Is there a way you can portray yourself as too cocky to the point where you can't play it off while you game women? I get this a lot from girls but I often treat it as a shit test. I usually agree and amplify this accusation. I find I come across with a big ego. It seems to work for me most of the time but it also makes some girls hesitant. Usually the lesser hot girls get hesitant or the super hot ones bite and want to play a game.
Over the past few years I've been told it's better to come in strong as the guy who seems like a player and flip that role than it is to come in as a provider type male and switch to the player type role.
I would like to eventually shrink the ego and have a more laid back, "who's that guy", sort of vibe. Unless this is counter-productive to gaming the hotter girls. Where would you guys aim to make improvements that would steer me in that direction? I feel like I'm slowly adopting that vibe but it's taking it's time and I'm sort of going in blind.
Been watching Todd's infield videos lately. He's not overly arrogant/high risk game and his game seems pretty tight. He has a very good understanding of game on a technical aspect which he breaks down pretty well, trigger attraction without unecessary risk, which is what I think you're asking about.
Grappler what are your regular interactions like? Is everything a constant "move" for you conversationally?
I kind of meant that Closing, it's pretty interesting to me. Any recommendations on the vids to watch for that? Or maybe if you got notes that would be sick.
Conversation wise and just sets in general, everything just flows naturally for me. I just do it. I never think about what to say in set or during an approach or even when shooting the shit. It just comes out and usually works really well. Often fun and playful sets, it turns into a bit of a play fight or just jokes. There are times where it's just super sexual. I just try to take the vibe/current mood I'm in and run with that.
I just remember being told this stuff about having a big ego/cocky/etc. I just played it off and kept going.
I find the only time I overthink and get into my head about my "moves" is during texts. Not very common for it to happen in person. Even the physical escalation and kino is now starting to become just so natural and instinctual for me.
There are times though that when gaming super attractive girls things get a lot more challenging in terms of making the set "flow". Especially when they give you the "I don't care attitude", but being around these girls constantly in the nightclub scene day after day, I'm getting used to it and understanding it better.