This is a tough shit test
Mon, 04/15/2013 - 06:05
Went to a friends house today for a little party, two younger chicks, and four older chicks (all with boyfriends), and a few dudes. As I planned, I made a solid effort to build friendships with the older chicks. Normally I just give the girls that are taken the cold shoulder, not wanting to build too much comfort just in case I want to game them in the future. It felt good to let my guard down, I could be myself and I used the older chicks to game the younger ones. I was funny and centered. I even noticed that when I started to talk to some dude who normally appears to be a pretty alpha guy, there was an unspoken but mutual acceptance of each other. It was a battle of dominance, it was just alpha to alpha talk. Back to the women, I had a good time with the two younger girls. I picked one of the girls up and held her in my arms ( forget why exactly) and her eyes just fuckin lit up. One of the older chicks kept on throwing all these shit tests at me. We've made out a few times over the past few years, but I never handled it well. Now this chick is dating someone, so I'm trying to befriend her...she's a perfect high value friend to have. Anyways she kept on like challenging my sexuality. She would look at her friends, then dance up on me or blatantly make some sort of sexual action towards me...other times she would try to stay away from me (I could just tell she was up to something, testing me). Now this is weird because she's dating someone, and she's too high value to just throw herself at people like that. It was almost like she was mocking me, as if she was saying " you want me, but you can't have me" or "you wont do anything". I just stayed centered, and made it seem as if she didn't phase me sexually, that she couldn't turn me on. A part of me wanted to just grab her and dominate her, but she's dating someone and the logicsticals were awful for getting her alone.
Well thats way too much writing, I dont even want to read it again
sparknotes: Chick challenges my sexuality, throws herself out there too simply mock me since she's already with someone. I was just trying to establish a friendship
Well thats way too much writing, I dont even want to read it again
sparknotes: Chick challenges my sexuality, throws herself out there too simply mock me since she's already with someone. I was just trying to establish a friendship
Tue, 04/16/2013 - 17:18
#1
thank for all the help
thank for all the help fuckers bump
Tue, 04/16/2013 - 21:03
#2
I would just tell her you
I would just tell her you used to poop your pants all the way up to the seventh grade. That should fix it she wont "challenge your sexuality" anymore
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Tue, 04/16/2013 - 21:04
#3
Buddha what do you think.
Buddha what do you think.
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Tue, 04/16/2013 - 21:52
#4
lolwut
Okay, so there's a
lolwut
Okay, so there's a lot going on here homy- and a lot of areas that you're making mistakes that you don't even recognize it- that lead to you being in this, kinda weird, situation.
So first of all- you "tried" to make friends with the "alpha group"- classic "High Schooler mistake" so don't feel bad- it's normal for someone your age but the sad thing is that as you get older, people still do this lolz
1. You're trying to make friends with that alpha group
1a. They are older than you and trust me they will sniff that shit from a mile away
1b. You assuredly came across "try-hard"- then to top it off, you were lifting up the younger girls etc. so you came across oddly confident but then mixed in with your "try-hard" attempt to make friends with the older kids, you basically gave off a vibe of incongruence- aka: Someone who isn't sure of their place in the world... so naturally, that girl wanted to test you it's like, "If this guy thinks he's the shit, then let's see how he handles this"
How would I handle this type of situation? Where there is a distinct difference in two groups of people, in terms of value, at the same party?
-I would act the same to ALL OF THEM... what does this mean?
-It means that I would treat the younger girls in the same exact way I was treating the older girls. I would treat the "beta" guys in the same way that I would treat the "alpha" guys
-It means that I would be so involved in my own movie, that whether or not I was around either group, I'd be doing my own thing and having a blast. In fact, I would go so far as to probably, at some point, combine the two groups and, just through being who I am, effectively destroy any "dividing line" that exists
-Now, naturally, this tends to result in me being automatically accepted into the "alpha" group- but it's not a result of "trying" it's a result of TRULY having that "mutual respect"- the alpha group understands that I'm not trying to be in their little clit (If no group already exists- than the natural result is that I am the leader of the newly formed "alpha" group)
-Mutual respect arises from being so involved in your own fun and your own experience, that others around you recognize that you're not doing your shit from them.
Okay, so that's just some general "Social Dynamics" shit- and again, I don't EVER consciously think about that stuff when I'm out- but upon REFLECTION, I am able to dissect what it is that I did and break it down, so over time, I become increasingly potent as I internalzie the stuff that worked and weed out the shit that doesn't work.
As for your specific question:
It depends- but one way I could see this being handled would be to start dancing back but go even one more step over the top and make a joke out of HER.
If she's dancing on you- grab a prop and start shoving it up/near her pussy but whi;e doing this you HAVE to make a ridiculous face and OVERLY EXAGGERATE your physical movements and then calibrate with laughter during/after
Then after you're done dancing- I'd go up to her and be like, "That was hot- I didn't know you played that game"- ugh, idk man something like that.
SO yeah:
1. you could go more over the top and make a joke out of her
2. Make a weirded out face and look back at her friends and be like, "Is she always like this?"- but more in your facial expressions than anything else
3. Or you could always just take her shit seriously and just escalate and see where it goes and if it's going bad- just laugh and be like, "You know I love this- but you sure your boyfriend is cool with it?"
This girl just crushed your frame - I mean, she crushed it so hard that even in this post you write about her having more value than you - this is some fucked up shit man.
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Okay, so there's a lot going on here homy- and a lot of areas that you're making mistakes that you don't even recognize it- that lead to you being in this, kinda weird, situation.
So first of all- you "tried" to make friends with the "alpha group"- classic "High Schooler mistake" so don't feel bad- it's normal for someone your age but the sad thing is that as you get older, people still do this lolz
1. You're trying to make friends with that alpha group
1a. They are older than you and trust me they will sniff that shit from a mile away
1b. You assuredly came across "try-hard"- then to top it off, you were lifting up the younger girls etc. so you came across oddly confident but then mixed in with your "try-hard" attempt to make friends with the older kids, you basically gave off a vibe of incongruence- aka: Someone who isn't sure of their place in the world... so naturally, that girl wanted to test you it's like, "If this guy thinks he's the shit, then let's see how he handles this"
How would I handle this type of situation? Where there is a distinct difference in two groups of people, in terms of value, at the same party?
-I would act the same to ALL OF THEM... what does this mean?
-It means that I would treat the younger girls in the same exact way I was treating the older girls. I would treat the "beta" guys in the same way that I would treat the "alpha" guys
-It means that I would be so involved in my own movie, that whether or not I was around either group, I'd be doing my own thing and having a blast. In fact, I would go so far as to probably, at some point, combine the two groups and, just through being who I am, effectively destroy any "dividing line" that exists
-Now, naturally, this tends to result in me being automatically accepted into the "alpha" group- but it's not a result of "trying" it's a result of TRULY having that "mutual respect"- the alpha group understands that I'm not trying to be in their little clit (If no group already exists- than the natural result is that I am the leader of the newly formed "alpha" group)
-Mutual respect arises from being so involved in your own fun and your own experience, that others around you recognize that you're not doing your shit from them.
Okay, so that's just some general "Social Dynamics" shit- and again, I don't EVER consciously think about that stuff when I'm out- but upon REFLECTION, I am able to dissect what it is that I did and break it down, so over time, I become increasingly potent as I internalzie the stuff that worked and weed out the shit that doesn't work.
As for your specific question:
It depends- but one way I could see this being handled would be to start dancing back but go even one more step over the top and make a joke out of HER.
If she's dancing on you- grab a prop and start shoving it up/near her pussy but whi;e doing this you HAVE to make a ridiculous face and OVERLY EXAGGERATE your physical movements and then calibrate with laughter during/after
Then after you're done dancing- I'd go up to her and be like, "That was hot- I didn't know you played that game"- ugh, idk man something like that.
SO yeah:
1. you could go more over the top and make a joke out of her
2. Make a weirded out face and look back at her friends and be like, "Is she always like this?"- but more in your facial expressions than anything else
3. Or you could always just take her shit seriously and just escalate and see where it goes and if it's going bad- just laugh and be like, "You know I love this- but you sure your boyfriend is cool with it?"
This girl just crushed your frame - I mean, she crushed it so hard that even in this post you write about her having more value than you - this is some fucked up shit man.
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Tue, 04/16/2013 - 21:53
#5
Manwhore wrote:I would just
Manwhore wrote:
I would just tell her you used to poop your pants all the way up to the seventh grade. That should fix it she wont "challenge your sexuality" anymore
hahaha or do this.. actually scratch everything I said
Do this
Wed, 04/17/2013 - 00:43
#6
hahahaha thank you bro, but I
hahahaha thank you bro, but I think you read into it too much. I was just kinda curious about the whole situation, not as concerned as I came across. I've always been tight with the older kids.
Honestly yes, she fucking squashed my frame. Me and this chick have been frame battling since the day we met. She is just so high value, and I've never gave her the attention that everyone else gives. I'm not phased from this whole situation, she's hot and I know that she wants it, wether she is doing it in mocking fashion or not. I just really didn't understand her motives at all, until I found " frame battling" now I get it.
thank you tho brother
Honestly yes, she fucking squashed my frame. Me and this chick have been frame battling since the day we met. She is just so high value, and I've never gave her the attention that everyone else gives. I'm not phased from this whole situation, she's hot and I know that she wants it, wether she is doing it in mocking fashion or not. I just really didn't understand her motives at all, until I found " frame battling" now I get it.
thank you tho brother
Wed, 04/17/2013 - 00:47
#7
Glad you were able to take
Glad you were able to take something out of it.
Honestly though, bud- you're in highschool- I wouldn't start concerning yourself with "frames" just yet - that shit can get weird, real quick lol
Honestly though, bud- you're in highschool- I wouldn't start concerning yourself with "frames" just yet - that shit can get weird, real quick lol
Wed, 04/17/2013 - 04:41
#8
Yeah man, I'm trying to stay
Yeah man, I'm trying to stay basic right now...The most important thing to me is developing inner stillness and self love, I'm super super high anxiety and I need to address that. I'm out of this world high anxiety to the point where I get stomach aches and pelvic pain, but I'll describe that another time.
Wed, 04/17/2013 - 04:41
#9
Yeah man, I'm trying to stay
Yeah man, I'm trying to stay basic right now...The most important thing to me is developing inner stillness and self love, I'm super super high anxiety and I need to address that. I'm out of this world high anxiety to the point where I get stomach aches and pelvic pain, but I'll describe that another time.