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Tinder Hottie Text, Could Definetly Use Some advice

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Alright fellas, I recently got a tinder match from a hotty in my option and I id like your advice Manwhore and Friends.. I think I may be coming on to strong and definetly chasing.. 

Any advice is Greatly Appreciated. 

her tinder profile said something like.. "Just looking for someone to lay next to and look at our phones" 

Me Did you see the grand budapest? I think watching that together would be superior to looking at our phones ; 10:22 satuday

Her I haven't yet, but I love Wes Anderson 10:23 saturday

Me 2 things. Do you have a laptop? And do you mind watching films on it without paying? 10:25 saturday

Me In other words,  If your free in the next week or so lets get coffee and watch some wes anderson :) 10:53 satuday

Her Yeah sure :) 10:55 saturday 

Me What is thine number miss kelsey? 10:57 saturday

Me Id rather get off the tinder app :) 11:00 saturday 

Me (XXXXXXXXXX) . Im getting tindered out lady.. Text me if you want to do some Wes and hold hands 11:55 sunday 

Me Do I need to track you down and force you to eat popcorn with me? Wait... Are you a robot? 4:38 monday

Her You solved it, I'm a robot. It couldn't be that you're really pushy.4:54 monday

Her A piece of friendly advice: The more forceful you are about hanging out and getting my number, the less likely I am to want to ever meet you. I'm sure I speak for a lot of women in saying that. 4:55 monday

Me Wait a minute, a robot couldn't of come up with that sort of critical breakdown in my texts! You almost fooled me.. :-)  5:03 monday 
                                            (I tried to shift geers here and not adress her acusation) 

After taking a look at it I was obviously chasing. Id like to take a step back and see if I can salvage. 

 

 

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You are the prize

I think you messed up by joking in a moment where it was not a good time to joke. I am real with females in these situations where they become a bit overwhelmed by your directness and put up a shield by trying to call you pushy or whatever they do. They feel it and it feels like too much, but anyways.  I would go with:

Listen, my straightforward and directness can throw some people off at times, but do not take it the wrong way. I am actually a really good guy. You just got me all excited by mentioning Wes Anderson so shame on you for that. 

The key to making this type of grounding text work, in my experience, is staying emotionally detached, regardless of her answer. If she responds, positively or negatively, stay chill and do not come back all into her and being emotional in any way about her. Give her 0 emotions about her and just keep your focus on how you feel, stay cool and fun, and give her the opportunity to feel and get into you some more.  

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Ace up the sleeve

I am curious what the experts on here have to say about this. They always got an ace up their sleeve. Some of the text dudes come up with on here make me LOL my ass off,

JaJa :D

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You'd like to take a step

You'd like to take a step back and see if you can salvage, eh. Must be nice. 

You broke one of the sacred 19 rules of text game you went for the meetup like 17 times in a row. Cardinal sin, lol. At this point I'd go the "nice guy" route Story is espousing and see if you can salvage anything that way. 

 

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Ya bro she literally told you

Ya bro she literally told you what to do. Idk if its worth effort to salvage but I'd be like:

"Ya you are totally right. I am just so bad with girls and I have no game. I feel like Chanum Tating except uglier. Thanks" Lol 

Honestly I would not try to be so gung ho and just try to have a conversation. Pretend whatever girl on tinder you are talking to lives in North Madagasgar, and just be chill. Trust me.

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Damn I did Break that

Damn I did Break that cardinal sin.. I honestly didnt know what to do to get a response, will practice being more chill and detached.

lookes like the verdict is in. thanks. Ill keep it updated.

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