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Joined: 10/22/2013

I joined Tinder a couple weekends ago, get a mutual match. After some texting on the app, I get her number. She's a 8/10, she's 27 I'm 32. I'm currently dating(sex) a few other girls all of them range from 5-7/10.

Back to the date. She tells me she's up for drinks and that she's free Wednesday or sometime next week(this was last week). We agreed to meet up wednesday around 8:30. She seemed happy to meet me, even told me she was impressed when I told her what I do for a living. One thing that sucked tho, the bar was full so we had to sit at a table facing each other which I hate to do on first dates. So I'm basically stuck facing her for a couple hours trying not to come off as a chode. I thought the date went well but it could've gone better. We had a few things in common, I tried to tease her etc, but there were times when I wanted to touch her but couldn't.  We had a few drinks, date lasted for a couple hours as well had appetizers as well. when we walked out I asked if she'd like a ride home, she tells me its up to me, so I tell her I'm giving her a ride home. Once we get to her place a few blocks away, she tells me she had a good time and we should hangout again, she turns to hug me, we hug. Then she turns to get out the car I say "wait", she turns back around and I kiss her, we kiss twice no tongue. She smiles and says, "talk to you later".

During the date she tells me that her mom and aunt we staying  at her place over the weekend and she planned to take them to a comedy show. 

So we went out last wednesday, there's no contact between us until last night at 8pm when I text her "how was the comedy show?" She has not responded. Was this too long to waitto contact her? A couple times when I texted her/messaged her on tinder she didn't respond until the next day fwiw. She has a early work schedule, up on a train by 5:30am.

Also when we were figuring when we would meet up, she said "wednesday or next week" it turns out she's going out of town this weekend... so I guess its fair to assume she's seeing other guys this week before going out of town.

Is this a lost cause at this point? If she doesn't respond to my text should I try sending something unrelated in a couple days just to get her to respond to me?

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Joined: 01/18/2012
Ok so you waited about 5 days

Ok so you waited about 5 days before texting her again? Yeah that's a really long time to wait.

To reengage all you'll need to do is call and leave a nice smooth voicemail, something non-needy, just talking about something that happened during your busy week, then tell her you'll talk to her later. Don't ask her to call you back in any way. 

Having to sit across from her on your date was not good, correct, but you can still work around it. It seems like you didn't have a dynamic enough date set up.. meaning you just sat on your ass with someone for two hours then that was it. That's a poor choice for a date

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Thanks for the reply. I've

Thanks for the reply. I've pretty much written this one off but I guess there isn't anything to lose. Just one question you think calling her, and leaving a voicemail is better than texting her with an reengangement text like one that I've seen you post  like "I think I'm pregnant with your child"?

During the date I told her I'm into fashion, well I'm going to a fashion show/charity event tonight, I guess I could call her up saturday or sunday and mention something cool(or make up something) about it. Maybe even "Hey went to an awesome fashion over the weekend at xxx, saw some cool dresses that you'd look great in, talk to you later" She's out of town at a business conference this weekend.

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Joined: 01/18/2012
Like I said, call and leave a

Like I said, call and leave a voicemail. Does your phone game blow? Just leave a message about your day, tell her you've got to take off to a fashion show, mention nothing about her calling you back or you guys possibly meeting up.. then hang up. 

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