta be clear my man. I agree with G, she's got a busy week hit her up in a few days. If she sends something you don't like, avoid reacting, get yourself calmed down and make sure you're looking at it from the right perspective.
So Patrick knowing you I know you weren't actually butthurt, but just experimenting and taking risks, probably partially to do with the fact I bag on your text game (for good reason! Lol) But that's not the right way. When we run drama we MAKE up reasons.You're being entirely too logical with yours and its just coming off..it's kinda hard to explain honestly..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
She sent you one one-word response, and you made a subtle hint at meeting up and she came back with a highly invested text explaining how her mom won an award. That was slightly off. (What would be CRAZY is if this chick all of a sudden came on to you and started sucking your dick the next time she saw you. Boy would that be s learning experience)
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Thanks MW!!!
I have a question about this - When we run drama we make up reasons. Would be great if I could get an example of this.
Oh and I know what you mean about my last text message being off. Wondering how to move on from this or just leave it here for a couple weeks when she finishes all of her exams.
Give me some context from when you met up? I can see why you thought she was being dismissive, but she fully answered your question.. she didn't understand it in terms of hanging out with YOU. I'm not sure how it went in the first convo but this girl def seems to take her tests seriously. She's apparently got s nom that's the same way. What was your vibe with this girl when you met her?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Give me some context from when you met up? I can see why you thought she was being dismissive, but she fully answered your question.. she didn't understand it in terms of hanging out with YOU. I'm not sure how it went in the first convo but this girl def seems to take her tests seriously. She's apparently got s nom that's the same way. What was your vibe with this girl when you met her?
Yo!
I actually got her facebook 2 years ago at a bar that she was working at. Fucked it up. Then a couple months ago decided to hit her up on facebook. We started texting and everything, got her very responsive, we were going to get drinks one night but she just got back to the city and had to raincheck and then I left for LA. So it's just been texting. Barely anything in real life unfortunately so I haven't been able to set the right vibe in person :(