Tinder Screening Suggestions?
So for the last several months I've been super busy with work and school/studying that I haven't been going out to nightclubs almost at all - however - I have been using tinder/similar apps like crazy - and got to a point where I can setup up more dates with attractive chicks than I can handle - could confidently set one up every night of the week if I'm working it in advance. Some of this is attributable to taking some good ideas from Jeffy's "The Program" - mainly sharpening up your photos, automating opens and subsequent 2nd/3rd messages, etc simply to a) to present/market yourself as best as possible - and b) to help you work more volume that you'd likely otherwise be discouraged from doing (sheer time saving)/physical disabled from doing after doing it long/hard enough.
My question for you guys who are successful at this: how do you go about screening for girls who have more DTF personalities?
Again, I can setup many dates - however, the downside to it is I can tend to waste a lot of time and $ (even if only a couple hours a night and $20-30). It's hard to estimate a close rate - but I wouldn't say it's that high. Perhaps from first dates, it's been somewhere around %30? I'd say it would be higher had I excluded the last little bit of dating I've done (was going on so many I was kind of getting tired/bored of going on so many dates and it really affected my "in the moment performance").
I would like to point out - I am aware of some tweaks I can be making in person to help my game there - I am not quite reaching my full potential yet, however I am aware of where I am falling short and I am working on making those adjustments (i.e. making a move on every chick IN the bar, trying to pull EVERY time, etc. Basically being VERY consistent so as to push things as far as I can, knowing I did all I could).
Regardless, I can't help but think there's got to be a better way of doing this.. Jeffy for i.e. quickly mentions in his program his "do you smoke/drink/tattoo" screen - but I don't exactly find that to be very effective at screening.. what if its just a tattoo of her recently deceased mother/cat? And basically almost no one DOESN'T drink. You get my point.. hah
I think what I'll be trying out next is screening out those who are open to the idea of meeting me at my place off the bat. Might sound crazy to some, but I've definitely had girls meet me at my place for the first time (and unsurprisingly, virtually always leads to sex). I'm sure there's a clever way for me to automate this process and apply it across the large volume of girlies I encounter - only time will tell if it's successful!
Probably one of the better quality "problems" to have - however even if I weren't so busy these days, I'd be a little reluctant to go on TONS of dates to simply work the "numbers game" part of things..perhaps this is where going out balances things out...
Thought I'd ask the rest of you guys if you had any experience with this. I’m positive there isn’t a bulletproof way to know for sure with every girl whether she’s down or not – but surely there’s a better way of being more effective at screening.
Usually, you screen on Tinder just the way you'd do it in real life
Flirt and be sexual, and just see how much she reciprocates. If she's biting on a lot of your sexual compliance tests, then that's obviously a good sign
Also, try throwing out sexual disqualifiers when you have enough investment from her and see if she reacts to them
I found a really great article on testing for sexual compliance in texting.
Check it out here: http://www.thegarethjones.com/mpua-text-flirting-sexual-compliance-leads-to-sexting/
Know what made my text game the best? Getting out of the military being broke and having a pos car lol. It forced me to develop text game good enough to woo girls over to my house on the first date lmao. Had to do it for months at a time sometimes, during any sort of internet marketing or entrepreneurial downturn lol. That's where I developed really emotional styles of texting.
That being said any girl going on a date with you is available to get fucked. 30% is fucking awful lol. Your physical escalation must be atrocious. Your verbal skills were quite good, but are you keeping everything on that super man to woman level? If you don't/aren't you will sabotage your dates. I'm tellin' you man that's exactly where it's at. Sure I can give you some texting tips for taking things more sexual, screening a bit better or even priming her for sex, but could you really even think for a second that they could ever compare to what you're supposed to be doing with her IN PERSON on a fucking date? Lol.
Lol fucking gareth. Complete douche. But yes decent article. I'll have to write up something on it.
Thanks Cyber - pretty cool article ! Will toy around with some of the ideas in there ! always appreciate the input dude.
MW - appreciate the comments man. For some reason I had a feeling you'd stress what you did - that the in person part of things are WAY more crucial than the screening part of things.. ;)
I already know where I am falling short in that respect, thankfully. Definitely need to amp up the physical part of things - I've gotten it done from just verbals with virtually no physicality, but as you're now aware, it's very inconsistent..
Follow-Up Question: Do you recommend regularly trying to (intelligently) see if she's open to coming over to my place FIRST, before then planning to meet her for a date in a public place (if she's not open to coming to my house first)? Should I avoid entirely trying to invite her to my place first?
I can see how different methods will push away certain girls and hone in on more "sexually open" ones, yet at the same time, I could be hooking up with a lot of girls who don't want to come to my place off the bat, yet are interested in sexual relations.. I suppose theres a fine balance in there among all this.
Your thoughts appreciated as always.
Have I sent you any of the text game book chapters?
Nope ! Do any cover this topic ?
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