Tinder: French girl gets confused
Hey guys, pretty new here, altough I've been checking out the forum for a while... I find it extremly valuable, and have already learned a lot about social interactions. Thank you for everyone contributing to the forum, especially manwhore of course.
I made some big mistakes here, which I can see now and just want to make sure I understand correctly what is going on.
Previously had a quite good conversation about us going on a date with our grandparents and stuff, but couldn't make it happen. so I had this all yesterday evening:
I hope you had some haloween fun with them
Well, not really. This zombi was a really bad idea
Haha I bet. Let's leave this crazy world of tinder. What's your number (thanks PB for this line...)
Haha. that's true. It's a crazy world.
But I still don't understand. What are you doing/looking for here (She hasn't asked it before, so not sure she says 'still'...
I still haven't figured out how to answer this question well, I think they need reassurance that I don't just want fuck and run, but also 'not the I want to get married guy'??)
Just a partner to rob an ice«zream van. And I can only hope that I Can have a Chilled conversation With her over a glass of
the finest Wine with her (It doesn't really make sense to me looking back: I mixed 2 things together instead of sticking to one... also the 'can only hope' and saying 2x with her - are just plain weak)
Well... its probably because of my deplorable English but this explanation is not particularly clear.. The only this I can say is: ice cream is life, and I don't like wine
Then we should stick to ice cream. Friday, 8pm (she wants some comfort, report I guess? and I try to force a meetup, also even lowering the bar (wine) so just she meets up with me - I guess it comes across very needy.... Also, does not make sense to put time to it at this point to me...)
It's so difficult for me to have this kind of sad conversation, specially in english. You disappoint me. I thought you were more interesting than most of the people here (I have no idea how to come out of that, and I understand her, it started better...)
My possible answer:
I understand you. English is also my 2nd lang. I just tried to be funny, I guess it came across a bit weird...
But hey! don't turn this conv. into a sad one ma chérie, although not drinking wine as a French girl is kinda sad haha
then I would build a bit of raport, and go for number/meetup again
What do you guys think? I appriciate your inputs.
Hold on you planned a date with her and your grandparents? Geezez. That's probably what killed the romance homey
lol it was just role playing... probably not the best one though
what do you guys think about my comments?
Go ahead and post it up for me I want to see it. :D
So finally found some time to do this. I hope someone gives a bit of feedback :)
Okay You WOn
You're OffÉially qualified to have a date With
Oh, a date ? lt could be nice.
But with who ?
With my grandpa
You will love him
Perfect.I always liked mature men
Daddy issues, h uh?
Cool. let's meet up at *****
With my grandpa, Of course
Do you want me to bring my grandma ?
I don't want you to be too lonely
lt would be so nice Of you. I hope she isn't a troublemaker 'ike you
Well. sorry, but she taught rne everything
She must be a kick-ass granny_ COOI, I always wanted to date someone who has grey hair I want her on evening, hope she's available then
I feel so bad You're go nna disapointed, agein, She is as blond as me
No way' I'm already falling out love... can she make pancakes at least?
Well. no. But She has the most beautifull smile I ever seen and her green beens are amazmg
then it died down shortly after this and I hit her up with the halloween stuff.
That's actually pretty legit. I semi-lol'd.
Your problem is you're pushing logistics way too hard. And you went for the date before getting the phone number then started rotating back and forth between the two. You're pushing too hard need to prize yourself more and qualify her.
yeah, I figured already out I pushed too hard on logistics... I wouldn't mind getting her to say yes on tinder and then getting the number tbh. Lost quite a few interactions on the transition to phone actually. Probably they weren't that good, but still.
"You're pushing too hard need to prize yourself more and qualify her. " - that is great, thank you! Unfortunately, it doesn't come naturally for me, have to improve my convos on that.