Tinder 30 YR old cutie
Hi guys this is one of my convos. As of yet, I’m obviously not advanced enough to contribute ‘original’ texting material to this forum. A lot of my texts are taken/ slightly reformulated from the advanced guys on here.
I’ve also never been on a date with a 30 yr old. 26 was the oldest I’ve dated. Do I just treat her like I would any other girl? Any age-specific advice would be nice… if there are any.
Main Lessons Learned:
1. Like MW says, call girls ‘beb, pumpkin, boo, muffinbutt, sugarbutt, babyo’ no matter what. Lol. JUST DO IT. Even if she’s older. I think this is great because it puts YOU in the right frame of mind when texting (as ‘big brother’ ‘man to woman’ ‘caring for a little girl’ ). I’m positive girls like being called names like this… but it’s less about how much they like it, as it is about setting up the right dynamic between the two of you. You portray that you’re the kind of guy that calls girls by these names… which is usually a guy that is comfortable/caring/empathetic and high value… with girls. Just doing this enough in texting has made me do this in real life… and it goes down super well – not explicitly but I know they like it.
2. Again like most of you do already, You CAN text her a whole bunch of stuff in ONE GO. Like a FAT block of text where you go on and on, or multiple little texts that stack up to a big message. Of course you wouldn’t do this in response to every text she sends. But doing this once in a while when required means she gets to experience more of you (there’s just more of your chat) – which if you can show the right vibe – can have double the effect of short snappy texts. And momentum. And it means she feels warranted to give you a long block of text – which means you get to find out more about her, you have more threads to pick up on, and finally – more investment. Same idea can be applied I think to super short texts that can be just as powerful. Like ‘Mhm ;) ‘ or ‘I’d like that’ . Depends obviously on the context but I think a good rule of thumb might be…. The more she’s invested… the more you can get away with short-ass texts … but don’t take my word on this Im not sure haha.
Me: I’m deeply in love with your superficial appearance (think this is Todd’s?)
Her: Thank you! Superficially, I’m pretty good (thumbs up emoji and another weird emoji)
Her: So tell me something about yourself that I’d never guess from your profile
Me: I’m successful, witty and attractive, with an excellent physique. And I make amazing sushi
Me: But I guess you could tell that from my profile :b
Me: What about you pumpkn
Her: Oh word, you make your own sushi? That’s impressive
Her: Ok, so I make maybe the best guacamole you’ll ever try
Me: Gawd I love guacamole
Me: Your tinder stock just shot up
Me: Yeah I make my own… You learn to wash rice for 3 years lol
Me: How’s your day been
(another reason this machine gun texting is good is cos it gives her the chance to pick up on any of the 4 messages sent. If she wanted to reply, she has 4 different things she can respond to - making it easier for her to text back.)
Her: (Crying laughter emoji x2) My day’s been good, very chill. I’m doing a lil refurbishment, painting my bathroom rn
Her: Hows your day been?
Me: Oh nice are you an interior designer
Me: I need to refurbish my room asap, maybe you can help… And I can make sammiches
Me: It’s been good, just got back from the gym and doing some reading J
Me: Some lady outside tesco said I’m “bootylicious” so I guess the day is not bad
(all these blocks of texts are sent within seconds of each other)
Her: I mean I’m gonna need to see a booty pic now…
Her: Nah, I’m not an interior designer but I kind of love to paint?
Her: And I would help you refurbish, but those sandwiches would need, like, at least 4 different fillings
Her: So, what are you reading?
Me: Uhh excuse me! I don’t put out ;) sick of being used for my body… It’s not right (MW line like a lot of them above. I use this a lot. Saying I’m a student and then a part time stripper/ ass model when girls ask what I do… and then say I’m leaving that line of work behind because ‘im sick of being used… etc. Works super well in my exp.)
Me: I’ll fill it with anything you like beb
Me: I like Russian literature, Dostoevsky – have you heard of him!
Her: (crying laughter emoji x2)
Her: Yeah I ‘ve read crime and punishment, I like Tolstoy too, but me and Chekhov are *not cool*
Me: Oh shit you’re cool
Me: Let’s take this off the crazy world of tinder
Me: Enter phone number for romance engagement ;)
Her: Yeah, you seem really cool too!
Her: Ok my number is XXXXXXX
Shit that was longer than I thought. All of this texting happened in 30 mins. And then moved on to phone. (I can put up the phone convo too) She’s down to hang out next weekend… only because I have finals lol so abstinence till Saturday L
Cool man. Keep us updated I'll have some feedback for you after the fact.
Cool bro, I definitely learned from this.
So what happened with this. Everything seemed to be on an even keel from what I remember, nothing glaringly wrong. Did it work out?
This one flaked. I think it's because I left it too long to reply to her... and didn't set up logistics quickly enough for her to think it was a real thing. But it could have been a number of reasons...
Recovery? How'd it end..
This one is pretty much dead. I texted her to set up logistics the night before the date. Then nothing. Called her. Texted her bunch of times. Nothing. Unmatched on Tinder.
Be like, "I love shitheads. Thanks"