They want to hear a lie
So I was with this girl, I settle with her a bit. Getting to know her.
First night we met it was clear to her who I was. Pur badass. I then told her to meet me in one my favorite club during the week.
That night I proceed to see other girls I've met in the past.
We then fuck etc...
Anyways one night we met in Paris to hang out. She drop to me: "I will never allow my man to see other women than me." Pur shit test. She also drop it dead serious during a pur playfull vibe we share, they have
a tendency to drop it in the moment that catch you off guard.
I stop dead on track.
R: "Do you consider me your man?"
R:"I see other girls than you. I'm polygamist, you know what's up from the start don't try to pretend some nonsense. I never lie to you, I never will. Lying to you mean I'm afraid of you and this will never happen. I fucking like the time
we spend together from all the girls I see you are the only one I allow to share moment like that. I like the way you fuck, the way you cook for me, when we sing. I don't want to force you to do nothing we can stop right now if you are not
willing to accept it."
Steady eye contact. I put some force on it to flip this shit test she drop and show her I don't eat that bullshit.
M:" Well, true but what if my girlfriends discover it?"
Here we go. That is the only reason that they are afraid of commiting with a guy of higher caliber, the look of others, they obey by it. I realize it's more about their place in the social setting than you.
R:"Fuck your girlfriend you don't have to say nothing to them, we are not getting married." Here is my lack of empaty erupting again. This is just stupid, we live in a social setting not like gorilla in the fucking jungle...
M:"Ok listen let's see in the future how it goes."
R:"No you told me right now if you are willing to accept that. Or I leave right now and you can go your way."
Anyways she will then try to drop the "she can see guys too." I say fuck no, if you are my number 1 you don't see no one. She was down for it and we keep going on.
Then I realize that girls in front of guys like us want to be lie. Literally. Truth is too harsh, too raw. Or make it "relatable" as this wacky teacher say. I don't work on myself non-stop to make it relatable to people. So you have to screen fucking hard
if you want long term relationship, most girls just cannot handle glory. But yeah basically girls, from a Higher value place, want to be lie.
haha I actually just watched something very similar from Julien (old school Julien that is)
Very hardcore how you handled this and defintely not possible without a rock solid frame, crazy stuff man
Finding a girl that will stand for your version of stubborn monkey is easy. What else you got going on?
Compliance like this makes them more into you because then they have to furthermore self-rationalize why they're with you. When their girlfriends give them shit about you they have to rationalize to them, defend and justify why they're with you so they get a lot of practice mentally going through why you're great. It's counter-intuitive on the surface but this is one reason why girls love assholes.
Principle of psychological investment, we value what we invest in more.
What shock me is that girls basically telegraph to me that they prefer to hear a lie. Straight up crazy. My buddie got the same issue his girl was like "Listen I know when we were not together you were seeing other girls but I just don't
want to hear about it. Don't say it to me." Etc.. stuff like that.
For the rock solid frame I don't know however for me to accept a "relationship" I had to force myself to go for it. It was highly due to MW highlighting my harshness.
sounds like you handled it well
This is one of those situations where you got a blind kid who can only see through a small peephole in his blindfold.. "sees" that girls prefer lies, thinks that's the whole thing. It's the parable about the elephant.. 3 blind dudes growing it giving it handjobs, one feels the trunk thinks it's MW's dick, other feels body thinks it's Rael's mom, other feels tail thinks it's Rael's dick.
Of course not., you and your fucking elephant, "But yeah basically girls, from a Higher value place, want to be lie." indeed it read stupid. It's more that in my situation girl prefer to not know the truth.