Tinder chick meets me at bar with roomate
Hey fellas, back from hiatus. Good to see ya all.
So this chick from thinder asks me to meet her near he place in park slope brooklyn. Its far from where I live. like 40 mins or so. She tells me later her roomate was going to be there. Well I said what the hell see where this leads. I get there we start chatting. I talk to them as well as others at the bar. Everything goes great.
We start talking about Sean Penn and I made a comment about I don't understand how people get offended about him joking with his friend at the oscars(look it up if you dont know what I mean but its not important). The roomate gets offended. She is African-american. She says that that is a racist comment. We get into a whole argument about it. Finally my chick says OKOKOK everyone quiet down. Both sides are right and blablabla....well it goes awkward from there, you can kinda cut the air with a knife.
Roommate goes to BR and we start talking shes genuenly interested in me, what I do etc. Roomie comes back, and its all weird air again. So bar closes, I ask if they want to go somewhere they say we have to pee. They go to BR to pee, prolly to talk it over. They come out, I"m chatting with another chick outside. They say they are going home. I say cool, bye. My girl asks if I have a car and can give em a lift. Sure. She yells the roomie back we start walking to the car. The roomie changes her mind and does not want to go. they flag a taxi. my chick says lets be in touch.
She was totally interested and down, but roomie had weird vibe from the start actually now that I think of it. They apparantely met anothe dude the night before off tinder. I say you guys always double team tinde? My chick says its dangerous etc. Anyhow she was totally down. I think I was too passive, not lead the convo enough allowed them to talk about nothing, and nonsense.
What could have I done differently? As I was arguing with the roomie I was thinking I dont give a shit if I dont get laid, I'm not going to not say what I feel. (My whole day was like that, I think I woke up with aggrevation for no reason. Whatever.) I'm ok with the result, but what can I learn or take a way from the experience. Also should I hit hir up again?
I actually talked about this pretty exhaustively in an old podcast. You don't want to be "argumentative" you want to speak with CONVICTION. And YOU need to be the one to lead the emotional frame, if her roommate gets pissed off you need to set everything down in a nice place, wihle still maintaining control. It's good you stood up for what you believed it, and the girl respected you for it, but if you'd lead more effectively obviously it wouldn't have ended the way it did. I'd hit this girl up and not even bring up the other girl. Make plans that do NOT involve this other chick, lol. FYI I've had girls bring other peeps with them and we've sorta gotten into it but rather than getting pissed off they sit there listening spellbound. I can TALK. Remember that
Thanks man. Hit her up but got nothing back. Oh well.
What'd you hit her up with?
She is an actress and told me this story that she was supposed to go to a footwear commercial and ended up being one guy wanting to shoot with his iphone to jerk off to at home. So I said actress needed for footwear commercial or something along those lines. I kinda wanted to say something about what happened but since you said not to I left it be.