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 "Sorry I don't go on tinder often" This is a very common response I get on tinder. I am wondering how ya'll handle it.

Me: I am a Mariah Carey back up singer
Me: jokes on you
Her: oh shit can I have your autogrpah
Me: if you wine and dine me with ice cream yes
Her: Depends on what kind of ice cream
Me: I like cookies n cream
Me: with sprinkles
Me: or jimmys as some weirdos call them
Her: ok ok I can deal with that but im a big gelato fan
Me: hmmm Ive never had gelato but im not opposed to it
Me: As long as you promise its delicious
Her: oh def...your mind will be blown
Me: wow I really need to try this stuff
Me: where are yu taking me to get some
Her: havent thought about it yet..maybe to Italy
Me: italy! haha
Me: your trying to kidnap me
Her: I thought I was being sly but you caught me
Me: I hope you planned this out well
Me: because I may let you do it :)
Her: then its easier for the both of us
Me: well whats your # so we can make sure this voluntary abduction goes as planned :)
Me: dont just ignore me, say somthing loser :)
Her: Sorry I dont go on tinder often
Me: yeah this app is whacky
Me: whats your # so we can take this off the crazy world of tinder

First off, feel free to critique the text game, I give myself a solid B. I need to be more direct when it comes to making things happen though. I think my messaging comes across as half-assed and/or that im unsure about myself. Next, how do you guys handle the "sorry I dont go on tinder often" text? Does it mean she wants to take things off text, or does she need more teasing before you ask for the number again?

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This isn't bad at all. She

This isn't bad at all. She doesn't need more teasing, she needs more investment into you and trust. Teasing is the opposite, its push.

"And are you kidding? Girl..! You're missing out on a ton of free shit"

"My niche is the fat chicks. They give me aaaanything :P. P.S. What's the male equivalent of gold digger?"

^Those would be good sent together in separate msgs but also include something in a seperate msg after those two letting her know that YOU don't think SHE is a fat chick cause in this convo you did get her to buy you gelato lol.

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Daddyjihad1 wrote: This isn't

Daddyjihad1 wrote:
This isn't bad at all. She doesn't need more teasing, she needs more investment into you and trust. Teasing is the opposite, its push.

"And are you kidding? Girl..! You're missing out on a ton of free shit"

"My niche is the fat chicks. They give me aaaanything :P. P.S. What's the male equivalent of gold digger?"

^Those would be good sent together in separate msgs but also include something in a seperate msg after those two letting her know that YOU don't think SHE is a fat chick cause in this convo you did get her to buy you gelato lol.

Those texts are sexy man, thanks!

Investment and trust is where I struggle the most. I'm either teasing a lot or end up coming across as chody when I want to show endearment. It would be great if you posted some more examples of this to the forums because you are very good at it! The examples you just came up with are fantastic, yet, I do not fully understand whats going on if I'm going to be honest. From what I comprehend, the goal is to engage with more detail and invest a bit more into the conversation.The investment texts are too long winded to be used early in an interaction where a "you and me" vibe is not yet established.

Daddyjihad1 (not verified)
When your girl said "Sorry

When your girl said "Sorry I'm not on tinder alot" she's implicitly saying, I'm not comfortable enough yet to give you my #. That's where I'm seeing you need more trust and investment built into this convo. Where you went wrong was you completely blew past her concern and pushed the # on her further. That's only gonna make her more adversarial to you. With the txts I just sent you: You answer her concern by projecting YOUR reality onto her in a playful way, ignore the fact that you want her # so badly lol (which puts her at ease), and ask her a silly question simultaneously to get her to come back into the convo.

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Daddyjihad1 wrote: When your

Daddyjihad1 wrote:
When your girl said "Sorry I'm not on tinder alot" she's implicitly saying, I'm not comfortable enough yet to give you my #. That's where I'm seeing you need more trust and investment built into this convo. Where you went wrong was you completely blew past her concern and pushed the # on her further. That's only gonna make her more adversarial to you. With the txts I just sent you: You answer her concern by projecting YOUR reality onto her in a playful way, ignore the fact that you want her # so badly lol (which puts her at ease), and ask her a silly question simultaneously to get her to come back into the convo.

Boom, great way of putting it, that makes sense now.