Texting her away from BF
Hello everyone! New one in forum
There's this story about me and a 19 yrs old girl with a 2 -year relationship.
So i meet a girl i was hoping i'd steal from her boyfriend (took her number, texted her a couple weeks later) she seemed responding, probably attracted when she once told me she had broken up with him 10 mins before (they argued and he told her that if she wants it over she should say it, so she does it) .So in the next days i was more freely expressing myself to her (you know, naughty stuff, complimenting etc) i reached a point where my intentions were damn clear to her. so convo brings up her tits and her saying she doesn't have big ones then saying she basically has no tits lol. i responded like "yea i don't fall for this / bullshit others, not me" and "you're not gonna hide em from me :D" so she responds later with a fucked up message of her laughing (not sure if she's expressing an "undercover" satisfaction of me talking of it or just trying to communicate that she's not gonna do something with me). Her following messages were saying that she "forgot to mention" she got back with him 2-3 days ago (in fact later the day when they broke up) and maybe she deeply thinks too that this SUCKS (he later told her that he didn't really mean OVER so it's all good. RETARDED). She wrote a whole page actually ending in "Goood Niiiight" and my whole response to all this shit was " 'night ". Since this took place i'm left wondering what the fuck just happened and how should i act when i see her (and her bf, meh) in about 2 days in a festival. Meaning how to act in high value mannerisms (while i think what she did was retarded but MAYBE i'd do something with her when i can (not sure if it's a good idea tho)). That's the story pretty much, her showing to be attracted to me from the first time, then acting like a kid.
Any helpful replies are welcome
Cheers
Holmes to better ascertain what happened you're going to need to supply the text convo between you two.
Yea you're right. So the important ones start when i'm telling her i didn't do anything for her boss to die lol (she was working all day, when her boss died and we were discussing who would be the employer after his death). By the way all i know at the time is she broke up 2-3 days ago.
She responds:
Girl 17:57 I helped his death tho cool
Me 18:03 Yea you probably hugged him and he suffocated cheeky
Girl 18:23 I don't have that big tits
Girl 18:24 I basically have no tits
Girl 18:24 Haha
Me 18:30 I'm not buying, sell this shit elsewhere, you think you'll manage to hide 'em from me? laugh
Girl 22:57 No, really
Girl 22:57 Haha
Girl 22:57 Hu
Girl 22:57 Hu
Girl 22:57 Hu
Girl 22:57 Heey i didn't tell youuu
Girl 22:58 The next day we "broke up" we got back together {seriously crappy text follows}
Girl 22:59 He basically called me to talk and whe i told him "you've gone too far with it" {something he did that dissappointed her, then being angry at her, not apologizing} "you should have put more thought on your actions" and when i told him "we broke up" he told me "who said we broke up?"
Girl 23:01 He just said that for us to take our time to think and stuff. I told him "i won't take this gay stuff next time" (how much of a badass i am huh) and then just knowww I GOT SO HAPPYYY me acting tough cool
Girl 23:02 Holy shit what was i trying to say, god knows, i'm reading it and can't make any sense xD
Girl 23:40 Gooood Niiight
Me 1:08 'Niight
That was it, we're talking through Viber so the gaps in time are partially offline hours and after my last text i haven't gone online, been thinking of the situation and what my role is gonna be when i meet her in 2 days.
You need to label that better you can't really tell who's saying what at the end there. Your communication and organization skills are clearly lacking
It' pretty clear i'm lacking stuff, indeed... anyway, i edited that mess, hope it's readable now :/
Well I would just disregard and continue on as usual. Ignore boyfriend and just keep talking to her and aiming for the meetup. Focusing on "what happened" is a sure way of making sure nothing happens.
Got it! Thanks a TON man for your attention and patience! Cheers!
Their relationship is obviously on the rocks so just start crafting the meetup over text.. make it casual not like a date. Then just physically and emotionally escalate in person.
Bad thing they're gonna be both her and her bf in the festival lol. But i'll try my best
So? You shouldn't be waiting for circumstances to allow things to happen with a chick. You should be creating your own opportunities with her.
Also you shouldn't be gaming only this girl, you are in a festival, so talk to other girls as well.
Then bring girls to her "set", merge groups, throw less attractive girls and some dudes at the boyfriend (to help distract him), isolate her from him, amp up the escalation.
Beforehand you can make her frame you to her boyfriend as a childhood friendship and that you are married, or a long time no see cousin, or a gay friend. (to help disarm him).
Just some ideas.
To be honest if i wad a festival i wouldnt focus on thid chick at all. There will be thousands of other hot girls
So i'm still in the fest, yesterday i was chatting her, leaving her, repeated. She finally called me to find her cause she was pretty drunk and tired. We talked for a while and she was either bringing up a stoner guy that she kinda likes (says she just likes his style but seems to be turned on by him sometimes), or stories of what guys did in the fest and caused her to reject them cause she's in a relationship. I got tired of her telling me this stuff and i let myself drown in the theory that she's going to reject me too. Not sure if it's worth mentioning but when she asked me to do something i asked her what would she do for me and asked me with a big smile what did i want. The smartass me said i don't know. Yeah i know, i suck. At some point she tells me to go sleep together in her tent. We get there, her bf comes and is telling things to her (they fought a lot lately and he was going to check how she is) she argues that there's nothing going on with me and her and he leaves pissed off. She lies down and asks me to massage her ass cause she hit it in the crowdy concert lol. I do it and she's almost asleep in a while so i start touching her a little more in the face and she smiles so cute. Her friends (group of fatty teens who want her to be with her current bf) come mad at her for the same reason (that i'm in her tent with her) and she argues again with them and they leave. She's gotten bored of them so she asks me to take her to my tent. She wore no shoes so i picked her up and walked. She said a shy thank you. She tells me again that she's in pain and i say "don't worry, i'll give you a massage". She totally forgot i did it earlier! She told me that being in the same tent me and her made her bf suspicious so me massaging her there would be worse. We finally lied on a hammock and i was hugging her as she was sleeping, kissed her on the forehead too when i realised she wasn't comfortable on the hammock. I acted as if i did what i did during my sleep and maybe that's why she didn't say anything about the hugs and stuff. We lied by the river without saying much and i watched her sleep. At some point i had my eyes closed and didn't realize i fell asleep. Minutes later i open my eyes and she was gone. She told me her group of friends left so it was a fast decision and she left too (they live in a village nearby). I got so mad to myself cause i didn't just grab her and do what i wanted to, instead i acted like a pussy. I told her i'll come to her village tomorrow (to fill my car with gas lol) and i'm thinking of going too hard on her doing my thing and if she stops me so be it, she just won't be able to deny that she knows my intentions.
So dude you clearly have no game. Therein lies the issue. Zero leadership abilities, didn't manage shit. She even managed to get you two alone and you STILL couldn't do shit for yourself. Derp
That was brutal to read mate. She had you massaging her ass alone in a tent and you somehow didn't fuck her? Your balls must be blue as fuck right now. Did it cross your mind that you should make a move at some point?
Man she was basicly begging you to fuck her.
All these crossed my mind but when i went to see her today, i told her she had forgotten something and i was about to give it to her. So i thought i just needed a moment to grab her. As we were walking we saw her bf again and she got dissapointed (they didn't talk for a day so that they could discuss stuff - they're still argueing - and that day he saw her with me again). Her girl friend called her and met us, we three chatted for a while. She started thinking what she had forgotten, found one out of "two" things (i basically told her she'd have to find out what else she had forgotten or i'd just give it to her when we got back to the car). Finally i managed to stay alone with her only in the car, leaving her at the bus stop for her work, i gave her what she had actually forgotten and i said something like "and the other one.." and tried to pull her for a kiss. She just froze and all i could get was a cheek. She said something like "Really? That was it?" I said yeah and she said a nervous goodbye as she got out. That's how i totally fucked up. i know all your criticism is right, i acted retarded.
It's basically fears that hold me to be so fucked up. I'm doing better socially when drunk but i lately realised i'm sooo far from getting "unstuck" from my head when sober. Sad