the true role of a man
I learned a lot from a childhood friend of mine i reconnected with the other night. although not a complete "mack", he lives like a man. like a beast. whose focus remains on the primal needs for family and real world achievements.
this was a new experience to someone like me who has been in his head for so much of his life, anxious of the future, unwilling to embrace people and life thinking that i can do it "alone". although this was a bigger problem for me years ago i am still not very interested in real world achievements. as long as i can live comfortably i feel ok.
he served as a great reminder to me about what it is to be a man. some crucial elements of what it means to take on your true role.
a man shuns all of societies teachings and lives from his heart. he lives on the land. the stars are his roof, the ground is his home. the earth is his shelter. he is able to drop all attachments and go with the flow of life and the moment. if for some reason you have a day without food. don't complain. if you have to sleep in a cornfield one night while lost. do it happily. know your limits but don't get kushy or attached to material things.
A man is not afraid of getting in trouble, a man acts as he does and doesnt feel the need to apologize for his behaviour unless he acts in error then he is the first to admit it. he organizes his own preferences regardless of others.
you are a human male, an alpha upon alphas (regardless of your personality type) you are extrememly powerful. think of a lion, a tiger, a magnificent alpha seal with those huge tusks. they symbolize the masculine power. women sense my friends power (and often dislike him or even tell him he's gross) but they know what they came into contact with.
A mans power is not in his thought but in his ability to love physically and emotionally.
A man knows his history, his roots, his family origin and understands it, a man knows all about the area in which he lives, he feels past the surface of what people tell him into the heart of whats going on. he leads knowing that everything always works out for the best.
a man knows about his role in the family, (which number child he was and what that means for him, what his job is within the family structure.
a man knows his cultural origin and the customs theirin, he can conform to them exactly as much as he wishes to do so while respecting them. a man is not a fundamentalist, he understands that every person performs a different function and has his own outlook, a man is compassionate to everyones needs but doesnt neglect his own.
a man is not afraid of getting violent to protect others or himself if necessary but knows when to stop, and knows the difference between danger and ego defensiveness.
a man is practical, logistical, and orientated towards the growth of wealth and resources. (not materialistic attachments or items that "define" him) he does this to take care of those around him. he aims to give back to the community so never rips off anyone or is disrespectful.
a man can put himself in the shoes of another, imagine their struggles, their pain, their fears and act accordingly. he knows all is well so he doesnt trip out about other peoples fears but takes time to understand them.
a man has an understanding of death. this is a challenging one. he must be capable or preparing the dead in his family for ceremonial rights (even if he has a mortician do the deed) he needs to be comfortable in his own skin knowing that the body is just a shell once it is not alive and you need not be afraid to deal with it. it's real, its loving, its a mans job.
you dont have to be "fearless" around death although its completely possible. you have to be cogniscant of the reality of it.
you dont have to put up a front to your woman/children or the people in your life. youre are the center of their world. their crux. if youre out of allignment then everyone is out of allignment.
you must guide children women and friends to the best of your ability if they are willing and part of your life. you are the loving center.
you should engage in all common human traditions:
ancestor acknowledgement (these people are responsible for you being alive and have influenced your psyche. correct or honor accordingly
rights of passage (the hawaiians right of passage is a ten day solo kayak trip from Hawaii to Tahiti. think about how confident and hopeful you would feel about life knowing you conquered that right of passage)
family activity...if you have one . (we're a generation devoid of culture so fill in where you can. culture is crucial. its human. its how we interpret our place in the cosmos.)
smoking tabbacco, smoking weed or drinking a beer (if its your thing) in the right way acknowledging that people have used it for millenia for enrichment purposes.
getting into hot and or cold water for rejuvination and relaxation, skin clearing, mind clearing purposes. as a way to connect back with yourslef.
owning an animal (if its your thing)
putting family first (in the sense that your main purpose is to create value and love for your society)
clothes are also very important for a man. do not follow fashion trends just to follow them and be hip. take some of the common culture trends advice, for example where the rightly fit of clothing. but you want your clothing to be unrestrictive, comfortable. walking around the scenes i see that other men are uncomfortable physically and not aware of it. i do this all the time. wearing black when i know my color i want to wear for emitting my greatest love is green.
so this brings me to the insight i had which is the following. it was a very beautiful insight for me and powerful and freeing, some of these statements may seem off or weird and thats because they are.
"the earth is round" was the cutting edge thing to say back in the day. now its common knowledge. now we know that human observation can change the structure of an electron with is the fundamental building block of the universe. this is the new statement that is life shifting and wont catch on for another 10-100 years. metaphysical reality is extremely real. and women sense it intuitively. they feel everything you do, every move you make, every thought you have is somehow read by them. they want to see if you are the man im describing. because he is visible from a mile away.
A man is like a constant in the world he creates for himself, that includes his family, friends and work. His job is to be bring love into his world at which he is the center. A simple job. The man is the sun in which his community revolves around. His life should reflect his passions and interests. his work involves giving back to the community. He is able to create a vortex of love based, life affirming, truth bearing, decision making, and ignorance correcting attitudse that pulls women, children, and relatives closer like surrounding planets
GAWD-DAMN. This didn't seem "off" or "weird" at all to me. It was spot on.
For me this was a "role" that I had fought tooth and nail to not step into. Manwhore mentioned something about "angel wings" one time, and I didn't completely understand it. I'm fortunate enough to have a friend as well with "the angel wings." He's a former circus clown/criminal defense attorney and I buy him lunch every now and then just to be around him. I had the fortune to be able to watch him in action defending someone accused of smuggling marajuana in a trailer. He was cross-examining the PO...
PO: ...The K9 unit was sniffing the trailer and alerted me to the presence of an illegal substance-
Mark: ...Did you sniff it too?
The whole courtroom laughs, even the judge. But what was crazy (and shocked me) was Mark was DEADLY serious. You could see his "angel wings." (as weird as that sounds) The prosecution objected, and Mark defended it saying that the dog was not there to testify, but was welcome to. HAHA. He won the case. The man is a master. What's crazy is he's so unnassuming and humble, if he fucks up he's like, "I'm sorry, I made a mistake. I'm just a clown trying to practice law."
He's an amazing man, great friend to me, and an example for men. And that's our duty to each other.
thats awesome ^ yeah another thing men need is other men to teach them and be open to learning from other men.
i'd be interested to hear what manwhore said about angel wings, if you read this MW....let me know. that sounds powerful.
...I doubt he remembers it. It was just something said in passing that made me go "HM. That's an interesting thing to say.." ...Sounds kind of odd, I know, but when you see it. It's "masculine presence," I guess.
Ahh said.. git some, nigguh.