Threesome with my girlfriend, help me develop this completely

Alright guys, my girlfriend is into having threesomes and exhibitionism stuff, I need help developing the dynamic further as things aren’t going as smooth as I’d like them to. I’m going to lay out a few interactions that occurred and give a brief critique of how I could have done better, then you guys can ask some questions and we can dive deeper.

Interaction #1: On NYE I show up to a big party with my girlfriend, one of the first people she meets is a friend of mine that I fucked a few times. Later in the night, the friend tells me that my girlfriend is hot and that she didn’t know that I was seeing someone. I go off and talk to some people on my own, I come back and find the friend and my girlfriend talking. They then start making out, and I jump in. Everyone laughs and we go have some drinks. We all hangout together and they make out again, now the friend has another friend that starts making out with them too. Everyone is very drunk, I jump in and make out with all three of them. This doesn’t last more than a minute, and everyone laughs it off again and parties more. Somehow, the friend of my friend (makeout girl #3) leaves the area. There are around 50 people downstairs so I tell my girlfriend and the friend we are going upstairs.

I lead them upstairs and we go into a bedroom. I start making out with both of them and take my dick out, my girl sucks on it for a bit. My friend’s brother comes in and I tell him to get out, though it was his room. I guess I was a bit harsh with him, I had too much to drink. He leaves and I take my girls pants off and push her on the bed, the friend is taking her pants off too. She ends up going down on my girlfriend. I’m taken back by this for a second but they both enjoy it. I have my girl suck my dick some more. The Friend starts saying she wants to see me fuck my girl, but I’m not ready yet. First time I was having issues getting it up in a while. I wasn’t comfortable with the experience yet and felt a bit passive having the friend somewhat calling the shots more than me, also the booze didn’t help. I relax and tell them to both get on their knees and suck my dick. I’m feeling more grounded and I let them suck it for a minute or so before we get interrupted again, this time it’s my friend’s father! Someone comes in and pushes him away, he tells him he will take care of it to help me out. We try to move into another room but it’s off limits.

My critique of this scenario is that there wasn’t enough leading on my part, therefore I wasn’t in my personal power to handle the situation correctly. First off, I should have been nonchalant about being in that kids’ room and he probably would have gone out of his way to keep the door closed for me, he is 17-18 I’m sure he would have understood. Being a dick was a result of my surface discomfort. Furthermore, I wasn’t verbally assertive enough, I wasn’t shaping the situation well enough. In a perfect world, I would have had the girls doing what I wanted from the beginning, or at the very least found myself in a situation where I could have been fucking my girl a lot quicker. I had this overall sense like I was fumbling around. The friend told me she has had a few threesomes before and she definitely was more helpful than hurtful, that being said I did need to put myself in a more authoritative role. I picked it up at the end by having them suck my dick together, but logistically fucked myself from the beginning. Even though this threesome was botched, my girlfriend did tell me that she really enjoyed it and was thankful and proud she was a part of it as she expressed some fears earlier about incorporating another girl. I thanked my friend for taking care of my girlfriend because she truly was a sweetheart and made her feel comfortable. Later that I night, I sent the friend a video of me and my girl fucking at my house and we ended up getting invited to the friend’s place (or where she was staying) but we were so drunk from NYE festivities that me and my girl passed out. So yeah, less alcohol is needed! My girl and the friend are casual over social media but the friend was banging another friend of mine recently so that’s off limits. Now he had a threesome with her and make out girl #3 from earlier, damn!

Interaction #2: I invited my girl to party at the school I attend and she decided to bring a friend along, this was a few days after NYE so the concept of a threesome was fresh in my mind. They show up and they both look really sexy. I walk them over to the dorm rooms where we are partying and introduce them to everyone. My girl’s friend is quite the socialite and carries herself very well, she definitely gets more attention than my girl.  The three of us chat for a while and her friend is very engaging towards me. I am overtly sexual with the both of them. We start talking about tattoos and my girl shows off hers, as they haven’t actually seen each other in over a year. The friend then looks at us and pulls her jeans down to expose a tattoo right under her bikini line. She catches a few looks. Somebody is passing around a fake gun filled with vodka, I shoot vodka shots in both of their mouths, then go to shoot it in another girl’s mouth and get it into her eye!! My girl and her friend need to pee so I walk them into the restroom. They go in the big stall together and giggle, I can see my girl bending down so I reach under the stall and slap her ass.

After the bathroom, I then lead them into a friend’s dorm that’s empty as he’s down the hall (I don’t dorm there anymore so I don’t have a room) We drink and listen to music, they are both sitting on the bed and my girl notices how I am looking at them. I move over towards my girl and start making out with her, but she’s not extremely receptive. Immediately, the friend says she wants to see my girl suck my dick. I come onto my girl again but she’s just not in the state I want her to be in, the whole situation is a bit fuzzy but I’m saying something along the lines of “Baby she wants to see you suck my cock, that’d be so fucking sexy.” I’m not really being all that fun or building a narrative between all of us. The situation is not appropriate to take my dick away so I back off. The friend comes up to me when I’m playing music and asks if she can see a video of me fucking my girl. I say something along the lines of,” oh you told her about are videos huh?” but my girl is still being somewhat strange. I’m about to show the video to this girl and realize that my girl is feeling left out and she doesn’t feel like my priority, so I tell the friend “yeah I don’t know about the videos, I barely know you these are special…you don’t exactly deserve em’ yet.” My friend then walks into his dorm and tells us that we are leaving to go out soon makes us leave so he can lock the door.

We head back to the party and shoot the shit. My girls friend gives me a titty twister at one point and my default response is to do it back. My girl playfully tells me I can’t be doing that but it clearly is not much of an issue. We head out to the parties and me and my girl dance all night, she  lightens up when it’s just the two of us. My girls friend is trying to dance with other guys and then periodically tries to dance on my dick, but it’s somewhat obnoxious. I get the feeling that she likes attention and my girl isn’t very close to her. This could be a big rationalization though. The girls dance for a bit at one point and they make out briefly, I do not think I did anything as I assumed the threesome thing wasn’t happening, which is retarded. We wrap up the night and they Uber home because I’m sleeping on someone’s couch, I try to head home with the girls but they are staying at the friend’s parents house.

I think my biggest fuck up of this night was that I didn’t show my girl enough attention in the beginning and she didn’t feel that she was a priority, which would have made a threesome stressful for her. The next day she was talking about how she knew I wanted to fuck her friend, she wasn’t judging me but she was implying that she wanted more attention. I also could have been more fun overall! I wasn’t doing a good enough job building a bubble between the three of us, that is why her friend trying to find other guys to dance with.

Interaction #3: This wasn’t much of anything, but me and my girl started talking very crude and sexual in front of her friend (different friend from above) and made some jokes about wanted to see her twerk. This girl accused us of trying to get her into a threesome and somewhat just shut down from any sex talk for the rest of the night. I really was unsure in this scenario because she was acting freaked out for real. I made some jokes about her having a dirty mind trying to make her out to wanting a threesome, which could have been true. She never really relaxed much though.

Current Game plan: My girl and I talk about threesomes pretty often and Incorporate it into sex dirty talk. She talks about how she wants to suck my dick with another girl and then have her watch us fuck. She also says that she couldn’t stand to watch me fuck the other girl and that she wants the other girl to be sad that I’m not fucking her, so she is working in a territorial angle. I probably could have side stepped this from the beginning if I had handled interaction #1 correctly, but I am fine going along with this for now. I think I can spin it at some point and fuck the other girl, even if it doesn’t happen the first time. I need to make sure my girl knows she is a priority and that the other girl is purely for fun.

My girl never talks about threesome with her friends, and If I bring these friends up she shuts it down. However, she does like this girl she met at a party we were at. Somehow, I never met her myself, but she told my girl she is a bisexual. She is a friend of a friend and I’ve been trying to get all of us at the same party again but no success yet. I’ve been thinking about DM’ing her on Instagram but my girl thinks that’d be weird and she is not comfortable messaging her. Clearly, we need to meet new girls together and go from there, or I need to get her to bring over more of her friends and try that in a more ninja fashion. We get a lot of attention when we go out together I just need to lock down my ability to make this happen.

Also, I’ve been dabbling with tinder but I’m somewhat clueless, I’ve been telling them that my girl thinks they’re sexy and trying to build the dynamic from the beginning but no luck there.

I’m moving out in a few weeks with very cool roomies so I will have the perfect logistics to make this happen very soon!

If anyone has questions ask away, I know it's a lot of moving parts :P